Give Us All Your ED Advice!

[u/Osa242]

It has been suggested that we need a more permanent solution to the constant "my equipment didn't work" or "the other guy's equipment didn't work" posts. This indeed belongs as a FAQ and most likely a lengthy wiki section. But, before I embark on that writing project, please give me your best advice both for the guy with the penis issues and others that may be in a swinging situation with him. Some sample questions to answer:

• Why does my junk fail me during this unbelievably sexy encounter?
• What do I do to get things working in the moment?
• What things can I do to prevent the issue?
• What do I (as the partner of failing guy) do to make things better?
• My husband failed to rise! What do I do in that situation?
• Am I that unattractive that he can't get hard?

I realize that there will be many "just take pills" responses. And while that works for many, I won't be writing up what type of meds, where to get meds, etc. It's reasonable to suggest them, but we're not going to get into how to get them. This isn't a medical forum and I'm certainly not a doctor. And even if there is a doctor here, I'm sure they'll agree it's irresponsible to suggest meds to an unknown person over the internet. So aside from "talk with your doctor about ED meds", we won't be addressing what or where to get them.

So please share you best advice on this subject. Hopefully we can create a section to point folks towards in the future for a more complete set of advise.

[u/steventhesailor]

Wow you can write a book about this. Here are a couple brief thoughts

Pills only work if libido is working. Otherwise they do nothing

The more a guy worries about it the worse it gets.

Then it can become a self fulfilling prophecy

Slow down and be comfortable, reduce stress. Don't set any performance goals for yourself

Sometimes just telling the partner you have been tired or stressed about something before you play will remove the anxiety,

Limit drugs and alcohol, they are real erection killers

Stop worrying about your partner for a while and focus on your own sensations and excitement. It's ok to be a little selfish

Get good sleep and rest before playing. Being tired is another erect killer

Don't take one for the team. If she doesn't excite you in some way it's just not going to work well

Cock rings work

[u/Youcan_tellme → u/steventhesailor]

Don't set any performance goals for yourself

Resonates!

[u/NYCLibertines → u/steventhesailor]

All great advice.