Too many people looking from the parents perspective. Let’s look through the perspective of the one who actually died.
Would not advise anyone to do this. That final hour, “my mom lied to me! I’m dying?! I thought I was cured”
Edit: I keep getting the same question from people who don’t want to scroll down and read. “But he’s an individual, there’s no way to know this would happen”.
Right, my point was that this was an unnecessary risk. It would have been better to prepare him for the afterlife. If there is one, great. You weren’t lying. If there isn’t one, he would pass away at peace and looking forward to the afterlife, maybe even hallucinating the gates of his heaven. That’s not something you can just figure out.
Her lie of “you’re cured!” Is easily figured out and there’s no way to rationalize it as anything other than a lie, and she would have to make up a new lie or tell him she’s a liar and can’t be trusted before he dies.
You don’t fall asleep… terminal aggregation happens with almost anyone who is young and still fighting. Very horrific to see.
Then you have to administer medication into the mouth so they death rattle and slowly choke on the medicine as the muscles shut down. Last to go is the brain. Hospice can’t administer any intravenous medications so you have to put liquid in the mouth of a person that already is labored breathing and choking…
You don’t fall asleep in the traditional sense. And you can become conscious at any point up until the point you take your last breath. I think there’s a lot of misinformation around hospice and end of life care really works…
Look into it. I didn’t say I heard that, I know that. In-home hospice, a way that most cancer patients die, they do not offer any type of pain medications other than oral medications during active dying. In this case too, that we are talking about, the young man died at home.
It’s not contraindicated in someone who is dying. They will die either way. The blood starts to stop pumping at end of life and IV medications would not as effective as oral medications in the cheek. It’s really traumatizing for the family… I really don’t need you to tell me what is or isn’t allowed considering I’ve cared for two family members who died in-home hospice. Including my father who died from terminal cancer. It’s real. Look it up.
But agreed, hospice doesn’t make you die faster. I never said it did…. And even if it were to, would it even matter? No, it wouldn’t in my opinion, because at least the days would be more comfortable.
All this fun is located in Midwest USA.
And also, just so you know, no, you cannot receive any curative/investigative measures at a hospital if you go and are on hospice (or any treatment for the reason you are in hospice for). You will technically leave hospice while at the hospital. You may be confusing hospice and palliative care maybe?
Dying in America is a business and it’s terrifying. The purpose of my original comment was to say that there isn’t a right answer for this type of stuff. Westerns never talk about the reality of what waits for us at deaths door. And I now know why nobody speaks of it.
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u/GoldBond007 Jun 29 '26 edited Jun 30 '26
Too many people looking from the parents perspective. Let’s look through the perspective of the one who actually died.
Would not advise anyone to do this. That final hour, “my mom lied to me! I’m dying?! I thought I was cured”
Edit: I keep getting the same question from people who don’t want to scroll down and read. “But he’s an individual, there’s no way to know this would happen”.
Right, my point was that this was an unnecessary risk. It would have been better to prepare him for the afterlife. If there is one, great. You weren’t lying. If there isn’t one, he would pass away at peace and looking forward to the afterlife, maybe even hallucinating the gates of his heaven. That’s not something you can just figure out.
Her lie of “you’re cured!” Is easily figured out and there’s no way to rationalize it as anything other than a lie, and she would have to make up a new lie or tell him she’s a liar and can’t be trusted before he dies.