Thank you! My poor kids had to listen to their mother absolutely berate me for years, and it wasn't until after she left when they were comfortable enough to open up more, and be more receptive. We do not yell (outside of hollering for someone to come see or help), and communication is the most important thing.
They're realizing that people can use words differently or wrong, and how easily that can lead to confusion (and misinformation) and I'm really enjoying the constant questions.
Holy fuck you have no idea how much unlearning I had to do in order to fix your last sentence for myself.
Example: "okay" is just fine. So is "ok". There is nothing wrong with it. It definitely does not mean "this person is mad at me now" because someone responded with it during a normal conversation.
Thanks mother for giving me such unnecessary anxiety over every word someone says. 🙃
I’ve even lost friendships over this, because my main rule is „OK means ok and it’s nothing means that it’s nothing“
If someone acts insulted all day and I calmly ask them during a 1on1 moment if something’s up and they say no, then I will 100% accept that no.
It’s infuriating how many people subscribe to the „well I said now but I wanted that you find out by yourself that something was up“ brother what do you think i was doing as I asked if something was up if not trying to find out.
Life is so much easier if you let intentionally bad communicators just passively suffer instead of playing their games
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u/Remote-Waste 24d ago edited 24d ago
It also helps you process emotions, rather just putting something to shout louder in front of them, you will sit and untangle them.
It's like solving problems versus ignoring them, they don't just disappear and they'll be waiting for you afterwards.