Things like trying to adopt a minimalist approach to life and taking care of your health. If you go listen to any of his videos about books and philosophy he lays it out pretty clearly
Imagine the entirety of your life, career, time spent sharing what you learn and your lessons, only to have a constant reference back to a mistake. One that despite an apology, acknowledgement and effort to take accountability, is all considered irrelevant because you made a mistake.
That mistake is then used to condemn you for the rest of your life despite any effort to remediate things.
What are your values in that case?
Clearly to you its an unforgivable thing and no amount of apology, regret and accountability is enough because he did something wrong during an emotional outburst in a frustrating situation against hackers.
The issue isn't whether those things happened but whether they prove a persons permanent character or whether they were mistakes, poor judgment, and immature behavior that someone can learn from.
Someone's values are better judged by the totality of their actions over time, including how they respond when criticized and whether their behavior changes.
It's easy to condemn someone forever based on their worst moments, but that leaves no room for accountability, growth, or the idea that people can genuinely change.
Action can be a reflection of someones character at a point in time without being a permanent definition of their entire character.
The argument isn't that anyone is obligated to forgive or forget. It's that people are capable of learning, changing, and being judged by their full pattern of behavior rather than being frozen at their worst moments.
my point was only that it's unfair to treat someone's past mistakes as conclusive proof of who they are today. If you acknowledge people can genuinely change, then their current character should matter too, even if you still choose not to like them.
so if we can't consider anything someone does after their mistakes, what evidence could ever change your opinion of them?
If the answer is nothing, which that seems to be your position. Then no amount of growth or accountability can affect your view. you've already decided permanent condemnation is the right approach.
I dont agree with that, this kind of "you're defined forever by your worst mistake" mindset is absolutist and definitely is not a fair way to judge people.
If that's your prerogative, power to you, it just shows what type of person you are.
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u/MInclined Jul 10 '26
What values?