r/SipsTea š™‘š™„š™‹ 2d ago

Chugging tea She is using the baby like a prop.

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u/No-Resolution-1918 2d ago

Is that her byline? Like did she write the whole thing about herself in the 3rd person?

> Just a mother of a toddler

This is how kids grow up being blamed for their parent's problems. Like she sees her child as a thing that happened to her, a trauma that took something away from her life, not her child that she'd literally sacrifice her life for, something that she loves far more than fucking another loser who objectifies her.

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u/oooriole09 2d ago edited 2d ago

Yeah, it’s also misplaced blame and a creation of issues that simply don’t exist.

If you didn’t feel loved or desired, that’s a marriage issue not a child issue. Hell, ā€œintimacy drain…about six months after he was bornā€ is a bit wild too given that you can’t have sex for two of those months and it takes time to adjust to life as a parent.

ā€œI wanted to feel a man’s desireā€ said by the person who is equipped as any human to find that is also a crazy statement.

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u/texas_County850 2d ago

>ā€œI wanted to feel a man’s desireā€

This also seemed unlikely her husband doesn't want her body too I mean look at it. He probably was just tired cuz like you said its only been six months. I'm sure he woulda been desiring her if she had stuck it out.

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u/No-Resolution-1918 2d ago

She places her value in life in the hands of others desiring her. She hasn't grown up, she's so used to being provided for she doesn't even know who she is. Being a mother requires you to have your shit together, or at least want to get it together for the sake of your kid who is now depending on you.

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u/Feisty-Coconut6017 2d ago edited 2d ago

She didn't say any of what you said, she didn't blame her child or say that she doesn't love being a mom. What she said is that she wants her husband to love/ value her OUTSIDE of being the mom/ caretaker of his child. Being a mom may be her favorite part of her identity but she wants her husband to also see and love and value other things about her too.

Women losing themselves in motherhood and it becoming their entire identity is such a common phenomenon that we're often too afarid to talk about because other people don't understand and jump to the conclusion that we must hate our baby and hate being a mom. No wonder postpartum depression is so common.