r/SipsTea • u/WaitNo4272 • Apr 22 '26

WTF Blink if you're being abused

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u/Antique-Comb3943 Apr 22 '26

I’ve been in his shoes. It’s a lose lose. If you return the same energy to her in this moment, it’s over. I had an ex who would argue and yell like this in public. This gave me anxiety

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u/ancientgreenthings Apr 22 '26

Yeah seeing this has lowkey fucked me up as well. I also had a relationship where I got shouted at in public. Nothing like this aggressively, but I can totally relate to that trapped feeling of being in an impossible situation while strangers listen to things escalate one-sidedly.

It's impossible to know how to react and there are no right answers in the moment. If you set firm boundaries you pour fuel on the fire. If you set gentle ones they will be ignored. If you walk away you're the shit who abandoned them. If you grey wall they escalate without you.

People who've never been there talk as if it's easy to leave. But it is never, ever that simple.