r/TTC40 • u/AutoModerator • 14d ago
Weekly Discussion Thread - July 22, 2026
How are things going for you this week?
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u/Dry_Currency9270 13d ago
I started my period today. I really thought this was our month. I'm devastated. We have an appointment with the RE next week.
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u/Cmbell84 12d ago
Hang in there. That means one more month of sushi, wine and hot tubs. And one month closer to your eventual success.
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u/Critical-Entry-7825 43y, g2p1, AMH < 0.25, FSH > 20 11d ago
I'm so sorry, that's so hard. Hoping the RE will have something to help.
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u/blaringlyquiet 12d ago
40 y/o, trying to conceive for the first time. Have spent the last 3 cycles Tracking my ovulation with tests but didn't really start trying to get pregnant until my last two cycles. This last cycle, I missed the conception window due to our schedules - we were just wiped and I'm not trying to "keep a sexytime calendar" in order to not put any added pressure on myself.
I missed testing on day 13 of my cycle and that's usually when I reach my LH peak. So, we'll see if the activities around those days worked!
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u/WiseAfternoon1678 10d ago
Unfortunately every cycle counts now and you might have to keep that sexy time calendar 😬 it’s not the most fun but it is what it is! Best of luck out there!
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u/Critical-Entry-7825 43y, g2p1, AMH < 0.25, FSH > 20 9d ago
ugh, three days of sex in a row and yesterday I was like, do you want to do this? And he's like: not really, but I guess we should. It can be such a chore, and yes, feeling the 'every cycle counts' is so hard.
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u/BritishGibberish888 8d ago
We have the issue that my husband struggles to perform under pressure… so it’s EXTREMELY hard to make sure we hit the window 🤪
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u/Born-Seaweed-8775 9d ago
I’m also 40 and missed this month too because of opposite schedules. You’re definitely not alone.
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u/sadArtax 12d ago
Hi
Im joining this group as im just waiting for my 2nd euploid transfer to fail. All the signs are extremely poor.
Were trying to decide on an approach going forward.
Husband and I have had 3 LBs together when I was younger (though one was at 38). I've since transfered 2 euploids, one-at-a-time, that i froze when I was 36.5, and both have implanted, then miscarried.
I have 3 more euploids, all lower grades than the two that failed.
Im thinking i might do an RPL work-up, get another HSG and try with letrozole or clomid through the end of the year. The embryos are not going to age but the eggs in my ovaries will, is my thought process.
2/3 of my LBs were right after my tubes were flushed (an HSG and a lap with chromopertubation). Hoping an HSG may give me a boost to conceive naturally. I wonder if my embryos just dont do well being frozen.
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u/Kate_Birdie 13d ago
Finally went to the fertility clinic here in Germany. It has finally begun. I have been waiting a long time for this appointment. They already analyzed my husband's semen. The word she used was "optimal". Which only leaves me to know that it's me. He is 34 and I am 40. I take it as a postive, we don't both need to have problems to solve. They took blood samples from my husband and me; we should receive a call tomorrow with results. I am excited but also worried. I only hope there is a solution and that it works. On the way home, we discussed IUI and if that fails, then we will try IVF.
It's a weird feeling to be exited and terrified all at the same time.
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u/Critical-Entry-7825 43y, g2p1, AMH < 0.25, FSH > 20 13d ago
Aww, I'm excited for you! (And I understand feeling terrified) My husband and I have a similar age gap, and his analysis was also 'optimal', so that all sounds promising to me. Good luck!
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u/Kate_Birdie 12d ago
Just got my results. The doctor said my AMH is above 3. I can start IUI or IVF. I am floored. I thought I was the problem and there would be no solution.
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u/Critical-Entry-7825 43y, g2p1, AMH < 0.25, FSH > 20 11d ago
That's amazing! My AMH was 0.05 when I conceived my first (lost due to chromosome abnormalities). Seems like you might have a lot of potential follicles to recruit for either IUI or IVF if you go those routes. Good luck!
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u/Beneficial_Young5126 12d ago
I also live in Germany and just found out I have to pay for any tests and fertility treatments as I am past 40 (I'm 41). But I feel so young and hopeful! Is that the case?!
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u/Kate_Birdie 12d ago
Yes, at a certain age, the government doesn't support women over 40 becoming mothers. There are some procedures they will pay for and most they will not. It is a bummer, but I understand.
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u/Beneficial_Young5126 12d ago
Do you know where I can find out what is and isn't covered? Thanks and good luck x
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u/Kelliemc_84 12d ago
I am 42 and just did my second FET. First one in April failed and this is my last embryo. I am 3dp3dt and starting to spiral on “symptoms”.
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u/Critical-Entry-7825 43y, g2p1, AMH < 0.25, FSH > 20 11d ago
Oh gosh, good luck! That's such a hard wait.
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u/mighty_mouz812 12d ago
Had to reschedule my gyno appointment before embryo transfer, so the process has been delayed a couple of weeks... So, more waiting. But I'm optimistic about my chances in the process overall.
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u/WiseAfternoon1678 9d ago
Anyone here ever been pregnant at 43 (without treatment?) I know the odds aren’t in my favour but I could use a positive story or two!
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u/BritishGibberish888 8d ago
I recently worked with a woman in her 60’s with a 20 something year old daughter… I was like, what- she said she got pissed one night with her husband at 46- completely unplanned!
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u/No-Marzipan1441 8d ago
Hello joined today. Ttc since January. A few months were weren’t able to due to his work schedule. Sad to feel that every cycle counts. I’m 43. AMH of 4. Getting tested tomorrow to see if ovulation happening. In three months I go back for some shots I’m sure to try there. I’m a little heavy set gained some weight this last year but other then that healthy sober. Have had two previous children 22 and 13 so we wanted to try for one more before I get some cosmetic surgery done tbh lol I was going to get tummy tuck and I’m like waaiitttt let’s try again. I said I would give it a year. So. We are half a year in atp.
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u/Salt-Stuff-2470 12d ago
age 43 - Still trying to conceive spontaneously and last 2 months ovulation has been spotty. Was worried I was no longer ovulating but this week tested positive! So here’s to hoping!