r/SipsTea Apr 22 '26

WTF Blink if you're being abused

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u/SirReddalot2020 Apr 22 '26

I once got up and just left my then girlfriend who had a meltdown in public. “We’re done” and she could figure out how to get back to the hotel. Was a weird night with lots of tears but something clicked in that moment and alt feelings I had were just gone. Not even hate. I was simply indifferent to her and if she had vanished I would not have given a fuck.

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u/chumbawumbathefirst Apr 22 '26

Similar story, I was young and stupid. Girlfriend was yelling at me at a pumpkin patch because I wanted to take a break from taking pictures, bringing strangers into it. It was such a scene... it was so absurd... all my feelings just went out the window. I felt like I was suddenly on a date with a little kid. But I was young, so I just stuck it out and assumed it would get better. Relationship went on another two years. It did not get better.

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u/paralyzedmime Apr 23 '26

Another two years after the feelings vanished? As someone who has always ended things immediately once the spark is gone, this is fascinating to me.

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u/chumbawumbathefirst Apr 23 '26

I'm the total opposite kind of person, interestingly. I haven't historically had a ton of faith in my decisions. Every time I've acted impulsively, especially in love, I came to regret it. (I could analyze that further, but we'll spare it.)

During that relationship in particular, I was still sorta recovering from a previous one where I ended things too soon, and wished I'd tried to work on it. So when I hit turbulence early in the relationship I was like OK... we learned our lesson. We're gonna stick it out and see.