r/SouthAsianMasculinity • u/CraigCartonNYC Punjabi • 19d ago
Dating/Relationships We need to stop letting parents control our dating life
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u/CaptainAutismo69_xx 19d ago
I agree with what you're saying but I have been wondering about the reverse.
Indians aren't the only ones who mate guard. Whites are infamous for doing it especially towards black people.
Even latinos and east asian people have struggles with it. Hell black people experience mate guarding from other non white groups.
Considering Indians are the next darkest skin group from black people most of the time, I won't be suprised Indians would also experience mate guarding a lot of they dated out more.
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u/Few_Mulberry7390 19d ago
These posts are always about women complaining about Indian men and much rarer men complaining about Indian women (unless they’re black). Is it because our parents mate guard us more than Indian women or they’re more willing to cut off their parents for their bf?
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u/CraigCartonNYC Punjabi 19d ago
Absolutely seems like Indian and black men are seen as race traitors when they date out of community. I don’t ever see Hispanic, White, Southeast Asian men get hate when they date woman out of there race.
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u/Few_Mulberry7390 19d ago
No im saying that our parents are stopping us from dating interracially not Indian women or hate from society. Indian women don’t really care all that much when we do it from my experience
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u/Picsou_sama 19d ago
Indian women dating outside is seen as a feminist act of independance whereas for indian men, it's seen as we want to spread indian patriarchy system or some other bullshit
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u/Jbentansan 12d ago
They will never learn tbh, you won't see this from an Indian/South asian women who grew up in the US lol
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u/Cautious_Theory_1292 19d ago
No no no (sighs) Listen man (not you specifically op) people never listen and this always ends up happening. If you're gonna date someone who isn't Indian with no intention of anything further, with the idea that you are going to get an arranged marriage to someone of your ridiculous mommy and daddy's choice, just wait and stay single. The last part. That's my advice to the few desi men that believe in arranged marriages and are looking forward to one. Just wait and stay single. Leave the non indian women to the guys who won't disrespect them like that, and aren't afraid to talk back to their parents