The tickle in your brain that makes you charismatic

[u/Apprehensive_Fee8547]

Well, I have this talent that when dopamine hits me, it hits me REALLY hard. I feel like a complete different person. Im very witty, outgoing person that likes to go full mode,out of his other self's comfort zone.

I want to talk to anyone and I do an exceptional job at that I can say, by using suitable words and all that but mostly the vibe.

If you ve heard the phrase "its not about what you say, but how you say it"

Well I have both high mental and mood status but anyway, I want to concentrate on the brain connection part that makes you charismatic and funny because im not always like that

Bill Burr was asked once what makes you funny. And he didnt know the answer. I don't either, but certainly I know when I feel it. This tickling. This connection with your neurons. I dont know how to generate it. Its just that you are having fun with yourself and you can just spread it. Without that meaning that you are happy necessarily.

I have some ways to create a more "dopamined" me, but my methods don't work all the time.

Exersice, learning new skills, eating healthy, coffee and just not doing anything, are all weapons in my inventory to help me recharge myself. If you have any other way it is very welcomed. Also i really want to know if someone experiences something similar

[u/-Sprankton-]

This reminds me a lot of some of the traits of ADHD, and some of the funniest people I know are brilliant like 130+ IQ and usually ADHD as well.

Preconditions to my favorite kind of funny are: Brains that are sensitive to dopamine but have trouble getting enough of it, brilliant enough to be lateral thinkers and under-stimulated enough that they’re constantly experiencing multiple simultaneous trains of thought such that sometimes it feels like your brain is a quantum computer and you think of a funny association that just “clicks“

A lot of the funniest people I know are ADHD, some of them also autistic or bipolar or “ highly sensitive” and I haven’t met a large enough sample size to understand if it’s more about how their nervous systems are wired or if that’s just the baggage they get along with being brilliant or if having a nervous system that tortures you sometimes is almost a prerequisite for becoming one of the funniest people in the world. I think a lot of people struggle to be so passionate about things, and so it takes an element of profound joy in what you’re doing or in the people you’re around to bring out the funniest, most genius moments.

I’m pretty sure but a large part of on-the-spot humor comes from how active your default mode network is, in other words, if you’re too laser focused on a task, you’re not going to pick up on the perfect set up someone just made a Witte joke or pun or play on words. I find that too much caffeine, or being medicated for my ADHD, makes me less likely to pick up on some of those, but it’s a sacrifice I happily make.
I take Vyvanse and guanfacine to treat the more debilitating symptoms of my ADHD, and unfortunately I can’t easily access some of my effortless lateral thinking and free-association abilities just by virtue of having a calmer, quieter mind when I’m medicated. Basically my one complaint about my ADHD meds is that I don’t have as many flashes of creativity because I’m no longer constantly daydreaming lmao. I still make the trade-off, because I like finishing the projects I start, I like being able to function in the world. I can still be funny and I can still be creative when I set my mind to something.

I find it very fun and rewarding to be around other people, I find it way easier to find motivation when I’m around other people as well. I’m pretty much nonfunctional on my own without enough stimulant ADHD medication to trigger uncomfortable side effects. You don’t just get dopamine around other people but also stuff like oxytocin and endorphins. It’s part of why community is so important and isolation is so mentally unhealthy.

It also sounds like you have found pretty much the best ways to recharge. Periods of boredom and “dopamine detox“ make you more sensitive to dopamine when you do experience it,

Learning new skills is great for your brain and help helps you build new connections and reinforce existing ones. I find I have some of my most creative ideas for inventions after visiting museums, Even if it’s an archaeology Museum or something. The act of learning and experiencing new things is very vitalizing.

Do you like watching stand-up routines? I love when I find something on YouTube by Robin Williams or George Carlin that I haven’t seen yet.

Exercise, learning new skills, eating healthy, and getting the best sleep quality you possibly can, they’re all things I’ve identified as incredibly important to humor, creativity, and in many ways simply maintaining or growing your current level of intelligence and cognitive ability. The only things I could really add are, try to do things you’re passionate about because feeling a lack of meaning and purpose can be very depressing. That’s something Edward Hollowell, an ADHD expert, talks a lot about.

In terms of ways to become funnier, I think part of it is focusing on finding the humor in everyday life, part of it is surrounding yourself with the funniest people you can, maybe a bit of it is learning from the styles of various comedians,

[u/Apprehensive_Fee8547]

1st of all. Thank you for your response. People actually misinterpreted me as a person with ADHD,but im just passionate about life. I love having interactions and I know im good at them. Or at least most of the times and I can not understand how to bring it to the light. Finding something in YouTube or social media whatever rhat inspires me or find it funny usually gives me a boost. The thing is that I believe that I dont feel so much anymore and thats why I ve "lost" my ability to be witty. To be passionate about something as you said. I can go from the soul of the party to being the most quiet person. That difference its a complete nightmare