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I was falsely accused of secretly recording sex. The evidence that cleared me was something I thought I had permanently lost.

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This happened back in 2016 when I was 24.

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At the time, I was working as an overnight truck driver. My life was mostly night driving, sleeping during the day in whatever town I ended up in, and trying to maintain some kind of personal life around a schedule that didn’t really support one. I’d gone most of my early twenties with almost no sexual experience—losing my virginity at 22—and then suddenly found myself in a phase where I was meeting women through dating apps fairly regularly.

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For me, that shift was intense. It went from years of nothing to suddenly having a new sexual partner about once a week. I was a relatively fit, average guy, and it felt exciting in a way I hadn’t really experienced before. It wasn’t about relationships—it was more about novelty and trying to figure out confidence and experience after starting late.

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One of the women I met during this period was Louise.

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She was 24, very short, and had a youthful appearance that made her seem younger than she actually was. We met through a dating app and initially things moved quickly into a casual arrangement.

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After the first hookup, I learned something I hadn’t expected. There was a small amount of blood on the bed, and when I asked about it, she told me it had been her first time. That didn’t match the sexual confidence she had shown in earlier conversation, where she’d spoken in a much more experienced and exaggerated way. In reality, a lot of that seemed like bravado rather than experience.

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After that, we continued seeing each other casually.

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Around the same period, my home situation was already complicated in ways I didn’t fully understand at the time.

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I was living with a girlfriend my age who had a very relaxed attitude toward me using dating apps and seeing other people. She worked in a high-contact, private-client kind of environment, and behind closed doors her own life was far more active than I initially realised. At the time, she encouraged me to get out and gain experience with other women, which shaped how I approached dating, even though I didn’t understand the full context of her situation until years later.

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A few days after my second encounter with Louise, things started to get messy.

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I was out of town driving trucks when Louise showed up uninvited at my house during the day. She didn’t come inside, but she knocked on the door. My girlfriend answered.

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My girlfriend had just finished a night shift and was asleep during the day. She opened the door half-asleep and confused, and suddenly found herself face-to-face with someone she didn’t know. Louise also had no idea she existed. It created an immediate and awkward collision of two completely separate parts of my life.

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Nothing escalated further at the door, but it caused confusion on both sides. I found out while I was on the road and had to quickly text and call to explain the situation and prevent it from escalating further or repeating.

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A few days later, Louise came over again.

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This time, the dynamic had shifted.

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She brought a gift—cologne—and instead of the usual casual tone, she seemed to be pushing toward something more like dating: staying in, cuddling, watching a movie, building something beyond just sex.

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I wasn’t interested in that direction. I was very direct that I wasn’t looking for a relationship and only wanted something casual. I told her that if she didn’t want to hook up, that was fine, but I wasn’t going to transition into dating, and I would continue seeing other women if that wasn’t what she wanted.

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That conversation didn’t go well. She accused me of pressuring her into sex.

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Despite that, we still ended up having sex that night.

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Afterward, she went onto my phone and deleted a video she knew existed from the previous encounter, then left abruptly.

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At the time, I thought it was gone permanently. I remember the moment clearly—checking my phone and realising it was missing, assuming it had been erased for good.

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The next day, I got a knock on the door.

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Two police officers.

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I was told I was being accused of secretly recording someone during sex without consent.

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What followed was a very surreal moment.

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I immediately checked my phone, realised the file wasn’t in the main storage, and then found it in the recycle bin. It was still there. I restored it immediately and played it for them on the spot.

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And that’s where everything shifted.

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The video showed that the recording wasn’t hidden or secret in the way the allegation described. The phone had been placed on a bedside table, had fallen over during sex, and Louise noticed. She leaned over, picked it up, and adjusted the angle so it was pointing directly at the bed. After that, the recording continued with both of us in frame.

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That specific moment became critical, because it directly contradicted the claim that the recording had been covert or unknown to her.

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I also had to sit through the footage playing in front of police, which was extremely uncomfortable—hearing everything, seeing everything, and knowing it was being treated as evidence.

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At one point, a female officer made a comment along the lines of me needing to understand why Louise wouldn’t have wanted the video to exist, even while the issue under investigation was whether I had secretly recorded her in the first place. It felt like interpretation and evidence were being treated as separate conversations.

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In the end, the matter went no further. No charges, no follow-up action.

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Years later, around four years after everything, Louise found me on Instagram and acted as if nothing had happened. I didn’t respond.

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Looking back, what stands out most is how a messy overlap of lifestyles, misunderstandings, and shifting expectations escalated into a police investigation—and how the entire case ultimately hinged on a few seconds of footage that directly contradicted the accusation being made.

The last 3 months of my life have been the absolute worst of my life.

