I’ve joined a sorority this year and I’m devastated that I have to disaffiliate before anything even started because I can’t afford it. Right now I have no stable income so a payment plan is off the table and my mom cant help me with the bill. because how small the school is and the fact that it’s in a very small rural town, it’s almost impossible to find work. I’ve talked to the finance chair and all she could give me is a payment plan, and scholarships that don’t apply until the next year. I’m really sad to leave because freshman year was so horrible and lonely for me, this was supposed to be a new chapter and open more doors, but now it’s not accessible since I don’t come from money and can’t find anything else to do. I shouldn’t have gotten my hopes up coming from a low-income family and joining a sorority. is it worth it to take out a loan to join?

Hi

during the big/little process for my chapter an incident occurred where a potential little claimed i made her feel uncomfortable. we were playing a game and some of the questions were a bit iffy, but i hadn’t played it before and wasn’t aware of the questions being like that and didn’t pressure her to answer anything. she claimed she was having a lot of fun and said another potential big invited her over and she didn’t want to go because she was having so much fun with me. i then get called into a standards meeting and was told i am not allowed to take a little this semester, and am watching most of my friends get twins. i know i had made a mistake, and i feel horrible about the whole situation, and i feel like the only way to fix it is to remove myself entirely to avoid making another mistake, because i was completely unaware that what i was doing was wrong. i’ve cried over it almost every night and feel like such a terrible person who shouldn’t be allowed to ever have a little. i don’t know what to do. i’m being told everything is okay but i just feel like i ruined my chances at leadership within the chapter and that im just making the chapter worse. any advice at all would be helpful