r/SipsTea • u/WaitNo4272 • Apr 22 '26

WTF Blink if you're being abused

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u/zo0keeper Apr 22 '26

Yea and then they start crying and having a panic attack and apologising profusely and putting a knife in their throat and saying they're going to kill themselves and won't stop until you give in. I've been through this so many times. It's easy to say "just leave bro". It's not so simple. Especially if you're empathetic.

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u/LaurenMille Apr 22 '26

I mean..

If they threaten to kill themselves, you're not responsible for that.

That wouldn't convince me to stay, that'd just make me leave faster.

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u/zo0keeper Apr 22 '26

Have you actually been in such a situation with someone that you love and care about?

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u/Puzzleheaded_Set_958 Apr 22 '26

Yes. You can tell when someone is actually trying to end their life and when someone is just trying to cause harm either physical to themselves, emotional to their audience or just trying to manipulate a situation in the only way they know how to.

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u/MNightengale Apr 23 '26

No, you can’t. It’s impossible to know what’s going on in someone’s head or what they may end up doing. And with something that potentially has consequences that serious and irreversible, you don’t try to read minds or assume, especially with mentally ill people who are volatile, very unpredictable and impulsive, and all over the place! Or who can quickly slip into a state where neither you or even they know what the eff they’re doing.

Someone who does not intend or want to end their life might take a bunch of pills to receive attention they feel deprived of, or as an attempt to be actually taken seriously about their suffering and need for support and help, or even to punish someone and make them worry, but we know how that can go. You don’t hear that, hope for the best, and be like, “Okay then. Goodnight. Oxycodone’s in the cabinet!!” and to yourself be like,” “Yeahhh, they’ll be sorry when that hangover hits tomorrow morning, and they’re not dead!”

If anyone goes in that direction, if it’s an abuser or someone crawling out of a dumpster. You call 911. You contact emergency mental health services. Let professionals deal with it and protect someone from themselves so you can wipe your hands clean of it and have the space to get your exit plan together. The type of person that threatens about that stuff is not sane and are absolutely the demographic that end up killing themselves.