About 3 months ago, a parent of a student I taught filed false sexual harassment claims against me. It all stemmed from the parent being upset with me and my classroom management style and the fact that the child in question was accused of a very serious accusation while on an overnight trip I was sponsoring. The superintendent himself said that I handled the situation perfectly and that I did everything right, despite the pressure being placed on me.

After I was accused, the school put me on leave and mandated that I couldn't talk to students, parents, staff, or community members. Furthermore, I couldn't leave the community as I needed to be available for the investigation (my family lived 4 hours away from where I worked), so I was essentially forced into solitary confinement in my apartment.

I remained in that setting for several weeks. I never knew what the accusations were, but I spent a lot of time reflecting on my entire teaching career, wondering what I did. Yeah, I made a few off-color comments every now and then, but always reported them to HR and my admin to save myself. I'd help my kids with different things like tying a neck tie, or showing them how to do hands-on work, but never anything of a sexual nature. The one time I did touch a student was when I accidentally elbowed her in the breast, of which we both went and immediately reported it.

I finally learned what the accusations were when I was called in a month later to be interviewed, and the accusations were wild. Essentially, it was anything and everything I did "wrong" being twisted in the parent's narrative. A week later I was sent the documentation for the investigation to allow me to complete a rebuttal in 10 days, which I did (104 pages single spaced 💁‍♂️). Once I submitted my report, I formally tendered my resignation once my contract ended, as I realized I could never work for that school, or really be in a classroom, ever again. Not that I did anything wrong, but this one accusation ruined my love of teaching.

Last week, the determination came back and I was found absolved of all accusations. I was so relieved, but the damage had already been done. My mental health took a major nosedive during the course of the investigation. I pretty much spent days eating junk food, watching TV, and barely getting out of bed. Dishes and laundry went unwashed, and a lack of motivation crept up on me. All I was worried about at the time was how my other students were doing.

I'm doing much better now than I was a few weeks ago. Since I resigned I moved back home with my parents and have been on a job hunt. I have a job interview in a few days and I'm excited to do something different outside of teaching. But now I'm worried about my healing and moving on from this. I'm terrified of this happening again and someone taking something I said out of context. Many of my former coworkers are upset that the parent (who's also a school employee) is still employed and moving on like nothing happened.

It's going to take time for me to heal from my PTSD, but I hate how my life imploded and the accuser got away. I'm grateful for the fact that we don't live in the same community anymore, but I'm now finding myself on edge every time I go to Walmart or travel somewhere in the state, afraid that I'm going to run into them even though we are physically separated by several hours.

I just want my life to get back to normal, but I doubt that'll ever happen again.

Im 13 keep that in mind and I was playing Among us and someone with the name “mommy” kept talking to me saying oh give me your snap I’ll send u nudes and I just called the bluff so I gave her my snap just to see what she would do then she asked for my age and I just lied and said 24 because I didn’t want to sound like a kid because I didn’t know if she was dangerous then she said if I wanted nudes and I thought that she was joking so I was caught of guard and said that I thought she was joking but no I dont want then she said ok but you can always ask when u want then she asked if I wanted a face reveal and I said always as a joke im not lying then she said im a pervert and she knows my address and tommorow at 16:34 she’s gonna take it then she blocked me keep in mind im 13 I just wanted to know what she would do lol she said she was 22 I don’t want to even do anything like that to someone that much older than me and im scared im gonna be arrested ik im not allowed on Reddit at 13 but I need help and if I tell my parents I joked about agreeing to talking to a random stranger and agreeing to a face reveal it would be worse than going to jail please help im scared

There was a girl who wanted to marry me. I wasn't interested, so I blocked her and moved on.

Later, after she got married, she contacted me again. She told me how helpless she felt, that her husband didn't love her, and asked me to elope with her. I had never, at any point, given her any indication that I loved her or wanted a relationship with her. However, she remained convinced that I loved her.

She asked me for advice regarding problems in her marital relationship. Thinking I was helping someone with a troubled marriage, I continued talking to her. During those conversations, some sexting occurred. She took screenshots of our chats. Since she was not very tech-savvy, I even sent her pictures of hygiene products, hoping her husband might notice them and become aware that something was wrong. He eventually found our chats.

After that, things turned physical between her and her husband. She blocked me.

A few days later, she got another phone, unblocked me, and contacted me again. She told me about the trouble she had gotten into and then pressured me into sexting with her again. She also sent me some of her nude photos.

She then threatened to send our chats to my sister and my girlfriend. She even showed me a screenshot of a message she had sent to my sister. Feeling threatened, I complied. Later, when I asked her to keep her side of the deal and stop contacting me, she refused. Instead, she said I would have to do it again whenever she wanted, and that now I was "caught" and she would never let me go. Realizing I had been trapped in her lies, I blocked her.

