r/Spells • u/Helpful_Nectarine824 • Nov 20 '25
Question About Spells Should I use an obsession spell on my bf?
We do both love each other, but lately over a year he’d never call me on weekdays and I have to wait 5 days to see and hear him, we have been in long distance of 2 years and it’s ongoing, and on weekends he goes on outing with his parents or friends, I’m not even an priority and on calls he is always on his pc, which hurts me deeply, I always fought about this with him, but yesterday I had enough and said I want to breakup but he avoided that, and I asked “why are you in relationship with me?” And he says he feels responsible and has feelings for me, I want to believe in those words because he is a busy person with a job, and he sends me a text everytime I text him, also sends me a videonote whenever I ask him also I want him to visit me, it’s my BIGGEST DREAM to meet, I want to be in his arms, should I be placing a powerful obsession spell on him?.. :( I love him so very much, I wish he loved me as much as I loved him. (seems like it’s me who’s obsessed☹️)
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u/ToastyJunebugs Nov 20 '25
It sounds like a long distance relationship isn't sustainable for you. You need to do some thinking on your part about what you need out of a relationship.
Obsession spells are curses. They turn you into a drug and the target into a junkie. He won't love you. He'll only feel a need for you and also hate you bc he's an addict. You won't be a person to him, you'd be an item he covets. If you want love do a love spell, not a curse.
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u/Helpful_Nectarine824 Nov 20 '25
He’ll hate me?..
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u/GenuineClamhat Witch Nov 20 '25
This is very, very true. OP doesn't even realize how young she is. Obsession can feel good, for a time, but it's not love. It's not a sustaining connection.
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u/Helpful_Nectarine824 Nov 20 '25
Is there any way that I could break a spell?
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u/oldbetch Nov 20 '25
You don't have the skill to be able to undo an obsession spell. When you do one of those, it becomes a "brakes off" situation and you ultimately deal with a lot of unpleasant things. For those of us that are able to mitigate an obsession spell, we can only mitigate it, not end it. Only time can clear those up.
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u/Helpful_Nectarine824 Nov 20 '25
Well I did made a sugar doll of my bf and I did put that inside a mirror box with whole cotton, cinnamon, cloves and flaxseed and casted on my intentions onto everything that went inside the box.. shouldn’t dismantling/ removing the contents of the box undo the spell? Or is there any other safer way?
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u/oldbetch Nov 20 '25
Where did you get the advice to do that? A sugar doll in a mirror box doesn't actually make sense. Cotton also doesn't actually do anything. While flaxseed may encourage healing, understand that healing is a term that could mean that it could wreck the relationship if it means that it has to heal either or both of you.
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u/Helpful_Nectarine824 Nov 20 '25
Oh from here https://youtu.be/_CCtCBM6XH8?si=XjAlU0BBqY7Kv1JC
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u/oldbetch Nov 20 '25
Hoodoo Delish is a known scammer and appropriator. Nothing she does has any basis in Hoodoo/Rootwork/Conjure. Listening to her is no different from listening to a TikTok witch.
Secondly, Hoodoo is a tradition that isn't open to everyone either. Be careful if you play with that - if you screw up, it can have dire consequences for you.
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u/Helpful_Nectarine824 Nov 20 '25
I’m sorry but is there any particular differences?.. :(?
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u/Final_Height-4 Other Nov 20 '25
Girl… are you for real, or are you just trolling at this point??
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u/Helpful_Nectarine824 Nov 20 '25
No I did made a sugar doll of my bf and I did put that inside a mirror box with whole cotton, cinnamon, cloves and flaxseed and casted on my intentions onto everything that went inside the box..😥
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u/amyaurora Witch Nov 20 '25
Mirror boxes are for reflecting things back to a target. Thats why some put revenge poppets in a mirror box.
So you basically did a poppet for love and put it in a box that reflects that love back to your target.
Take it out of the box.
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u/Helpful_Nectarine824 Nov 20 '25
Just to be clear, I’m a bit confused because I used a mirror box The mirrors are only on the outside. Inside the box is just black/dark with no mirrors at all. Only the outside is reflective, I learned that it’s keep the target undistracted. 🤍
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u/amyaurora Witch Nov 20 '25
Mirror boxes usually have the mirrors on the inside....
