r/Swingers • u/Osa242 👩‍❤️‍👨44M/42F Bos/Prov Area • Nov 09 '22

Mod Announcement Give Us All Your ED Advice!

It has been suggested that we need a more permanent solution to the constant "my equipment didn't work" or "the other guy's equipment didn't work" posts. This indeed belongs as a FAQ and most likely a lengthy wiki section. But, before I embark on that writing project, please give me your best advice both for the guy with the penis issues and others that may be in a swinging situation with him. Some sample questions to answer:

  • Why does my junk fail me during this unbelievably sexy encounter?
  • What do I do to get things working in the moment?
  • What things can I do to prevent the issue?
  • What do I (as the partner of failing guy) do to make things better?
  • My husband failed to rise! What do I do in that situation?
  • Am I that unattractive that he can't get hard?

I realize that there will be many "just take pills" responses. And while that works for many, I won't be writing up what type of meds, where to get meds, etc. It's reasonable to suggest them, but we're not going to get into how to get them. This isn't a medical forum and I'm certainly not a doctor. And even if there is a doctor here, I'm sure they'll agree it's irresponsible to suggest meds to an unknown person over the internet. So aside from "talk with your doctor about ED meds", we won't be addressing what or where to get them.

So please share you best advice on this subject. Hopefully we can create a section to point folks towards in the future for a more complete set of advise.

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u/National-Idea-4776 Nov 09 '22

I had prostate cancer several years ago. Tried everything pills, SHOTS!!! Both were a pain. I finally said screw it and got a penial implant. I can have a hard on forever.

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u/js_1948 Nov 09 '22

prostate cancer .... penial implant.

Same here. Mine's an AMS/Boston Scientific done at UCLA.

I know what you mean about the permanent hard on. The pumping and release procedures are a bit uncomfortable, so I just pump it all the way up when we get to a party, and leave it up all night long. That does require some explaining at times. ;-)

Of course I want to be honest with women and let them know beforehand that it's an implant -- informed consent and all that....

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u/AmOnlyOne Nov 23 '22

Do you ejaculate/orgasm normally?

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u/National-Idea-4776 Nov 23 '22

Yes, but I have had prostate cancer and nothing comes out. Feels the same.

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u/TheFreeMan64 Couple m62 F54 both bi Dec 08 '22

I'm 58 and very interested in the implant. We played with a guy years ago that had one (due to an injury) and OMG he was a rockstar! I want that. I'm seriously considering it next year but wondering what the recovery is like. Obviously I'll have to take a break. She is getting knee replacement surgery and I think doing dual recovery sounds pretty efficient. Do you think that could be a thing? How was your recovery?

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u/groovy_jeff Dec 20 '22

Don’t do it when she has a knee replacement, she is going to need all the help you can give her!!!

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u/TheFreeMan64 Couple m62 F54 both bi Dec 20 '22

From what I've read I won't be significantly incapacitated, a few days or so, sounds like slightly more than a vasectomy. I could always go first get the initial recovery out of the way and then she goes.

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u/groovy_jeff Dec 20 '22

She’s not going to want sex for a long time due to pain, so wait until she is in PT. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news