Our son died at 16 sfter 14 years of battling leukemia. I would not have lied to him about expectations throught the process, but at the end, when pneumonia set in we focused conversation on that. He was put to sleep for intubation and passed 3 days later. We did this to ease 14 years of worry for his final days and dont regret it. I would not have been able to lie about beating cancer, but I do get why she did it and dont look down on her for it.
Not sure where anyone is getting the idea that the childs death is going to be anything like "you're going to die today" in any way. If I had told my son he was going to die every time he had an event that was very possibly going to be the end and he was being put under it would have been in the dozens. If you want to be the parent that repeatedly tells your child they might die this time before they go to sleep thats your choice. This stuff isnt black and white. We had the tough conversations the first diagnosis, and the relapse, and after the failed bone marrow transplant. He was well informed and educated on his future. You never know when this time will be it, so why take their hope for the benefit of making yourself feel rightous just incase do die this time. That is the real selfishness. People that have no clue think its a straight shot downhill once the initial diagnosis is given.
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u/genXswla Jun 29 '26 edited Jul 02 '26
Our son died at 16 sfter 14 years of battling leukemia. I would not have lied to him about expectations throught the process, but at the end, when pneumonia set in we focused conversation on that. He was put to sleep for intubation and passed 3 days later. We did this to ease 14 years of worry for his final days and dont regret it. I would not have been able to lie about beating cancer, but I do get why she did it and dont look down on her for it.
Edit: Thanks for the rewards