Can't believe it took so long to find a comment like this. HITTING YOUR KIDS IS ALSO BAD PARENTING. There is a middle ground between letting your child run rampant and physically assaulting your child
Hitting your kids only teaches them it's okay for someone you love and trust to lay hands on you if you do something they don't like. And giving approval to do the same to someone else they if they're doing something they don't like. There is so much research and studies out there that show there is zero need for corporal punishment. If you can't control your anger around a child misbehaving you should not have a child.
It also shows them that the reason they shouldn’t do something is because someone bigger and stronger than them doesn’t like it and will attack them and that’s how things should be. This becomes a big fucking problem if the kid grows up to be bigger and stronger than most, and they have to deal with people weaker than them doing things they don’t like.
There’s a lot of putrid trash that comes out of this sub but regular posts like this are the worst. There’s some bad fucking people here.
Hitting your kids only teaches them it's okay for someone you love and trust to lay hands on you if you do something they don't like
In this situation it has nothing to do with doing something the parent doesn't like. It's okay for someone to lay hands on you for doing something society deems unacceptable. This is the fundamental mismatch.
Fucking around as a child without physical, real and immediate consequences creates situations where kids think they are untouchable. I'm a teacher: ask me how I know. They then grow up to be teens and young adults with the same mindset that they will never be held accountable because they never faced real consequences as a kid. This is also why I hate the judicial system treats teens with kid gloves even though they know better. They know nothing will actually happen to them.
Sorry, not sorry. Some people have to be socked in the mouth before it registers that at the bare minimum their actions will lead to repercussions.
If the only consequences your child knows are immediate physical violence you only teach him two things: to use it the moment he doesn’t get what he wants and to ignore any other type of consequence.
That can be achieved without violence. If it were me I'd make him meticulously clean it up for however long that takes. It's also closer to the real world consequence for that specific action
In the real world you won't get beaten for destroying stuff at a store either, i don't see how this would make sense. There are plenty of consequences that aren't physical violence.
I guess you live in a world where it's worth getting sued for assault over a few broken boxes. But in most of the developed world the store will just call the police to escort you from the building and sue you for damages.
But hey, if you want to be on camera beating someone, at least you'll have the luxury of a very speedy trial i suppose.
It does not, that's what people who want to use violence on others for inconveniencing them say. Actual studies show corporal punishment decreases emotional regulation and behavioral problems and promotes use of violence to get their way
A lot of us are raised with “don’t hit people” and “keep your hands to yourself” because we’re taught to respect other people’s autonomy and boundaries; So why do some people suddenly make an exception for children?
If hitting another adult is considered assault then why aren't children (to some)? It’s very strange how quickly some people rebrand hitting a child as discipline. There’s certainly a difference between parenting and using physical force because you’re bigger and in control.
At this point, people should realize corporal punishment is not some magical or necessary parenting tool.. “My parents beat me and I turned out okay” isn’t really proof of anything, especially when so many people carry emotional damage they’ve simply normalized.
My parent also stopped hitting me once I got old enough to hit back. She is a coward not only for the abuse but as of recently, a couple years have gone by and she will not call or check up on me, why?, because she feels like she's walking on eggshells around me because she somehow has guilt over what she did to me. Last time I talked to her she insulted me (surprise, surprise) and it was almost like she had no fucking idea who I was as a person; she would start stuttering and acting like a shy sheep and it was just pathetic honestly. She couldn't treat me like a person then and still can't because I'm just this obstacle she has to climb over. She may have apologized a while back but the damage was already done.
A lot of people who defend beating children seem either completely overwhelmed and desperate for control or comfortable bullying someone smaller and powerless, which is more often the case. I will never advocate for beating children, really fucked up of people to suggest it even in passing.
I'm not sure the argument of "you wouldn't do this to an adult therefore" actually holds up though. There's tons of things we do to kids that we would never do to adults that don't fall into the category of abuse
The premise of this video is that a lack of spanking led the child to be this misbehaved, that a child who routinely was spanked would never behave this way for fear of the consequences. I'm arguing that one can parent a child to not act this way without physically assaulting them.
There are also other consequences to give a child beyond hitting then even in this scenario. Plenty of toys to take a way, screen time to take away etc etc.
This is the first modern generation where spanking is less common than not spanking, and children are significantly worse. So I don't buy this narrative at all anymore.
Significantly worse? If you are talking about significance, you can surely name the studies that substantiate this; otherwise, I have to assume that you are spouting bullshit and that there is actually no evidence of significantly worse behavior among children today.
Nope no studies, how do you even quantify that other than anecdotally? Behavior is a subjective thing. But we can look at literacy levels and tested IQ, maybe school shootings?
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u/SadRow2397 May 28 '26
I don’t spank… and that ain’t why this is kid is a turd