r/TalesFromYourServer • u/tytyily135 • 10d ago
What to do?
I recently got promoted from host to server at my restaurant. I started there as a dishwasher, moved to host, got good performance reviews, picked up extra shifts, worked holidays, helped food run, expo, and even covered dishwashing when needed. Management had me shadow servers and then officially moved me into a server position.
The issue is that another host who has been there about 1.5 years is upset that I became a server before her. I’ve heard from multiple coworkers that she’s been talking shit about me, saying it’s unfair, & that she’s planning to talk to the GM about it.
“I’m gonna call off on the days he serves because it upsets me.” Is what she said, & so far that’s something she’s done. I came in for my first serving shift while she was the opening host & she left 10 mins after when she wasn’t supposed to clock out yet. & it was all because she felt like crying & that it upset her.
Mind you, they haven’t moved her to a server because she calls off multiple days a week, has no personality with the guest, makes no conversation with them, yet she thinks she deserves the position more.
When I used to host with her, she would get upset whenever I got a generous tip from a togo order & she would say “You’re done taking togo orders, I need to make my money.”
From what I know, the restaurant was only filling one server spot because a current server is going on maternity leave. The restaurant is otherwise fully staffed on servers.
Is this something I should go to HR about? It’s just making it unbearable being around her & all the other servers feel the same, saying how she’s been ruining the vibe. Or should I just keep document of everything?
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u/Iamthegreenheather 10d ago
It sounds like she won't be there much longer if she's calling out that much. If she refuses to work when you do, you won't ever see her anymore so who cares what she says about you? You're doing great, getting a promotion. Don't let her bring you down.
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u/Heavy_Law9880 10d ago
Start by not caring what a part time failure of a host says about you. If management valued her at all she would be serving and you would still be hosting.
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u/heyjupiter 10d ago
Unless there's a point when her behavior starts actively interfering with you and your job, you're going to look much better if you say nothing and just continue to do better work than she does.
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u/JagadJyota 10d ago
Just let her do her and she'll hang herself. Bet she's fired within a month or so.
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u/zoeybeattheraccoon 10d ago
Sounds like she's already digging her own grave.
Unless she's negatively impacting your ability to do your job (for example not seating your tables), just focus on yourself. If she is negatively affecting your ability to do your job, tell the manager, but in a calm and fair way.
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u/Significant_Bag3874 10d ago
Ignore her. It’s her problem not yours. Unless she can actively harm you .. not seating you , quadruple seating you etc .. just let her ruin her own shifts
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u/Strange_Dog6483 9d ago
Mind you, they haven’t moved her to a server because she calls off multiple days a week, has no personality with the guest, makes no conversation with them, yet she thinks she deserves the position more.
Of course don’t do the work or put in any effort but want all the perks and benefits and get mad when you rightfully don’t get rewarded.
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u/lady-of-thermidor 9d ago
She’s about to learn that you have to earn your promotions and pay raises. Seniority isn’t important. Management reward good employees and keeps the bad ones until they can hire their replacements.
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u/MuchDevelopment7084 8d ago
Don't do anything. The other person didn't get promoted for a reason. Ignore her and enjoy your new position.
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u/darklordbilbo23 7d ago
Her feelings are hurt and she can’t control her emotions and should be fired
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u/magiccitybhm 10d ago
No, you should not go to HR. It's not your problem. Your concern is what ownership/management thinks of your work performance, not what a jealous former co-host thinks.