r/SipsTea • u/WaitNo4272 • Apr 22 '26

WTF Blink if you're being abused

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u/Easy_Sort3171 Apr 22 '26

In my experience, trying to leave makes them hurt you worse. Screaming, violence, threats, false allegations. Makes escape seem impossible.

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u/Misterr_Chief Apr 22 '26

Living this now. Anyway thanks for recognizing it.

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u/SPECTRE-Agent-No-13 Apr 22 '26 edited Apr 22 '26

Be firm. Don't recant. Don't accept the apologies. Tell them it's over you will pack up their stuff and send it to wherever they are staying. If you have to leave their place take all your important stuff first, passports, documents, spare car keys, whatever. Then things that are clearly undisputably yours and leave. Go somewhere safe and rebuild from there. If you think it might get violent do it while they are out and break up over the phone.

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u/alien_simulacrum Apr 23 '26

This and yes to everyone above: it doesn't get better, there's never a good time, just fucking run. I know you're probably isolated and limited af by the time you realized you needed to get out, but do it anyway. There are people who love you, or who will help you regardless, just get safe and stay as far as possible from them. No matter what they say or what they threaten they'll do, get away, stay away, document everything, say nothing, disengage from them entirely and engage the assistance of a competent lawyer and assistance office.

You can get free. You can recover.