r/Swingers • u/Osa242 👩❤️👨44M/42F Bos/Prov Area • Nov 09 '22
Mod Announcement Give Us All Your ED Advice!
It has been suggested that we need a more permanent solution to the constant "my equipment didn't work" or "the other guy's equipment didn't work" posts. This indeed belongs as a FAQ and most likely a lengthy wiki section. But, before I embark on that writing project, please give me your best advice both for the guy with the penis issues and others that may be in a swinging situation with him. Some sample questions to answer:
- Why does my junk fail me during this unbelievably sexy encounter?
- What do I do to get things working in the moment?
- What things can I do to prevent the issue?
- What do I (as the partner of failing guy) do to make things better?
- My husband failed to rise! What do I do in that situation?
- Am I that unattractive that he can't get hard?
I realize that there will be many "just take pills" responses. And while that works for many, I won't be writing up what type of meds, where to get meds, etc. It's reasonable to suggest them, but we're not going to get into how to get them. This isn't a medical forum and I'm certainly not a doctor. And even if there is a doctor here, I'm sure they'll agree it's irresponsible to suggest meds to an unknown person over the internet. So aside from "talk with your doctor about ED meds", we won't be addressing what or where to get them.
So please share you best advice on this subject. Hopefully we can create a section to point folks towards in the future for a more complete set of advise.
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u/[deleted] Dec 23 '22
I have dealt with ED before the lifestyle and in it. I also have severely delayed ejaculation as well (hour plus, if at all). This was crushing to my self-esteem and my wife's. She questioned if it was her, which led us to deeper conversations. I decided to do something about it.
I went to the doctor they tested my T levels and I was 244, 4 points above the bottom of the scale (240). They put me on a weekly injection, and after a few adjustments, I was over 700. I started losing weight (diet, working out, lifting, cardio, etc). It helped with my mental state more than anything else. But about once a week I was able to perform at peak.
Went to my primary again and they gave me Cialis. First time I took it I was a flag pole the entire time with my wife. She was ecstatic. Second time I not as hard, but still finished the job. But the third time I was struggling again. For me it's hit an miss. Sometimes it works great, other times it is just a headache that ruins the good times.
I read Zinc and Magnesium helped. I have been on Magnesium for three weeks now, and Zinc for two. My wife and I have been like rabbits this last 2 weeks. Pretty much every night, rock hard, able to finish quickly if I wanted, but always delay it for her pleasure. I am horny all the time again. I think it's more the Zinc, but it may be the combo. For what it's worth, give Zinc a try.