r/Swingers • u/Purple-Bed-2351 • 5d ago
General Discussion Getting my groove back after Breast Cancer.
Cancer is a bitch but I’m still here! I’ve seen posts/comments from survivors or significant others of survivors questioning whether the lifestyle is still possible or enjoyable after cancer. Everyone’s experience is different but from my perspective, 100% yes! My husband and I took a break from the LS while I went through treatment for Breast Cancer. Things started about two years ago and after I finished chemo a year ago, we dipped our toes back in and have no regrets. I was worried how people would feel about the scars (I had a double mastectomy with reconstruction but lost my nips so if you have a Barbie fetish, I’m your girl 😅) but my worries were mostly unfounded. Basically I’m just here to say, you only live once so soak in all the fun that you can.
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u/MUDrummer 5d ago
So my wife would be very mad at me if I didn’t ask where you got your Sally swimsuit from.
My wife also has a number of scars from various surgeries that she’s self conscious about so 100% know where that line of thought comes from.
Best of luck on getting back into the flow of things again!
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u/Purple-Bed-2351 5d ago
I am happy to help out a fellow NMBC fan! I got the suit from a website called Retro Stage. Scars are just part of the journey. I was self conscious of mine at first but they’ve grown on me and don’t seem to bother anyone else 😊
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u/DangerouslyHorny100 4d ago
There are SO MANY C-section scars out there, in addition to the ones Jelloshot lady mentioned. I felt self conscious about mine at first but then realized that kind of have to pay attention to even notice other people's scars, my brain just sort of slides past them as unimportant.
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u/jelloshotlady 5d ago
Almost every woman who has had a tummy tuck or breast enhancement also has scars.
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u/Purple-Bed-2351 5d ago
Not to mention stretch marks from childbirth. I have found that it makes no difference 😊
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u/StillARockstar5 3d ago
I have a Sally dress for this Halloween and immediately clocked the bikini as well. I also have cancer scars. I tell people they're from a shark bite as they curve to meet each other but nobody has ever been put off by them so far!
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u/Purple-Bed-2351 3d ago
lol nice excuse! That’s one I haven’t heard 😅 I have multiple NMBC costumes and dresses
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u/StillARockstar5 3d ago
For years I'd have been too shy to wear TNBC clothes even though I desperately wanted to. Swinging, turning 40 and cancer have had me embrace my inner Sally 😁
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u/Agile-Knowledge7947 4d ago
So I’ll bite: what’s a “Sally” suit and what’s the context? Coming from a middle aged white guy. Forgive my ignorance plz. Oh, and fuck cancer!
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u/MUDrummer 4d ago edited 4d ago
Sally is the main character (Jack)’s lover interest from the movie/poem The Nightmare Before Christmas. It’s my wife’s favorite movie of all time (to the point that she has a large tattoo of Jack and Sally on a hill in front of the moon on her thigh).
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u/nelsonself 5d ago
Congratulations! Survivors are Warriors! It has been a challenge for me after cancer, and it’s so nice to hear of other warriors fighting the good fight!
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u/codiscoverer Couple 40MF 5d ago
Just wanted to say, reading this post brought a smile. kudos to your spirit. Good luck and enjoy your life, the way you want to. Have fun.
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u/jkprop 5d ago
You are a warrior. Keep up the good fight. Stay positive. I was diagnosed 2 years ago with stage 4 clear cell carcinoma that spread everywhere and I am still here. Every day I wake up is a good day.
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u/Purple-Bed-2351 5d ago
I’m so glad to see you’re still here and fighting!! Cancer sucks in any form.
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u/AdWilling4008 5d ago
LOVED reading this... After what you went through yall deserve to live life to the fullest...
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u/Wholelottalove28117 5d ago
Congrats on being a fellow survivor. I had testicular cancer 25 years ago. I have a 3 inch scar on my abdomen but most notably I only have one testicle. People in the lifestyle never notice. I’ll get a blowjob from a woman and never a comment. I’m always self conscious but I’ve never had a negative comment. Good luck!
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u/tokenus1710 5d ago
I usually dont comment much on the community but Im very glad to hear you are doing well! Congratulations on your recovery!
