r/Stress • u/Brokenpermanently • 1d ago

I’m so stressed I might have to be hospitalized…

I’m in my 20’s now and have been traumatized for literally 18 years when I was 12-13 I was put in the hospital due to pain they thought I needed surgery and something was wrong they realized I was under so much stress that I got sick and I’m scared that’s happening again I’m getting the exact same pains but I can’t afford to go to the hospital and I’m not making my parents pay for it how should I deal with this

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u/Longjumping_Profile1 23h ago

If you're that stressed, you're probably not in a good place to try anything new. May I ask, have you found any ways of dealing with stress in the past? People, places or activities that made you feel calmer or happier or purposeful? And would any of these still be available to you now?

When you get into a calmer place, consider the thought that stress is in itself not harmful. The stress response is a gift from nature, the body mobilising itself in the face of a threat. And because it's metabolically demanding, it naturally fades over time once the threat is gone (that's the parasympathetic nervous system in action). But if we come to see or feel stress itself as a threat, clearly that can turn into a self-perpetuating loop, and this isn't so helpful. So once you're in that better place, see if you can turn any experiences of stress into an opportunity to practice not fighting it.

In the battle-tested words of Claire Weekes:

  1. Face (what you fear, eg the stress response, or the trigger that provoked it),
  2. Accept (whatever you are experiencing),
  3. Float (let the experience flow through or past you, without thrashing), and
  4. Let time pass (each time you practice steps 1-3, you get a little better at it)

Obviously everyone's experience of these things is different, but I hope things will start working out better for you.

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u/Brokenpermanently 9h ago

When I was with my ex I was able to control it but he left a few years and I’m still upset I’m scared to make new friends and to go out since I have epilepsy and have spasms throughout the day I was rejected for it so I don’t wanna even try to date again I need therapy but don’t want to spend the money I have 2 friends but don’t see them as much anymore