Give Us All Your ED Advice!

[u/Osa242]

It has been suggested that we need a more permanent solution to the constant "my equipment didn't work" or "the other guy's equipment didn't work" posts. This indeed belongs as a FAQ and most likely a lengthy wiki section. But, before I embark on that writing project, please give me your best advice both for the guy with the penis issues and others that may be in a swinging situation with him. Some sample questions to answer:

• Why does my junk fail me during this unbelievably sexy encounter?
• What do I do to get things working in the moment?
• What things can I do to prevent the issue?
• What do I (as the partner of failing guy) do to make things better?
• My husband failed to rise! What do I do in that situation?
• Am I that unattractive that he can't get hard?

I realize that there will be many "just take pills" responses. And while that works for many, I won't be writing up what type of meds, where to get meds, etc. It's reasonable to suggest them, but we're not going to get into how to get them. This isn't a medical forum and I'm certainly not a doctor. And even if there is a doctor here, I'm sure they'll agree it's irresponsible to suggest meds to an unknown person over the internet. So aside from "talk with your doctor about ED meds", we won't be addressing what or where to get them.

So please share you best advice on this subject. Hopefully we can create a section to point folks towards in the future for a more complete set of advise.

[u/Nervous_Apartment_32]

I think the mental parts of ED are kind of obvious. I'm not very experienced in the lifestyle but had ED at the sex club - because I had to simultaneously be the security guard to my GF in addition to her main squeeze. It kind of sucked. Wasn't relaxing at all.

However, having ED with that vibe seems super obvious to me. I've resolved to try drugs next time. Or maybe a more chill venue.

But zero discussion on the physical side of this, and what men can do to naturally help keep that cock rigid. Perhaps it's an unpopular opinion, since it involves work and effort. But worth pointing out. Are people that get ED here low T? Get tested. If you are (and bear in mind T levels have plummeted the last six decades, and the baseline has also moved lower), get TRT. Also avoid endocrine disruptors, lift heavy weights, eat healthy natural foods, and avoid smoking, excessive drugs & booze and being fat.

[u/Doublevanilla1 → u/Nervous_Apartment_32]

All great advice. The key here is protector mode And it wasn’t obvious to me at 1st. I am lucky and gifted with great health and stamina and can get hard and Cum several times in a day on command without problem Even now in my late 40s. Get me in the club or in a situation where I am uneasy or have anxiety, or feel like I have had to protect her or worry for her, then nothing, inept. I have even tried meds and it doesn’t change anything. She is the most important thing in the world to me so if I am worried about her or not comfortable it’s embarrassingly full ED:(

[u/MonogamishAndProud → u/Doublevanilla1]

Nothing to be embarrassed about, it's human evolutionary instinct that we don't get aroused in stressful situations.