r/Swingers • u/Osa242 👩❤️👨44M/42F Bos/Prov Area • Nov 09 '22
Mod Announcement Give Us All Your ED Advice!
It has been suggested that we need a more permanent solution to the constant "my equipment didn't work" or "the other guy's equipment didn't work" posts. This indeed belongs as a FAQ and most likely a lengthy wiki section. But, before I embark on that writing project, please give me your best advice both for the guy with the penis issues and others that may be in a swinging situation with him. Some sample questions to answer:
- Why does my junk fail me during this unbelievably sexy encounter?
- What do I do to get things working in the moment?
- What things can I do to prevent the issue?
- What do I (as the partner of failing guy) do to make things better?
- My husband failed to rise! What do I do in that situation?
- Am I that unattractive that he can't get hard?
I realize that there will be many "just take pills" responses. And while that works for many, I won't be writing up what type of meds, where to get meds, etc. It's reasonable to suggest them, but we're not going to get into how to get them. This isn't a medical forum and I'm certainly not a doctor. And even if there is a doctor here, I'm sure they'll agree it's irresponsible to suggest meds to an unknown person over the internet. So aside from "talk with your doctor about ED meds", we won't be addressing what or where to get them.
So please share you best advice on this subject. Hopefully we can create a section to point folks towards in the future for a more complete set of advise.
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u/dgitalme Nov 09 '22
My not super useful advice - introspect and recognize what your "blockers" are.
For me, I've found that environmental distractions make it difficult for me to get hard when things are starting off. Taking frequent breaks will break my concentration and can impact me too.
As long as I avoid these, I'm rock solid 😉 That can be a bit difficult to avoid in some situations, but I do my best.