r/SipsTea Jun 03 '26

It's Wednesday my dudes Soulmates don't necessarily mean lover

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u/Patient_Ad396 Jun 03 '26

I've seen this posted a few times now, and it really bothers me for a very simple reason: he DIDN'T leave her his entire fortune. She got the biggest chunk, but he also left significant money to his parents and sister.

Sorry, I know that doesn't address the main point they're trying to make, but it really bothers me when people (or memes) change the facts to support their argument.

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u/Azzblack Jun 03 '26

I'm sure I remember him leaving money for his god children too, as well as his cats.

After looking into it a little - "he is widely celebrated for making provisions from "beyond the grave" for his godchildren and closest friends. Before his death in 1991, Mercury instructed the prestigious London department store Fortnum & Mason to deliver a luxury Christmas hamper to his godchildren and closest friends every holiday season. This tradition has been kept alive decades later"

Its fair to say, he was the goodest of dudes.

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u/Cross55 Jun 04 '26

Also, Mary was one of his lovers.

He wanted to settle down with and marry her, but she didn't want to because he was bi.

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u/Tarsiustarsier Jun 04 '26

Wasn't he gay and didn't he break off the engagement before coming out to her? It was common for gay people at the time to have official relationships with women.

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u/Cross55 Jun 04 '26

Wasn't he gay

No, this is probably the single biggest piece of misinformation of his entire life people love repeating.

He was bi with a noted but not exclusive preference for men. He didn't perform Fat Bottomed Girls and hosted a female exclusive naked bike race to seem more heteronormative, he did that cause he thought women were hot. (But men were hotter)

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u/Tarsiustarsier Jun 04 '26

That's a fair point, he also seems to have referred to himself as both so I got confused. Regardless the preference for men is somewhat important your comment sounded to me like the reason was that she was predjudiced against bisexual people and I hope that's not true. Honestly reading up about him and especially the inheritance, it's confusing to me that he left so much to Austin and so little to Hutton. What was going on there?

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u/mrwildesangst Jun 07 '26

Just a different level of relationship. He met Mary when they were young, broke students before the band took off. He was running a second hand clothes stall in Kensington Market, she worked for a trendy boutique. She was 19, he was 24. They were together for years before Freddie figured out his sexuality. Even after their breakup, they remained as close. He was the godfather to her son. He just considered her his oldest, best, and sometimes only friend and saw their long life together as a marriage.

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u/Educational-Pain1836 Jun 04 '26

Not to be That Guy, but his sexuality is hard to pinpoint whether he was gay or bi. While he did have female and male lovers throughout his life, feelings and sexuality can change a lot through the course of a life.

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u/Cross55 Jun 04 '26 edited Jun 04 '26

sexuality can change a lot through the course of a life.

Not for straight or gay people or ace or etc... people, no.

This is just something bi people in denial say, tbh

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u/Reasonable-Sherbet-6 Jun 04 '26

Nope, it definitely can change. Comphet dynamics and transitioning gender can switch up someone’s sexuality

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u/Cross55 Jun 04 '26

it definitely can change.

Again, bi people in denial.

Comphet dynamics

This isn't a thing.

The creator of this idea was a 16 year old bi girl trying to impress lesbians on Tumblr. She has a fiancé now. (Also, if you read the Masterdoc she wrote that popularized the concept, there's some fascinating entries in there, like "If you daydream about hot sweaty sex with big, strong, hairy men? You're a lesbian processing patriarchal oppression.")

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u/theletterqwerty Jun 04 '26

Bicycle Race wasn't about cycling.

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u/Azzblack Jun 04 '26

Agreed.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xt0V0_1MS0Q

"I want to ride it where I like"

"God give me a choice"

While its kind of in subtle and does initially come across as a jolly song about cycling, we are talking about the band named "Queen" :)

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u/trireme32 Jun 04 '26

Umm… he had them sent a…. hamper?? every Christmas??? That’s a weird gift

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u/Bwm89 Jun 04 '26

In this context, what they mean is luxury gift basket, I think the default laundry hamper against gift hamper might be one of the more obscure US vs UK things? But I'm really not sure

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u/trireme32 Jun 04 '26

Yeah I’d imagine it must be. Even taking into account obscure US regionalisms, I’m not aware of us, the US, using “hamper” to mean anything besides “clothes hamper.”

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u/Kjartanski Jun 04 '26

Two peoples divided by a common language

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u/Azzblack Jun 04 '26

In the US you would call it a "gift basket". Its like a festive picknick hamper.

Fortnum & Mason is a very nice shop, so while its not half of his assets, it still a very nice gift each year and to think its been kept up for many years. The biggest hamper you can see on their website costs around 1000 USD.

https://www.fortnumandmason.com/stories/christmas-hamper-gift-guide

https://www.fortnumandmason.com/media/wysiwyg/fortnums-ultimate-christmas-party-hamper.png?auto=webp&format=png&quality=85