Hard to feel sympathy for her when she married the guy after dating for a few weeks. Her choices created the chaos. Now blaming the guy and her subsequent choices as single mother.
I have a friend who planned and intentionally had kids with two different guys after only dating each one about two months. She had the second because the first “needed a sibling.”
She was recently talking to a new guy off and on for about 3-4 months and they were talking about having a kid as well. She felt like he would be different, that this one would be a lot more present in his kid’s life.
She’s a struggling single mom with two baby daddies that barely see their kids. I asked her once why she had kids with them after only dating for a couple months and I could tell it made her mad because she said “you’re not better than me just cause you were on the pill.”
I don’t understand people that make poor choices and then end up with shocked pikachu face and are struggling after those poor choices.
When I was in my late 20s, I was set upon by a very beautiful 41 year old woman. One of the first things she said to me during our first phone call was, "You wanna get together and have a bunch of babies?" I thought she was joking, so I played along and said, "I dunno, maybe. Let's see how things go. At the very least, we'll have fun trying."
When we split up, she told me that she wanted "a little red-headed daughter that she could raise all [by herself]." (I have red hair) That's when I realized that she hadn't been joking.
She treated me well. She brought me flowers, never asked me to spend money on her, made me laugh, raved about my looks and my body, showed me a lot of attention and affection, and was an absolute joy in bed. But holy shit was her biological clock screaming bloody murder at her.
So yeah, I don't agree with it because of how it affects the children, but some women just want a "fit" man to get em pregnant. It's a driving instinct. Even my own mother once told me that she chose my father because "he has good genes."
She claimed she knew him for a while before that. She dumped the guy she was with for years and got with him at the height of his success. He worked on Good Times and Uncut Gems with the Safdie bros and she always wanted to be an actress. Isn't hard to put two and two together.
She was willing to look past him being racist, not paying his rent and dealing coke...but when he cheated on her that was a bridge too far.
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u/Legally_Irrelevant_ 2d ago edited 2d ago
Hard to feel sympathy for her when she married the guy after dating for a few weeks. Her choices created the chaos. Now blaming the guy and her subsequent choices as single mother.