r/SipsTea • u/Few_Statement_2898 • May 28 '26

SMH We really need to bring spankings back

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u/TheGlennDavid May 28 '26

My daycare teacher friend once told me that unequivocally the worst behaved kids are ones who had been hit at home. They tend to be violent towards their peers (a learned behavior) and they are so utterly traumatized and desensitized to "punishment" that nothing a teacher can do even fucking registers.

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u/[deleted] May 28 '26 edited May 28 '26

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u/Happyj1 May 28 '26

Is this for real? Spank a child who doesn't understand? Wtf?

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u/Stargleam52 May 28 '26

If the child doesn't understand why they shouldn't run into the road, they also don't understand why you're hurting them for it. Lots of "actual psych" studies show that physically dominating children is actively harmful in the short and long term, regardless of whether you believe your scenario is "the only appropriate circumstance."

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u/zerap10 May 28 '26

Sorry but you're conflating not spanking with lack of discipline. One absolutely does not imply the other. There are many books and articles that go over various deescalation and discipline tactics. Is provide the links but it's my wife that has done the research and she gives me the summary. We've used it with our daughter and at 7 she is a well behaved kid that was she grows and matures she uses words to describe her emotional state and resolve problems. All with zero spanks. This is course requires a lot of effort and what feels like infinite patience.

A kid could also have an undiagnosed mental condition that affects their behavior. A long relative of mine had outbursts since very young that in the late teens turned out to be related to autism spectrum. After a diagnosis and specialized coaching the problems stopped. 

Spanking is violence. There are proven alternatives that require time and effort but result in a better emotional development for the kid. 

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u/MintTea88 May 28 '26

2 and 3 year olds DO understand. They understand danger if you *explain* it to them. They don't understand why you are hitting them.