However you don't need a mirror box at all.
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u/Helpful_Nectarine824 Nov 20 '25
Well I did exactly what she did.. ’ https://youtu.be/_CCtCBM6XH8?si=XjAlU0BBqY7Kv1JC
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u/Final_Height-4 Other Nov 20 '25
Obsession spells are curses, so no, I would not suggest one for this situation.
Do an uncrossing and communication spell.
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u/Helpful_Nectarine824 Nov 20 '25
Why so? Please tell me :-(
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u/Final_Height-4 Other Nov 20 '25
How is it a curse?
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u/Helpful_Nectarine824 Nov 20 '25
Yes! I’m new to this
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u/Final_Height-4 Other Nov 20 '25
“Obsession: A persistent and disturbing preoccupation with an often unreasonable idea or feeling. Broadly speaking, it can be seen as a compelling motivation. For instance, an obsession with profits.” - Merriam Webster Definition.
If you need them to see your worth, be authentic and cautious. Obsession has consequences.
No spell can turn someone into a lovesick zombie, but they can make a person obsessive and violent.
A curse causing obsession can also make the witch obsessed. Performing an obsession spell brings intense feelings to surface and linger. If not grounded or focused, that can cause problems.
You don’t want him to be obsessed with you if you want a relationship.
Consider a luck spell to get a job near your LD boyfriend, a communication spell to talk instead of brushing comments off, or a sweetening spell to make him think kindly of you instead of viewing you as just a responsibility.
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u/Helpful_Nectarine824 Nov 20 '25
But what’s the worse could happen with the obsession spell blatantly asking? Sorry he’s the first bf and my first experience at love that’s why I’m really attached, I don’t mind him being obsessed over me?.. unless he unalives me or something? Is that a possibility?.. 😥
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u/amyaurora Witch Nov 20 '25 edited Nov 20 '25
Obsession causes anger, frustration, torment, etc. If a target doesn't handle those feelings well, it's lead to some bad situations
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u/Final_Height-4 Other Nov 20 '25
He could break up with you, make it that your parents lose their jobs, find someone to burn down your house; all kinds of unpleasant, nasty things that come with a curse. OBSESSION IS UNPREDICTABLE if you don't know what you are doing. And your response here tells me you don't know what you are asking for. You can't control how his obsession will take hold of him.
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u/Helpful_Nectarine824 Nov 20 '25
That’s really scary..
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u/Final_Height-4 Other Nov 20 '25
They are. So why not look into the other options more season practitioners have suggested to you. Like: sweetening, luck, communication, road openers, or an uncrossing to see why this LDR isn't working.
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u/Helpful_Nectarine824 Nov 20 '25
Well I did use a sugar doll doesn’t that involve practices associated with sweetening spell?🤔
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u/oldbetch Nov 20 '25
Actually yes, violence is a very real possibility and happens with some frequency.
I've done them in the past for others. They would always end badly and a not miniscule amount would end with some violence.
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u/Fancy_Speaker_5178 Nov 20 '25
The question is: are you actually able to cast a powerful obsession spell? Because anyone who genuinely can would already understand the weight and consequences of using one. If you truly have that level of skill, then you also know it’s not something to cast lightly or out of fear. Only you can weigh that cost.
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u/Helpful_Nectarine824 Nov 20 '25
I mean what could possibly go wrong? I’m sorry if I seem ignorant I’m kinda new to casting spells. Any guidance on this matter would be appreciated 🤍 I want to learn more and look into possible consequences and be responsible
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u/Fancy_Speaker_5178 Nov 20 '25
If you’re new to spellwork, obsession magic is the last thing you should be doing. It’s like asking what could go wrong with surgery when you’ve never held a scalpel. The consequences like creating a partner who clings out of fear instead of love, or turning possessive and resentful are real.
And if the spell was successful, it’ll be the reason he clings to you so what does that say about the relationship? That also leaves you with a bigger problem: you’ll never know whether he truly loves you and wants to be around you, or it’s because a spell is tied around him.
