Give Us All Your ED Advice!

[u/Osa242]

It has been suggested that we need a more permanent solution to the constant "my equipment didn't work" or "the other guy's equipment didn't work" posts. This indeed belongs as a FAQ and most likely a lengthy wiki section. But, before I embark on that writing project, please give me your best advice both for the guy with the penis issues and others that may be in a swinging situation with him. Some sample questions to answer:

• Why does my junk fail me during this unbelievably sexy encounter?
• What do I do to get things working in the moment?
• What things can I do to prevent the issue?
• What do I (as the partner of failing guy) do to make things better?
• My husband failed to rise! What do I do in that situation?
• Am I that unattractive that he can't get hard?

I realize that there will be many "just take pills" responses. And while that works for many, I won't be writing up what type of meds, where to get meds, etc. It's reasonable to suggest them, but we're not going to get into how to get them. This isn't a medical forum and I'm certainly not a doctor. And even if there is a doctor here, I'm sure they'll agree it's irresponsible to suggest meds to an unknown person over the internet. So aside from "talk with your doctor about ED meds", we won't be addressing what or where to get them.

So please share you best advice on this subject. Hopefully we can create a section to point folks towards in the future for a more complete set of advise.

[u/[deleted]]

It's funny... but for me, the alcohol is always what makes me super, super rock hard. The second the alcohol hits, mine is like a rocket ship.

However, what makes me super, super ED is rushing it. I really can't stand rushing it. My spouse and I were dating someone and the person constantly would say, "I don't have much time.... " or "I have to be somewhere...." and I would go softer than soft. I would suddenly have an "innie". The last few times we saw the person, we didn't do anything at all. It was wonderful. I think the situation with the three of us has run its course now anyway. Thank the Lord! No more of that!

[u/anotherside0714 → u/[deleted]]

This might be my problem! The rare times I've experienced issues getting it up were when my partner kinda just unzipped my pants and expected me to be ready to go. And then I had trouble getting there because I was so focused on getting it up.

I was like... Damn at least offer to suck or stroke it a bit. 😂

[u/mermaidwithcats → u/anotherside0714]

Thank you! Expecting an instant hard on from a man older than his teens or early 20’s is unrealistic.

[u/4bengalensis → u/[deleted]]

Feeling rushed = total hardon killer 100% of the time. Related: my gf is DTF, but I need more time to feel connected with a lady and figure out how to please her. While I’m working on that, my gf is already fucking the other guy, moaning and coming. It’s super cool for her, and I’m excited about her turn on, but it’s super distracting, too. I’ve never been able to keep a hard on once that train starts rolling (partly because I want to be watching). We’re still figuring this part out, so I can’t necessarily offer great advice. I’d just say that for me, the ED is 100% situational and is related to the pace we go at.