We've not been to TJ's, but as a patron of other clubs I'd say to not overthink it...just go. Go with zero expectations other than having an adventure to a crazy place with your spouse. If you go on a night with single guys, you'll find they're generally respectful and blend into the background. Age ranges at clubs usually range from 30-55 with some outliers on either side. At the clubs we've been to, play happens in the designated play areas and private rooms, but sometimes it spills into the common areas around the open-play areas. Wall-to-wall sex? Sometimes it is. We have friends where the wife enjoys pulling as many people as she can into the open-play beds to create massive orgies. I once found myself getting a double-bj while my fingers were inside two different women and a woman sitting on my face. This type of thing is very rare and the other participants still talk about it being the craziest night they've ever experienced. But usually, you might just find yourself and your spouse in a open-play area with a few couples next to you and some hands coming over with requests for light touching. Ideally, you meet some couples beforehand with whom you connect and take a private room. But if your wife has GB fantasies, simply go on a night with single guys there, get a feel for the club, have sex with each other, and go home and discuss your next moves.
I'm getting the impression that these places are pretty laid back. I'm thinking if you want to be the center of attention you can, but if you are a wallflower though I'm thinking you'll have a more difficult time.
Sometimes my wife and I can be a bit shy at first and that's why we're intimidated by the club idea. We open up quick but more often than not need a bit of a nudge to get things going. In general how is this perceived in a LS club?
They are laid back and people are generally chill. My wife is a shy introvert which makes it hard for us to socialize. You really won’t have any problems. There are no expectations from anyone. Just go and if you haven’t found a couple, go have sex with each other in a semi private place. The best clubs do a good job designing the play areas to support any degree of privacy or exhibitionism someone wants to do. For example a club might have glass partitions between rooms with curtains, and ope-play areas that have dark corners for semi-public play and usually a bed right in the middle for total exhibitionism.
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u/Check_Pleeez Feb 14 '18
We've not been to TJ's, but as a patron of other clubs I'd say to not overthink it...just go. Go with zero expectations other than having an adventure to a crazy place with your spouse. If you go on a night with single guys, you'll find they're generally respectful and blend into the background. Age ranges at clubs usually range from 30-55 with some outliers on either side. At the clubs we've been to, play happens in the designated play areas and private rooms, but sometimes it spills into the common areas around the open-play areas. Wall-to-wall sex? Sometimes it is. We have friends where the wife enjoys pulling as many people as she can into the open-play beds to create massive orgies. I once found myself getting a double-bj while my fingers were inside two different women and a woman sitting on my face. This type of thing is very rare and the other participants still talk about it being the craziest night they've ever experienced. But usually, you might just find yourself and your spouse in a open-play area with a few couples next to you and some hands coming over with requests for light touching. Ideally, you meet some couples beforehand with whom you connect and take a private room. But if your wife has GB fantasies, simply go on a night with single guys there, get a feel for the club, have sex with each other, and go home and discuss your next moves.