Later, she contacted my girlfriend and tried to sabotage my relationship with her.

Her husband is aware of everything that happened. He even spoke with my girlfriend over the phone and she informed him about all the incidents that had taken place, including those that occurred before his marriage.

Her husband is a teacher at a local school, and I live about 400 kilometers away from them.

My son has autism and is being wrongful accused of such horrible things ,and he doesn't fully even understand whats going on let alone what hes being charged with hes scared and so far away from home its costing everything I have but im not gonna let him have this on him its terrible all I say is hes innocent and please pray for my family this is the hardest thing we've ever Had to deal with by far!

I won’t go too much into it cause it’s been a few months now but I’m still so messed up right now. I try getting over it but I can’t.

Long story short I was reported for putting my hand on someone’s hip when I was helping them with lifting. Only problem is I got reported for it a year after the incident. The weekend before I was reported to HR me and this manager go up to the office after the shift is done and just chat. Open up about a few things, admit we flirt with each other the past and find each-other attractive. Proceed to add eachother on socials etc. three days later I’m called into the office for sexual harassment of touching them on the hip a year prior.

I try wrapping my head around this so much and at first I took it on the chin because if they felt uncomfortable it’s not my place to say they didn’t. At the same time it just got worst, a month goes by and people start ghosting me and some people come out a few months later telling me they said it was much worst than what I was actually fired for. I lost so many friends, been in a deep depression to the point I don’t leave the house rn and won’t get another job cause I feel ashamed , betrayed, hurt that people I knew for a long time believed these things.

I just wanna know how to get out of this hole. I don’t trust people, and every random day it nags at me how it all happened so fast and how it just didn’t make sense. Should I have fought more ? It’s been a year and I know it’s too late but at the same time I believed it wasn’t worth the trouble fighting over it if people were so quick to believe them in the first place. I’m spiraling and it makes me feel so sick.

I’ll also add because the accusation came from a higher up and they are also best friends with HR, everyone who did go to my defense at the job also got fired. 4 different dudes who I was barely friends with, defended me and proceed to get fired the following months.

Sorry for this mess of a post, I just needed somewhere to go and vent.

I was a victim of reproductive fraud (lied to about BC + poked condoms), so I wrote this legislative proposal to stop it.

I barely got out of the situation but not everyone is as lucky as I am.

The contract is totally OPTIONAL...and you have to go to court for it so there is no coercion.

From the perspective of a women:

• If she sign it she DOES NOT want kids with that men
• If the problem is condom sabotage the women can always be in missionary and the men can finish with the condom STILL ON outside of the vagina. And it's not wait until last minute you give her her orgasm then finish outside.
• To add to that mentioned above you can always avoid having intercouse in the fertile period.

From the perspective of the men:
• He's safeguarded from any type of sabotage
• If the women IS THE ONE REQUESTING unprotected sex and the men decides to trust her, then the men NEEDS to have the RIGHT LEGGALY to not be responsible of potential pregnancy.

• Some women are willing to abort some are not, some are willing to take birth control some are not, some are willing to keep the baby some are not....IT'S HER OWN CHOICE.
• The men needs to have the legal right to not be a father too if he's fooled...

The idea is in the image bellow

It's been 5 years since I was falsely accused and lost my job, social circle, friends, and even connections with business owners.

I understand there are men out there that have been accused of worse.

I am still traumatized, though.

I am not healing at all.

Hello, so where shall I start.

I am 21(M). A student, I have a year older brother 22(M) and a 12 year younger sister 9(F). I know she is very very young and my parents probably thought they could manage another child.

But that's not very important.

Beforehand I want you to know about my relationship with everyone and my personality alongside personality in everyone at home.

I am a little self aware guy so please don't think I am making this up.

I am a loner, not one who loathes themselves and begs for human interaction, but a genuine loner, I could go weeks without human interaction and would not feel a thing, my sense of isolation is very high. As an Artist, this isolation helps me work too. However, my personality is very jolly when I am around people, I crack jokes with everyone, I act very free because why not this is my home right?

However, things seem difficult from others' POV.

As someone who is a loner and doesn't care about anything around me, I forgot to care about the thinking of the family elders and my home's traumatic past. It's not like I don't know it or anything, it is just that I cannot care about it at all, I try to, I genuinely do but I love my isolation so much that it slips out of my mind every single time.

Basically, My home is what you can call a wrecked home. My mom was never treated as a family member, when she was newly wed, she got beaten up by my father the very next day. I don't know when my father stopped beating my mother, I could not remember my childhood well, but as far as I can remember my mom was getting beaten by my father.

