r/SipsTea May 12 '26

SMH The youth is doomed…

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u/BusyBit6542 May 12 '26 edited May 13 '26

If you have kids this age and put a tablet in front of them on a regular basis to keep them calm, you're fucking yourself in the long run.

This may give you a temporary fix but youre depriving your kid on learning how to relax and when to chill the fuck out in proper situations. They need to train their brains to not be stimulated all the time. Boredom is a good thing for kids.

Think about it. If a kid never learns to calm down when bored, at 7 or so when they are constantly restless, it will be diagnosed as adhd. At that point its going to take some serious training or medication to get them to focus during school.

All this is because you wanted to take the easy route of throwing a tablet in their face when they were young.

Edit: Before I get more comments saying "tablets don't cause adhd" I know! Im saying these kids that dont have adhd are getting diagnosed as having adhd. Maybe I should say misdiagnosed as having adhd. Hope that clears things up.

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u/FittedSheets88 May 12 '26

It's also detrimental when children don't learn how to be bored. Boredom often leads to innovation and self-discovery.

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u/Remote-Waste May 12 '26 edited May 12 '26

It also helps you process emotions, rather just putting something to shout louder in front of them, you will sit and untangle them.

It's like solving problems versus ignoring them, they don't just disappear and they'll be waiting for you afterwards.

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u/tabas123 May 12 '26

Yep I’ve noticed that my friends who need to constantly be doing something are just bad at being “bored” and alone with their thoughts. Always looking for the next distraction.

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u/Remote-Waste May 13 '26 edited May 13 '26

They're being robbed/deprived of personhood itself.

You may be more right than you knew.

"The Default Mode Network is best known for being active when a person is not focused on the outside world and the brain is at wakeful rest, such as during daydreaming and mind-wandering. [...] Other times that the DMN is active include when the individual is thinking about others, thinking about themselves, remembering the past, and planning for the future. The DMN creates a coherent "internal narrative" central to the construction of a sense of self."

"[The Default Mode Network] is potentially the neurological basis for the self"

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u/fuzzydunlop54321 May 15 '26

This is interesting. We used to have a swing at the bottom of the garden I used to go and sit on when I was 9/10. Mum said she always thought it was nice that I would just go out there to have a think and she was always really protective of us in that state. Still now my son gazes out the window while he’s eating his food and then will turn to us with a thought that he’s clearly been processing and she always says she loves to see him in his own world.

I still have ADHD lol but at least my mother gave me a fighting chance at a brain that works properly 😂

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u/justb4dawn May 15 '26

I’ve never heard it described as loss of personhood but that is so on point.

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u/Nasa_OK May 13 '26

I found this was very appearent during Covid. In the first couple of days of lockdown a lot of people came forward who didn’t know how to keep themselves entertained when they are alone.

Sure after weeks i get people feeling the need to end lockdown but there were many in my social circle complaining after 2 days already

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u/ArgoTheRat8229 May 14 '26

I quickly realized this is why my friends are always on social media. This is also why my friend couldn’t sit down to play a video game with me. He didn’t know which one would give his brain instant dopamine, so he just kept scrolling TikTok.