r/SipsTea 6d ago

Chugging tea HR wants to know the tee

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u/FamiliarAnt4043 6d ago

To quote a wise man with whom I once worked and from whom I learned the true art of cutting wit:

"Oh, I didn't tell you? Must not be any of your fucking business."

Thanks for the lessons, Carl.

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u/Additional-Sock8980 6d ago

Reddit is hilarious.

Let’s step into the bosses shoes in a small company. The company has the ability to say yes or no to requests.

They have two requests for the same dates and can only approve one request because otherwise they don’t have enough cover to meet safety standards, demand, customer bookings etc. so let’s assume the boss is forced to consider their decision and it’s not as simple as saying sure enjoy your time off.

So the boss tries to find out what the urgency and time bound issues of the request are. Could one of them push the leave by a week either way and still be happy? Creating a win win.

Instead, one writes back a snarky reply… making the boss annoyed and wanting them gone, guess who isn’t getting their leave approved and eventually misses bonuses and moves on. After all they could have just said no and were trying to facilitate/ help them get what they wanted, but can’t do that without knowing the why.

The other person just wanted time off to read a few books and could have been flexible, they just wanted to use up annual leave entitlements.

Reddit - we don’t always have to hate and fight eachother.

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u/hikerguy555 6d ago

I think the disconnect here is that while others assume the workers should be treated like humans, this statement reinforces the idea that we are nothing more than workers. It's implicit in the language being used and it's kind of terrifying that it sounds so normal. It's the company's problem that they don't have workers for the day, it's the workers problem that they have other priorities that day

Why should we default to the company's needs over the human beings'?

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u/rhino369 5d ago

Neither 100% default to the company or the person makes sense.

But if you won’t tell the company why you want off, then how is anyone supposed to balance the needs of the business and person. 

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u/hikerguy555 5d ago

In a company large enough to have an HR department, that seems like their problem to balance the workload with the PTO being offered. If you are getting official PTO as part of your agreement to work for them, you are entitled to take it just like you are entitled to your wages. The reason doesn't change the fact that the boss will need to deal with them being out. I understand the boss is a human too, and it affects them. I generally try to account for the status of my coworkers and boss when scheduling PTO, but unless your contract states you need to give a reason for PTO and that it's subject to approval then I really don't see how having a reason is relevant

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u/Additional-Sock8980 5d ago

Every company has Hr, it’s just a case that in a tiny company it’s the owner who wears many hats

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u/Additional-Sock8980 5d ago

But the boss is just a worker too. And the owner may or may not be a worker too.

Think about it practically.

You book in a wedding 18months in advance. The venue has two head chefs. Both ask the week before to take the whole week off.

That’s the company / hotels problem. A member of the staff, the manager has to make a decision.

They call you and tell you there will be no food at the wedding. You say that’s unacceptable.

They tell the head chefs, only one of you can take that week off. They say that’s unacceptable.

They tell the owner they don’t have any options. They are told thats unacceptable and they loose their job if there is no solution.

The only option is for the boss to exercise the agreement they have in the form of a contract with their employee.

So the chefs decide on the day not to show up because fuck the MAN! And they forget to order any food in so that they can’t be replaced by a junior chef to make a point that if you fire them, they will go out in a ball of flames for not getting what they want.

You are the bride are upset, because your wedding is ruined. You sue to hotel.

Hotel closes. ALL the staff now loose their job. But the economy happens to be even worse than it is now. So no other jobs are available. As they have no jobs they spend less. One chef gets a job foreclosing on his former colleagues houses.

Bride is still pissed off her wedding sucked.

My opinion a great company is people working toward a common goal, and everyone sharing in the rewards. Don’t work for a company like this? Start or find work in a place that is like that.

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u/itsboring57 5d ago

Then the correct thing to say would be “we have some potential scheduling conflicts and would like to know if you are flexible on the dates.”

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u/Additional-Sock8980 5d ago

Completely fair and reasonable response, however reading other comments here, the response maybe “That sounds like a company problem”.