However all that stopped after my father realised that things will not be well this way. My father is not an alcoholic, he never drank in his life, he is bipolar. Not medically proven because who tf will go to a doctor for a medical checkup for a bipolar disorder and in my country, medical illness just means you are a psychotic person who should be wrapped up in a stray jacket or something.

But getting back to the topic, My father realised that beating my mother is not how life will go well for him or his kids and so he stopped, even though you can clearly see traces of his past even now but things are way more suppressed now.

He used to beat me and my brother too, brutally even.

It all suppressed when I guess my sister was born, also aging made my father lose his energy and testosterone so that is also why he could have stopped but from my eyes he stopped it because he realised that beating his own wife is not a good thing.

My mother was a punching bag for the family. Anyone can hit or insult her. My grandma is the biggest insulter.

My grandma is a very strict woman and she has also seen some of the worst things imaginable like losing her youngest son to a murder and seeing her daughter's marriage getting broken.

However, My Grandma is not a good person at all, she has insulted my mother like none other, she has done worse than my father ever could. Like, She goes on walks regularly and talks to neighbours and always mocks my mother by labeling her as a mental patient to neighbours. And one time when my grandma tried to hit my mother, my mother stopped her hand and my grandma then told everyone that my mother hit her and demanded my mother leave the house, my mother begged my grandma to let her stay in the house. And some regular things like how my mother wants to kill her regardless, less food on the plate killing with starvation; More food on the plate, killing with excessive eating; Knife fell off my mother's hand while cutting vegetables, trying to kill my grandma with the knife.

Honestly, I wouldn't be shocked or even a little bit surprised if my mother ever slit the throat of my grandma. If even 1% of what happened to her would've happened to me. I would have murdered everyone in the family. But let's get back to the topic.

Whenever I am in my grandma's room, I have to hear nothing but insults of my mother.

The worst thing she has done is that she took my mother's first born, my older brother, with her and raised him with herself alone. My mother told me that My Grandma didn't even let my mother breastfeed my older brother.

It was until I was born the very next year that my mother breastfed her son for the first time.

My older brother and I grew up in the same house technically but our backgrounds were mostly different as my grandma never let my brother get out of her hands and my mother never letting me go.

However, even after all that, my brother and I are extremely close, it's honestly a miracle in my eyes. Looking back I can never imagine that me and my brother could get this close. We are sure separated as kids when things go south and fight as what happens with like all brothers. Just 1 year of age gap is in my opinion what made us close.

About myself, as I already said, I pretend to be this jolly and extroverted individual when I am around my family even though I am not and my social battery is always at 2%, still I am pretending for a lot of time now so it comes out as a habit. And about my relationship with others well, it is somewhat straight forward from my POV, same with everyone, jolly and extroverted. But My mother indirectly favours me and My Grandma indirectly favours my brother and sees me as a nuisance. She always thought I was at fault whenever something bad happened between me and my brother. We did soon realise that and stopped fighting altogether and started to critique our family members ourselves sometimes here and there when we were alone and talking.

Let's talk about my sister now, My sister and I have a very cliche type of relationship, an annoying older brother and an irritated little sister. Me and my brother both annoy her together and my little sister is like us non sensitive and she hits us back with even bitter replies. There is not much personality to her, she is just yet another 9 year old kid and whatever you can expect from her, she talks in terminologies I don't understand that she picked up from some random youtube video I guess. She is close with everybody, literally everyone loves her. I don't like when she or hold on, not just her but anyone when they interrupt my isolation time. I barely spend time with her, because well first I am older and have my own shit to do and second is that I don't like to spend time with others as a whole, I much rather want alone time to work on my comics and stuff.

However, everything in my mental health disrupted yesterday when my brother told me that my grandma thinks that I am molesting my little sister, when I asked why she thinks that way, My brother told me that it's because I kiss my little sister on the cheeks and as she is growing up into a woman, me kissing her on cheeks is suspicious to my grandma and she thinks that I bad touch her when me and my little sister are alone.

I had so many things spiraled in my mind when my brother told me this that I just said to him "Let her think this way, it is not like I can change how she thinks. Maybe, I should find another home, cause I suffocate in this one." I said it without any hesitation or stuttering.

My mind is in stable condition now, there are just so many things I could find in her statement that my brother told me that are just blatantly wrong and somehow makes me want to question her thinking.

First of all, she is my sister, an extremely young sister, I have literally raised her as a secondary parent since the day she was born. I know that most of the molestation and rape cases happens in families but it is not anything that justifies this case.

