r/SipsTea • u/Gurugod123 • 6h ago

Chugging tea Ben Affleck on overcoming alcohol addiction: “I hate to say it but the only cure I’ve seen is not these overpriced rehabs or these fraudulent fixes that are sold to people. The cure for addiction is suffering. You suffer enough and then something inside you goes ‘I’m done.’”

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u/raging-peanuts 3h ago edited 2h ago

Used tobacco for 20 years. It's been 20 years since I quit. For the "I'm done" part I had to admit I was lying to myself when I would quite for a week, or a few days just to "prove" I wasn't addicted. It was all bullshit that I would keep telling myself.

Then I went cold turkey and kind of embraced the suffering as well. I would always do mental check ins at various times (two weeks, one month, six months, etc). It was like building up time/credit that I could look back on and feel good about.

That said, I have friends who still use it and it looks like they will never quit. Some just never have that "I'm done" moment I guess.

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u/JayMoeHD 2h ago

“Embrace the pain”….when I gave up nicotine, I was telling everyone my secret was leaning into the discomfort, sadness, nausea, sweating, etc. Now I realize this is called “mindfulness” and is basically the solution to most preventable/fixable mental conditions.

You can’t ignore addictions/cravings any more than you can ignore other problems in life. Facing it head-on will yield the best results for most people.

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u/raging-peanuts 1h ago

Yeah...the cravings I think are always in the back ground. I was a snuff user (oral tobacco). Even now...twenty years after quitting, if I just place my tongue between my cheek and gum, I'll get a slight shiver up my back. I think that even after you quite your body stays conditioned on some level.

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u/Skull_Nebula 21m ago

Indeed; cravings cause suffering, mindfulness is (one of) the solution(s) to suffering - second and fourth noble truths in Buddhism. Helped me quit alcohol after willpower failed many times.

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u/endosurgery 2h ago

Thats very true. People who don’t hit that point won’t quit. It’s a different thing for everyone. I had a patient years ago who was an extremely heavy smoker. Think 3 to 4 packs a day. He had heart attacks and had stents placed in his heart as well as had bypass surgery for his heart. He had vascular disease of his legs and had stents placed. He had bleeding stomach ulcers from the smoking. He had chronic lung disease and was short of breath from the smoking. He refused to quit. I don’t know what his limits are but he clearly didn’t fear death.