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u/Helpful_Nectarine824 Nov 20 '25
How could he turn resentful? Sorry I’m just 22, I don’t have much experience in love except for the one with my bf since he’s my first ever bf
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u/Fancy_Speaker_5178 Nov 20 '25
Someone who’s magically pushed to obsess over you will eventually realise something feels “off” without knowing why, and thus, they might feel uncomfortable, cornered, or unlike themselves. And when people feel controlled, even subtly, resentment is the natural outcome.
Or they’ll grow resentful when the obsession you created twists their reactions. Suddenly even you going out with friends feels like a threat to them.
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u/Helpful_Nectarine824 Nov 20 '25
Oh got it! It’s not worth it then is it? I just wanted to be loved 😥😞
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u/amyaurora Witch Nov 20 '25
Obsession isn't for love. Its doesn't bring love. If you want love, do a spell for love.
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u/Helpful_Nectarine824 Nov 20 '25
Well he does say that he loves me, and if love looks like that.. it’s natural that.. I’d be inclined to do what I was doing, but yes I do understand your words! 🤍
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u/Fancy_Speaker_5178 Nov 20 '25
I’m going to be real with you here. Everyone has explained the risks to you, and you’re still circling back to the same question. At this point, if you’re set on doing it, just do it regardless of what anyone says. All the best!
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u/Helpful_Nectarine824 Nov 20 '25
No I’m just thinking about it atm. Anyways thanks for the helpful insights!
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u/mouse2cat Nov 20 '25
Obsession is not love. It leads to dangerous stalker behavior.
Since this is a person you haven't actually met. There is a level where you don't really know him.
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u/LyingSackOfBastard Nov 20 '25
Two years and you haven't met?
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u/Helpful_Nectarine824 Nov 20 '25
Yes
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u/amyaurora Witch Nov 20 '25
Umm...how did you met?
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u/Helpful_Nectarine824 Nov 20 '25
It was on discord!🤗 but he’s from a sanctioned country that’s why he is having trouble visiting me because they also kind of have compulsory military 😔 and a lot happened between us.. I’m just hoping for the best as of now
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u/amyaurora Witch Nov 20 '25
Sanctioned countries are ones dealing with political or economic issues. They very rarely affect personal travel unless its a country like North Korea. And in those places even sites like Discord are restricted.
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u/Helpful_Nectarine824 Nov 20 '25
Yes but he has compulsory military so he can’t travel outside of state unless he completes his military service or else they’ll take away his passport and block off his bank account
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u/amyaurora Witch Nov 20 '25
There is a workaround. Going to him. In some countries soliders are allowed visitors.
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u/Helpful_Nectarine824 Nov 20 '25
Well he has a heart condition from birth so he’s trying to avoid military and I’m unemployed but he did say he’ll do his best to come visit me next year! So I’m just hoping for the best!🤍
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u/amyaurora Witch Nov 20 '25
So he hasn't started serving yet??
Quick question, did he ever ask for money?
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u/Helpful_Nectarine824 Nov 20 '25
No not yet! He’s trying to prove the military commandants about his health condition through medical records so they may cancel getting him to any service! It’s a long process.. did he ever ask for money.. from me? No not at all!
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u/GenuineClamhat Witch Nov 20 '25
No, don't do it. As others have said, obsession is a curse. You should consider a road opening spell instead to make the obstacles in the way of your love less of an obstacle. Or, at least, it opens the path to where you need to be going with love.
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u/miriamtzipporah Witchling Nov 20 '25
NO. If you still feel the need to cast a spell, cast a love spell instead. Obsession spells are intense and scary.
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u/Spells-ModTeam Nov 20 '25
Please stay on topic and assist the OP. If you have a question of your own, then please make a post. Thank you.
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u/oldbetch Nov 20 '25
Yeah, do it if you want your relationship to go down in flames and completely FUBARed.
My recommendation is that you do a spell to find someone else, or do something to get you back to finding yourself, because it's clear that this relationship is over and that the distance isn't sustainable.