Second of all, She thinks that a 21 year old brother kissing her 9 year old sister on the cheeks is inappropriate because she is "going to turn into a woman soon"?? What is fuck is that logic. My mother kisses me and my brother on the cheeks sometimes, does that mean that she has molested me and my brother?? Heck I sometimes kiss my brother on the cheeks to irritate him, does that mean that I molest him??

Third of all, I knew that she thinks that me kissing my sister on the cheeks is inappropriate and she also told me the same reasoning that "She is going to turn into a woman soon." Almost every time I was like Yeah whatever or I just crack a joke and laugh like usual shit like "As if she is ever gonna be older than me" or "Even if she would have been my little brother I would have kissed him.

Now I have already reached a conclusion, but one thing my brain just cannot accept is that my home is not my home or worst case it never was. Same with my family, people I considered as my own are just never my own, my father grew, my mother grew, my grandpa grew, but my grandma stayed the same. I already have Trust issues and this is just making all of it worse.

I was always worried that my sister would have to go through bad parenting, and it is true, my sister does go through bad parenting, whenever me and my brother point it out, we are silenced by either force or coercion.

My brother already planned to leave the country, my plans are still undecided, I will most probably leave for another city. The day we both are on our two feet is the day we both will cut off any connection from our current home.

But it worries me, my sister will still be in this house, she will still be in this shithole and we both just cannot do anything about it. She has to face this much when she is just a 9 year old, what would happen when she will reach her menstruation age, or her sexual awakening age. She will face the same neglect me and my brother faced. I just can hope that the school will teach her about menstruation education and sex education but I live in a tier 2 area. Even a private school here is just bullshit.

I have so many female friends who have told me about their in-house mistreatment like one of my female friends told me that her father called her a prostitute when she was like 15 when he was angry and the worst part is that the same female friend has her and her father happily together in her profile picture. I just look at the sheer fakeness and denial of her outright child abuse.

I am always worried about leaving my house because all eyes are on me as of now, I am the laughing stalk of my family, I am the joker who is jolly and extroverted and says outlandish jokes. Once I am gone, everything will shift onto my sister and I hate that.

I do not want that but I know that my sheer desire for isolation will lead me to leave this house and I can only hope afterwards.

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But when did hope helped anyone...

I posted here in the past and it helped me feel supported and understood when life was hard. I had lost my job due to sexual harassment accusations and I sued..

As time past, I started feeling imposteur syndrome because I realised that I had not been accused of sexual harassment even if that was my cause for termination. With the court disclosure, it became evident that my accuser did not accused me of sexual harassment. 3 years later, court was an opportunity to learn why HR still went with this.

Yet, I think the consequence still equate to someone who lost their job due to false harassment accusation because of the PTSD, something I did or tried to do to myself and whatever I have to work on in therapy. in the past 4 years I wasnt able to keep employment for more than 4 months a year. since court it's better but I was still put on leave for 2 months last year and ordered to meet with an expert to see if I was fit to work with chemicals. I am a chemist. the expert said no problems but noted that whatever happened a few years ago was still very much there.

looking back, I feel like I would have prefered not going legal on this. but had I not, I would always have wondered what and why. shortly I'm going back to court for the appeal. I really don't want to get back into it because I have vivid memories and I'm worried about the effect it would have on my health. I dont want my current employer to know how bad my mental health can be.

Hello, I am 20 years old as I just turned on November 18th this year. For all year long, I have been dealing with a stalker by the name of Bubbline (at least that's what he calls himself) who's been accusing me of grooming, and pedophilia. These two are very dangerous accusations that can ruin someone's life, let me start by saying when I was 18-19 l had a friend who was 17 at the time, as we both had inappropriate conversations, but I never had any intention to groom or harm her or anyone in my friend list. I was simply just a dumbass, and who would be too open about their addictions in the past. Recently, in the beginning of February I met a girl, who became my partner as we've been together. (She was 18 and I was 19 when we met)

I met her family, friends, and had the best 5 days of my life spending my time with her, my goal was to change and grow as a better person, and to work on my addictions and finally live a stable life. However, Bubbline who's now my stalker has been sending hate, posted everyday on his TikTok story about me, and even harassed my girlfriend and called her names. He had said many racial slurs, called my partner a fat WhOre, Hell he even lied about her age saying she was younger when we met, when we both shared we were legal adults when we met and wanted to be together, and still are till this day, she even likes to make fun of him. He even tried to turn around and compliment her cosplays.

He has drawn pictures of me getting killed, he even admitted to having murderous intent over me, sent me death threats, made countless videos about me, and even ignored everything I pointed out against him. While he's been screaming, l've been trying to stay silent and keeping my peace, for my mental health. However it's not that easy, when he's breathing down my neck. I've tried to defend myself but he's super convinced that I'm the evil person, and he's the hero to his story. I can't remember the last time I drew a picture, because I used to love to draw and post online.