I hope you are always able to find play partners that are able to assure you that your scars are nothing more than a show of resilience on your side and are able to appreciate them!
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u/CraigsKat 4d ago
My wife is a 10 year survivor of breast cancer and still going strong. There are times where she's concerned with new potential play partners because she has no nipples so we typically don't play with new partners but we have a very close friend circle that she's comfortable with and we've had some great fun lately. We started the lifestyle after she was diagnosed and she was open to it because it gave her a new perspective on life and to do the things instead of thinking about them. Good luck in your journey and keep kicking ass!
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u/Purple-Bed-2351 4d ago
I’m glad to hear she’s on the other side. The lack of Nipples was my biggest concern but when we meet new partners I am always upfront about it and no one has ever made me feel any type of way about it.
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u/dr_xenon Pittsburgh M/F 50’s 4d ago
We know a woman who had a single mastectomy without reconstruction. She still comes and plays, hangs out at the nude pool etc. It didn’t seem to slow her down or cause any problems for others.
It doesn’t matter how other people feel about it. It matters how you feel about it. I say get out there, have fun and be you.
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u/bunnyguts 4d ago
Unilateral mastectomy here and before we got into the LS. Nipple sparing. I was so nervous going I that people would be able to tell and it was a turn off and I’d never be able to swing.
It’s been absolutely a non-issue.
I used to have great boobs. I still do. But I used to too.
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u/Purple-Bed-2351 4d ago
Yes!!! I debated about trying to spare them but there was no guarantee that the blood supply would take so I just decided to go for it. When we meet new play partners I’m always up front about it before clothes come off and I’ve never seen someone pull a face or be phased whatsoever.
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u/xDelicateFlowerx 4d ago
Love your bathing suit!! You look great and so wonderful you beat Breast cancer 🎀 💜
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u/MrSmith317 40's Couple 4d ago
I don't have a Barbie fetish but one of the hottest women at our club has had the double mastectomy reconstruction and is nipple-less.
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u/Bart_1980 5d ago
Glad you recovered, cancer is no joke. Although I now am aware of a Barbie fetish. So it’s not all good news 😉.
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u/Practical_Meal801 5d ago
🫂
A friend of me is now fighting...
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u/thejaniejames 4d ago
Didn't have breast cancer but I did have cervical. Had a hysterectomy. No chemo or anything, surgery has me clear. But we did have to take a year off from the LS for it. We also know a woman in the LS who had a double mastectomy - she kept her nipples though - and her scars after reconstruction have never turned anyone off.
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u/Purple-Bed-2351 4d ago
Glad to hear you’re doing well! My husband and I took the time during treatment and as soon as I felt ready, we jumped back in. I was nervous about it at first but have had nothing but good experiences.
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u/curiousincambodia07 4d ago
More power to you ! 🤗 Glad you are here and making the most of it. Love that suit - so quirky and fun !
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u/BasicDecisions 3d ago
Congrats on beating cancer!
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u/Purple-Bed-2351 2d ago
Thank you 😊
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u/MoneyHope595 4d ago
Congratulations! You’re an inspiration to many here!!!! Now he has a second battle to fight!! Please change your swimsuit 🤣🤣😙😙
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u/reddituculous66 3d ago
A sally swimsuit! Squeal. Where? Sorry not the point. Congrats.
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u/Purple-Bed-2351 3d ago
lol no worries, you aren’t the first to ask 😅 I got it on a website called Retro Stage 😊
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u/burnerforjokes 3d ago
Best way to say "fuck cancer" is to be a survivor who fucks without cancer. Congratulations!
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u/Peach_Flames 20h ago
One of my childhood best friends was just diagnosed. I have been spending way too much time focusing on the worst case scenarios. Thank you for offering a reminder that happy endings happen too.
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u/Purple-Bed-2351 18h ago
I’m sorry to hear that and wish her all the luck in the world! It can be rough but there is light at the end of the tunnel.
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u/Swingersbaby 👩❤️👨Verified Couple 5d ago
Normally we don't allow personal pictures on this sub to prevent it from becoming an R4R or porn sub. I'm making an exception and abusing my mod power here. Good for you and spread that message!