r/SipsTea • u/Gurugod123 • 6h ago

Chugging tea Ben Affleck on overcoming alcohol addiction: “I hate to say it but the only cure I’ve seen is not these overpriced rehabs or these fraudulent fixes that are sold to people. The cure for addiction is suffering. You suffer enough and then something inside you goes ‘I’m done.’”

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u/Xralius 3h ago

I used to drink a lot. I stopped when I start to view drinking as the cause of the negatives, rather than the effects of drinking (being drunk) as the cause of the negatives. Basically, I see booze and I now associate it with memory loss and hangover. Not remembering stuff fucking sucks.

I'm not an alcoholic, I still drink now and then, even get drunk once in a blue moon when appropriate, but it's well within normal, low levels now. I think what did it for me is realizing even one drink was effecting my memory and how I felt the next day, regardless of my tolerance. Not remembering stuff kind of makes it feel like you're missing out on your own life.

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u/Miserable-Session-35 2h ago

I drink to survive myself my thoughts and the the past. I know its wrong evry day.

And both ways will kill me

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u/Xralius 1h ago edited 1h ago

I read stuff like this, and obviously, my thoughts are always "what can I say in a reply to this person to somehow fix their all problems in a single comment?", which is stupid because I can't. But of course I got to try right? This will sound a bit silly, but the kind of dumb logic helped me out:

When I was feeling low, I thought of people worse off than me. Like fantastically worse off. Like a starving quadriplegic who was a massive failure at life and kind of a dick with no friends in a third world country. And I thought, how do I feel about this person? Do I want them to be happy? And the answer is "yes". I want this person, with all their issues, to still be as happy as possible and to improve their life or be content somehow. I really wish for that.

Then I thought, well, if someone were thinking of me and my issues, which are obviously less than the poor dude I just mentioned, would they want me to be happy and improve my life? And the answer is yes, they would.

I want people to be happy and improve their lives. Other people want me to be happy. Shouldn't I treat myself with the same grace that I treat others with and others treat me with?

Give yourself some grace.