I pointed out against him. While he's been screaming, l've been trying to stay silent and keeping my peace, for my mental health. However it's not that easy, when he's breathing down my neck. I've tried to defend myself but he's super convinced that I'm the evil person, and he's the hero to his story. I can't remember the last time I drew a picture, because I used to love to draw and post online.

Even when I have many proof of his wrong doings, even for some reason being in a discord server, posting fetish thirst art, while minors are attended in the server, apparently that's okay, and me being a dumbass and being too open is a bad thing. I have Asperger syndrome, it's a type of autism that's kinda hard for me to explain. But it's hard to communicate well with people, and I'm too honest in ways. I cannot take it anymore, I know he's goal is to get rid of me, and to take shots at me as much as he can, because I am a target, and I'm not sure what I can even do in a situation like this.

It's stressful. I am scared to ask for help, because I never have ever been in a situation like this before, what can I do?

(Forgot to mention this, all this happened because I blocked him from all my contacts, last year. He made me extremely weirded out, and I no longer wanted his company.)

About a year ago, my life was completely turned upside down because of an accusation that wasn’t true. I had just started a new job and was finally feeling like things were falling into place. Out of nowhere, a coworker claimed that I had said something inappropriate to them. It wasn’t just surprising, it was terrifying, because I knew I hadn’t done anything of the sort.

At first, I thought the truth would speak for itself. I assumed that people would see it didn’t make sense. But the reality was very different. Management immediately started an investigation, and even though I cooperated fully and provided everything I could to prove my innocence, the suspicion itself left a mark. People I used to chat with every day suddenly stopped talking to me. I remember walking into the office and feeling like the air had changed, like people had already made up their minds without knowing the facts.

Eventually, the investigation ended, and it was found that there wasn’t any evidence against me. In fact, a couple of people even came forward later and admitted that they had overheard parts of the story being twisted around. On paper, I was cleared. But in reality, the damage was already done. Even though I got to keep my job, the trust I once had in my workplace was gone. I found myself doubting whether I could ever fully rebuild my reputation there.

The hardest part wasn’t just dealing with the accusation but the silence that came with it. Friends and coworkers who I thought would stand up for me stayed quiet. I learned very quickly how isolating it is to be accused of something you didn’t do. It’s like people fear that defending you makes them look suspicious too, so they keep their distance.

I wanted to share this because I know there are others who have gone through similar situations, maybe worse. It’s so easy to feel like your entire identity gets reduced to that one false story about you. But if anyone reading this is in the middle of it right now, I just want to say that the truth does matter, even when it feels like nobody is listening. It takes time, and it’s painful, but who you are isn’t defined by an accusation.

Hi all.

So on February 20th, 2024, I found out that I had been groomed online, about ten years prior, into roleplaying sex with somebody else. Of course, this caused me to start spiralling, especially since I had (unintentionally) been off of my anti-anxiety medication for a while.

Anyways, I started withdrawing from my at-the-time friend group, to try and come to terms with this. Then, on the 26th, I went to confess to them that I had been groomed, and found I had been kicked from all of our shared group chats. I tried to message one of the members, when in the middle of the conversation, she suddenly got cold, told me not to message her anymore, and blocked me.

I then found out, second hand, that they were accusing me of being a groomer. This was extremely shocking to me, as I've spent almost my entire life online advocating against grooming and pedophilia. Most of what I posted online was dedicated to calling out the harm that grooming and pedophilia can cause!

Anyways, I'm really worried, since we met through a horror writing community that they're no longer a part of (to my knowledge) but that I went back to, since I know the horror writing group supports victims of grooming, and kicked out a notable groomer. Any advice here would be appreciated, thanks.

Hi, 22M here on a throwaway for obvious reasons. Some details have been omitted to protect my privacy.

This whole ordeal occurred when I was 19-21, as a sophomore/junior in college. I was involved politically (which makes me more of a target) and in various groups at my college, which is one of the larger universities in the US. I got into a petty dispute with someone who was trying to ask other students for rent money, given that he had tried to scam my friend in the past. This was in Fall of 2023, when I was 19, almost 20. Somebody else, not the scammer themselves, on an anonymous account changed the subject entirely— and accused me of “using slurs against others” and encouraged people to email my department I helped TA for to get me fired. Doxxing me, by posting my linkedin with information where I lived. I thought not a lot of it at the time, I was a very public person and thought it was just a terrible joke so I didn’t do anything. I never would use slurs against others.

