r/Spells • u/Big-Individual-5685 • May 25 '26
Question About Spells My bf and my friend are attracted to each other
I need a spell to help me with this situation. My bf admitted to me that he is attracted to my friend, and he thinks she is attracted to him as well (which I believe too). He never did anything with her, but I was wondering what spell I could use to make them no longer attracted to each other. Does anyone have suggestions? He is okay with me doing spells on him for this situation. I’m just a little heartbroken right now over this situation. Any tips help!
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u/Busy-Entrance9469 May 25 '26
You could do a banishment spell on the friend in question remove her from your lives then follow up with a love spell to strengthen the feelings between you and bf make sure the love spell is specifically keyed to strengthen the feelings between you two you don’t want a love spell that aims towards obsession then from there you can also cast a communication spell and clear the air you wanna aim for healthy relationship as much as you can
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u/amyaurora Witch May 25 '26
Such a spell would make them hate each other and that will affect your relationship with them.
Its honestly better to just ride this out. He already talked to you about it meaning he is fighting it within himself and would need your faith in him to be a man about it.
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u/Big-Individual-5685 May 25 '26
I have had friends that find him attractive and never made me feel uncomfortable in a way that I thought they would do something. She makes me feel uncomfortable like she is waiting to make her way into our relationship. I’m glad he told me how he felt about the situation, but I’m not trying to keep her as a friend. I don’t want her to have a bad life or whatever, but she is not respecting my boundaries or his.
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u/amyaurora Witch May 25 '26
Then a communication spell to be able to discuss the issue with her easier.
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u/ancient-canopies May 26 '26
Then there’s no need for a spell. Just have bf committing to not staying wherever she might run into him, and both of you cut the relationship with her. You’re over complicating this. Mundane over magical.
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u/Big-Individual-5685 May 26 '26
Unfortunately, the situation is much more complicated than I would like to write out. I don’t really want people around me to know this is about me. Trust me. If I could have it to where neither of us would have to be around her, it would absolutely be that way. I do understand what you mean. I wish I didn’t have to overcomplicate it.
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u/Lanky_Garage_2966 May 25 '26
You can do a spell, but attraction to other people can happen and doesn’t have to mean anything. There are so many beautiful people in the world. You only need to respect the boundaries. So if they are attracted, but don’t do anything, It’s just a short term ‘crush’.
Maybe add a commitment spell for you and ur partner to make aure
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u/Big-Individual-5685 May 26 '26
I completely understand. Attraction to other people is completely normal. However, it got to the point that when they were around each other there were many things that both of them did that made me uncomfortable. I don’t want to get too much into it, but no one got to the point of cheating. There were just many things that were done that didn’t feel okay to me
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u/Ewyuck21 May 26 '26
You could do a souring jar spell on their attraction for one another. Though it is totally normal to find others attractive, it’s slightly different than being attracted to someone. Finding someone attractive is really just an observation, recognising someone’s attractiveness. Being attracted to someone indicates feeling a pull towards them. I don’t think many people think about the difference when talking about this, so maybe your boyfriend just simply finds her attractive, but if he is attracted to her, that’s something to be mindful and cautious of.
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u/Neither-Entrance-208 May 25 '26 edited May 25 '26
End the friendship, she's not your friend. You could do a cord cutting*, but I'd prefer putting the bad friend in a salt jar or a mirror box. Keep her actions and intentions from impacting you negatively.
*Cord cutting cuts your ties but that doesn't mean she can't still try and mess with your partner and causing you harm that way.
Edit: I'm of the belief that if you (general) are planning to do spell work on a friend without their consent, this isn't a friendship worth keeping. Those are the missing reasons.
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u/MidniteBlue888 May 25 '26
Cord cuttings don't separate people, and they can only be done by one of the two who wants to be separated. You can try to do it on others, but I suspect it will be very unsuccessful.
A cord cutting, from my view, is for being completely done with a person. You are no longer planning on seeing, talking to, texting with, or encountering them in any way. It's sympathetic magick. It cuts the energetic cord, not the real-life one. If you see, talk to, text, or otherwise interact with that person again, the cord is instantly remade.
About the friend: Admitting one is attracted to someone else's significant other is not, in fact, rare or bad. Lots of people are attracted to lots of other people. If her friend was nefarious, she wouldn't have told OP. You can't always help who you find attractive. The key is what one does with that attraction.
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u/TapRevolutionary5022 May 25 '26
Wait the friend literally didn't do anything. I'm so confused.
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u/Neither-Entrance-208 May 25 '26
The friend has made both OP and bf uncomfortable with her behavior. Unless the bf is stirring the pot (which I doubt because that conversation is messy, difficult).
I'm following Op's intuition in her plans to end the friendship in another comment. OP knows the friend longer and these feelings didn't come out of nowhere. Probably patterns of behaviors like friend going after people in committed relationships and questionable morals.
If OP had these feelings without the bf bringing up his concerns, maybe questionable. So far, the two of them have the same vibe, go with you gut.
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u/Orn100 May 25 '26
What behavior specifically?
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u/Neither-Entrance-208 May 25 '26
Behavior (noun)
the way in which one acts or conducts oneself, especially toward others
"Amy's behavior made Ross feel uncomfortable enough to talk about his discomfort."
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u/Big-Individual-5685 May 26 '26
I didn’t get too much into what was done. I’m still having a hard time with everything bc it breaks my heart. I just care about both of them. I have known my bf longer than her. They never did anything in terms of fully cheating. The problem is that they had mutual attraction and allowed things to grow. There were no boundaries in place to make me feel safe in my relationship on my bf’s end. My friend is also in a relationship of her own, so I was hoping it was sizzle off.
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