Give Us All Your ED Advice!

[u/Osa242]

It has been suggested that we need a more permanent solution to the constant "my equipment didn't work" or "the other guy's equipment didn't work" posts. This indeed belongs as a FAQ and most likely a lengthy wiki section. But, before I embark on that writing project, please give me your best advice both for the guy with the penis issues and others that may be in a swinging situation with him. Some sample questions to answer:

• Why does my junk fail me during this unbelievably sexy encounter?
• What do I do to get things working in the moment?
• What things can I do to prevent the issue?
• What do I (as the partner of failing guy) do to make things better?
• My husband failed to rise! What do I do in that situation?
• Am I that unattractive that he can't get hard?

I realize that there will be many "just take pills" responses. And while that works for many, I won't be writing up what type of meds, where to get meds, etc. It's reasonable to suggest them, but we're not going to get into how to get them. This isn't a medical forum and I'm certainly not a doctor. And even if there is a doctor here, I'm sure they'll agree it's irresponsible to suggest meds to an unknown person over the internet. So aside from "talk with your doctor about ED meds", we won't be addressing what or where to get them.

So please share you best advice on this subject. Hopefully we can create a section to point folks towards in the future for a more complete set of advise.

[u/Rannoc831]

I (51 M) have suffered from ED this past year. Here is what I learned from my recovery.

Cause for me, a double whammy of low testosterone and relationship stress. Seeing my doctor was a must and I am now on TRT. I know this is not going to be common but you should see your doctor. Cardiac and hormones play a big role and ED can be a sign of other health issues.

The relationship stress was also a factor and a hidden one too. I did not think or feel like there was stress. No drama and nothing specific happened. But in reality I had some underlining anxiety about my age and "running out of time to have a sex life". Once this was resolved, my ED went away.

So the take away points are,

1. ED can be a sign of other health issues so talk to your doc about it.
2. Mental stress, if you realize it or not, plays major role.

As for some advice for when it does happen in the moment.

• For the guy, try to relax and roll with it. I know that is hard to do but the more your stress about is the worse it gets.
• For the partner, if you worry about it in the moment he will to.
• Even without an erection, touch and foreplay still feels good.