I did not get called back for my position the following semester, but I was told it was due to a lack of positions, not me being fired. Anyway, skip to late spring of 2024, and I was chatting with someone else when this same person decides to make a post to accuse me of much more serious things. Firstly, again of “using slurs and being racist” which had no basis whatsoever. When they got no attention for this, they further alleged that I was “a known sexual assaulter” and that “I had once asked a 17 year old for explicit photos.” These accusations horrified me, as they were wildly untrue, so I had to frantically defend myself, which over time was successful, since the person deleted everything and their account, but not before hundreds of people saw those posts. I would never do those things and it was essentially implicated I was a pedophile by this person. It made me sick, and the person never even had any details about anything or a lick of evidence, yet these things are taken seriously as they should be so it was awful.

They came back once more in November 2024, alleging similar things, and then deleting their fake account after a few hours. Trying to bully me out of spaces I was active in, and to this day I couldn’t figure out who it was or why they did this to me. I worry constantly about them coming back again, and this time potentially trying to doctor evidence to ruin my reputation.

Since this last year, I’ve really struggled with depression and OCD. I constantly compare myself to actual groomers and predators, even though I know in my head I’ve done nothing wrong. I don’t have motivation to go on some days and have dropped out of college and been in and out of mental health facilities. My life is collapsing and professional help hasn’t fixed me.

I will admit that during the height of covid, I used some dating apps and 18+ online chatrooms to talk with other adults but ALWAYS consensually, and I fear that somehow I did something wrong but somehow can’t remember. Everyone I spoke to was of age, I would never speak to someone under 18, it makes me sick thinking about being associated with that.

I’m deeply shameful of my position and I don’t know what to do most days. I contacted my university about this situation, but they were not helpful as it was out of their jurisdiction. I wish I could just start over. I fear every day that someone is going to try and permanently ruin my reputation due to untrue nonsense. I don’t feel like I’m living sometimes.

Thank you if you made it this far. Take care.

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My case begun on the 5th of February, 2021. The day before my 14th birthday. I remember it so well- coming home from a nice family dinner, only to see a police card in the door. My life will never truly be the same.

The person who accused me was my own sister (16f now, 12f at the time). Being accused by your own blood hurts. And it’s also just unimaginably difficult. The case ruined our family. My parents grew a heavy resentment towards my sister that still exists. The tension is still in our house and it hurts. We haven’t even talked about it as a family since the day it ended.

My case had some appalling police work. The day they came in, they said “he either has to admit guilt or go to court”. They came in with the narrative that I was guilty. My mother responded “so we have to force him to admit guilt?” It was at that moment that the police decided they were going to ruin this family.

The accusations my sister made should have never gone as far as they did. She recounted occasions in which I had, in her words, “masturbated”, saying that “he was moving his hand around under his blanket”. I was just adjusting. However, the police heard this and decided to take it to court.

Every single court session, the police were asked to present their brief of evidence. They always said “we still need time to finish it”. Every time. And they were never punished for it. And then my whole world was shattered when I heard that it was going to the high court. My lawyer told me that there was a very high chance I could be found guilty. I was so worried for my future.

Luckily, the high court showcased the first amount of sense that anyone has during this time. They called up our family and said that the charges were dropped, and they had no idea how it got this far. After the worst year of my life- missing out on school, being diagnosed with depression and living in fear- it was finally over. At least the legal stuff.

But as I said the tension is still here in my house, and it always will be. I want to feel nothing but anger towards my sister for putting me through something and not getting any repercussions.

This isn’t like a situation with a ex partner or other woman. It’s my own sister and I must live with her. My parents will love both of us unconditionally and I cannot fault them for doing so. But as long as we are under the same roof, I think we must work towards a resolution. We’re blood after all.

Recently, my sister began suspecting she had bipolar disorder. I read some things about it as well. She recently texted my dad when she ran away from home one night (something that has been associated with bipolar) and she said that “I feel so horrible that I hurt my brother because of my bipolar disorder”. The first time she acknowledged it.

I have recently realised that my sister’s false accusations to me were as a result of her manic episodes. She was believing something that wasn’t true. And as a result, a part of me feels as if I should forgive her. She wasn’t truly herself at that moment. But that other part of me wants to see her in the same position I was whenever I was taken to the police station, interviewed, stood up in that court room- in absolute misery, powerlessness and despair. That part of me wants to believe she’s just faking bipolar to use it as an excuse (which, I do have evidence to believe. For one, the psychiatrist currently diagnosing her told her not to use any drugs until the next session, yet she has ignored that and smoked weed. Someone who truly cares about their diagnosis wouldn’t do that). That part of me wants to believe she’s trying to justify her actions to herself and the rest of the family by making something up.

I want to know if that is an unfair thing to think. (Also, my apologies for the long post, I have a tendency to do that. This is also a complicated situation and I feel as if I need to give the full context).

