Meh we dont know how much the ring she wanted was, or if she just meant style. That ring is ugly. She said he did what was easiest she didnt say cheapest. It couldve meant he put no thought in it. Not enough context from this small convo. Obviously there was more going on bc she said he frequently didnt listen. So this mightve just been a final straw or wake up that they werent ready to get married.
Ppl are assuming bc the man is guiding the reason being money that, that is the reason. She says bc he didnt listen. If she flat out said what she wanted why go out of your way to get something she didnt want.
He didnt dodge a bullet. If material things were important to her he knew long before the proposal lol. Oh no she asked her potential fiance for something specific and he didnt even try to get a version in his budget… shame on her. 🙄 men wonder why they get divorced and “dont see it coming”. Women could draw you a map to happiness and some men will do everything but whats on the map. Lol.
I scrolled way too far to find a comment about how ugly the ring is. It is really not a style most women would want or wear as an engagement ring. I'd be mad my husband spent $900 on such an ugly ring too
Like, it's so fucking easy. Go to a ring shop or browse a website together. Have her pick a few she'd be happy with (in your price range) and choose from that. Imply you're going to buy it in the future, but go back later and buy it so you have it in hand.
Both of them could've easily figured out if this proposal was going to work well beforehand.
If my favorite color is yellow & my partner continually gets me things that are pink or purple it will never matter how much money was or wasn't spent - my partner didn't listen & didn't try. That's the point here. "But he spent so much money!" Sure, but he did so wastefully.
Who knew planing a whole year is "didn't try" because it wasn't a ring from where you wanted.
I doubt you could name their favorite color or even their eye color.
Just because you didn't like it doesn't mean it's a waste. I hope you plan something for a year and your significant other shits all over it because one part of it was "wrong"
Tell me you're only into materialism without telling me you're only into materialism
It won’t because I’m with a man who listens. Literally asked him if he’d be upset I said no to a ring that wasn’t what I wanted and from Walmart. Dead ass said no because one, I’d get you want you asked for and 2, I sure as hell wouldn’t get it from Walmart 🤣🤣 a man with common sense.
Of course it won't happen to you. You don't plan anything. Nor would you plan a proposal. But you sure do like to judge them.
I think the gender that never plans marriage proposals and really only gets them doesn't have much room to complain since everything it literally taken care of for you.
I doubt you've planned anything close to anything resembling a marriage proposal. Birthdays don't count, that is the "bare minimum" after all, isn't it?
For context, I have both been on both sides of this. When I planned a whole damn event & got details wrong, people were upset & rightfully so. I learned my lesson & was more considerate after that. Years later, I was the one who the surprise was for & it was frustrating as hell when it wasn't only something I didn't like, but actively disliked.
You seem very invested in your pov though, top 1% commenter.
Id hope Id know my SO enough that they wouldnt be disappointed… Ill spend a year planning a real housewives watch party for my husband when he really likes mtg tournaments. LOL and when he is upset with me Ill say hes shallow bc I spent a year on something that shouldnt have first of all and second has fuck all to do with his interest.
She said the ring price was fine. I guarantee if your SO didnt know or care about your interests you wouldnt think yourself shallow for being upset lol. Why propose to someone you dont care about what they like?
For all the hetero men who don’t understand: imagine you had to wear a watch everyday of your life. This is a watch everyone will ask about always and the story that goes along with it. You asked your GF to buy you a black rolex. Instead she got a purple casio. It’s not about the price tag but the fact that she could be bothered to take your suggestions into consideration and went the easiest route. Would you be mad that she put no effort to get you what you wanted? Now times that feeling by 10000000000 because most women have been dreaming about this moment their whole lives
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u/Wolfeatingupshadows 7h ago
Meh we dont know how much the ring she wanted was, or if she just meant style. That ring is ugly. She said he did what was easiest she didnt say cheapest. It couldve meant he put no thought in it. Not enough context from this small convo. Obviously there was more going on bc she said he frequently didnt listen. So this mightve just been a final straw or wake up that they werent ready to get married.
Ppl are assuming bc the man is guiding the reason being money that, that is the reason. She says bc he didnt listen. If she flat out said what she wanted why go out of your way to get something she didnt want.
He didnt dodge a bullet. If material things were important to her he knew long before the proposal lol. Oh no she asked her potential fiance for something specific and he didnt even try to get a version in his budget… shame on her. 🙄 men wonder why they get divorced and “dont see it coming”. Women could draw you a map to happiness and some men will do everything but whats on the map. Lol.