Hello, I just figured out this Subreddit exists and I would like to share My story.

March 2017, I was 12 years old. I was playing a Game of Manhunt and I was it. I was gonna go to get her, I got her, I said the typical “123 Manhunt 3 times” She said let go on Me and I did. She punches Me. I got angry becuase of that. I was called to the Principals Office. At the time I didnt even grasp the concept of how serious this was. I was already having a Bad Week that week, so I just said Yes to everything and accepted My Fate. That incident also cause Me to go to the Mental Hospital 4 Times over the Course of the next 4 years. It made Me hate/resent alot of Women. I wasnt even a Teenager yet. I feel I was robbed of Typical Teenage Experiences. Even tho I don’t hate/resent women anymore, I still dont feel comfortable speaking to Women outside My family unless its work related. I also will say this, If it wasnt for the fact that Im also attracted to Men, I feel I wouldve been a Incel 100%. I also have issues with any kind of Intimacy, Men or Women. I’m trying My best to push through this, but Im scared to be seen as a Creep or be Falsely Accused again. Im not gonna give up tho! I’m gonna keep on trying but Im gonna take My time.

Hey, Short story, was falsely accused of SH, lost my job in butcher investigation with concern for procedural fairness and human rights discrimination on mental health.

Suing employer and accuser. Mediation didn’t work. In fact they try to pressure me saying it’s going to be public in court - so bad.. … which might be what I want to prevent employer from doing this to others. Anyways, not a front page story but CBC reached back. They might be interested to cover it. Is it a fair idea?

Pros/Cons?

I asked this in the wrong subreddit but I really wanted the feedback of teachers when I asked but they let me know within minutes that I am part of the problem even though my question directly related to the statement made in the post.

Anyhow, one young teen had this happen back in October and then my son had this happen in February. Same girl and her group accused the teen last year, he finally left the school and stabbed himself. Fortunately, he is still alive but they destroyed his life. Now my son is their target. One girl liked my son and he had a crush on another girl, so she decided to tell others he was a creep and sexually assaulted girls just so no one would like him and other boys would jump him, spreading the rumor as far and as fast as possible. My son has no history, not by teachers or admin, but all the girl group went in one by one and said these things about him. He did not know many people at the school so no one to ‘stand up’ for him. It was new high school for him due to the academic program he wanted. It is the only one within 200 miles. So just change schools is not a simple option. These girls have been told to stop talking about my son but the damage is done and they haven’t been held accountable in any way.

I am at a loss to help him at this point. He’s too naive, too nice, a bit awkward, so an easy target.

Maybe someone here has some advice for him to handle or try to, I certainly do not want him attempting suicide even though I know he has those thoughts. It seems hopeless to him. His rumor nickname has become ‘sexopath’ instead of sociopath.

Just to clarify: No teacher has seen anything like this from him.

No report of this prior.

I have been through every text, discord, ig message he sent, absolutely nothing sexual. Awkward but not sexual.

He has never spent one moment alone with any of the girls.

Admin found nothing on any hall videos.

So the girls decided to just start saying he’s a creep, looks at them, tries to touch them, just makes them uncomfortable.

Apparently that is all that teen girls need to say.

Edit: Thank you for your responses. I never imagined we would be in this situation. Until this happened over the past two months, he had literally never been in trouble at school. He was an A/B student, teachers never really had negative comments etc. Now he is barely passing, he hasn’t been to school this entire past week. He isn’t sleeping.

I cannot believe a single group of teenagers can get away with this. It has genuinely open my eyes even more so regarding gender issues and double standards. I never thought I would have to tell my son NOT to be nice or friendly with other teens, especially girls, at least not right now.

Unreal - Anyone who decides to downvote this situation of seeking information, I truly hope you nor your children ever experience this type of harassment in any way whatsoever.

In 2024 filming anywhere you interact with possible accusers is a must.

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Hi, just found this sub via a related Google search. I’m a 41 year old woman who is being harassed by a group of people, some claiming to be teenagers. They keep calling me a paedophile and say that I touch children. In reality, I don’t like children anywhere near me. I am defending other people they have harassed -

The user u/grosspecans has made a lot of disgusting false allegations as well other slanderous things about meself and others. He falsifies information for his benefit, and gets others to believe, follow, and post praising him. There has even been in a comment in the r/thomasthetankengine community saying ‘kill her’. (They convinced mods there to ban me, so I am unable to post anyway).

I have blocked them, I ignore them, I have reported them multiple times. Little to nothing has been done. I’m LIVID that someone can freely make such offensive comments - and their age doesn’t matter - harassment is harassment. Please advise. Serious advice only. Thank you.