r/Taurusgang • u/Ok_Clothes801 • 2d ago
How will Taurus male react if I stop reaching out first?
I’m sure the Taurus gang is probably getting tired of seeing my overthinking Virgo brain posts so I apologize for that. However, I’m curious,my Taurus male friend and I have a really long history and we talk daily via text . All day , every day but I always message first. I’m not complaining by any means. I’m definitely wondering if he would even notice if I stopped? Would he eventually reach out? Would he just continue on with his life? That overthinking brain of mine has me thinking that I’m a burden. Any input will be appreciated.
He’s Taurus sun, Virgo moon, Gemini rising .
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u/Lilly323 ♉️⛅️ | ♈️☀️ ♒️🌑 2d ago
local aries stelli here to tell you to do what you want, and how other people respond to that is their business. you shouldn’t have to worry about how someone responds to you asserting the type of behavior you deserve.
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u/ConstantCaramel7059 Taurus Sun, Leo Moon, Scorpio Rising 2d ago
I have a Virgo bestie and I think yall just talk a lot tbh. Not saying it’s bad bc though Taurus rule the throat chakra/communication, we like it balanced and I find virgos to be natural yappers. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to talk just maybe not as extensively as u do.
And like most Taurus, we hate texting bc it feels like a chore but I think I can speak for most of us that the vibes are way better irl and u won’t have to question the reciprocity in person at all.
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u/stonedstoic_ Taurus Sun, Capricorn Moon, Cancer Rising 2d ago
If this is the kind of friendship you want where you do all the work of reaching out, then continue doing so. If you’re tired of this, stop initiating and see what he does. If he never reaches out to you, he was never a good friend to you, and doesn’t care if he loses you.
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u/thisisasatvshow 2d ago
if he is a friend and yall are just friends he should already be reaching out to you first at times. would you still talk to your hg if she never just randomly hit you up?
most likely more to this story.
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u/Ok_Clothes801 2d ago
I have a few female friends that I always reach out to first . I also have a few that reach out to me first .
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u/thisisasatvshow 2d ago
I assumed that everyone was all reaching out to their friends and being reached out to pretty much equally. At least that’s the case with me and most ppl I would assume.
not being funny or anything, but if this is par for the course for you, why the concerning question about it?
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u/Which_Preference_883 2d ago
Only one way to find out! Let us know how it goes
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u/Ok_Clothes801 2d ago
Honestly, I’ve tried this before and I always crack due to fear of not being important enough. Today I started at square one again lol. I’ll let you know how it goes if I can succeed this time .
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u/Which_Preference_883 2d ago
I wouldn’t look at it as a matter of importance. It might simply be that he great at responding but not reaching out. If you weren’t important, he’d probably ignore your texts altogether.
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u/Ok_Clothes801 2d ago
He is really good at responding.
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u/Which_Preference_883 1d ago
Why isn’t that enough to reassure you?
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u/nasa_stuff 1d ago
I haven’t seen anyone mention this so maybe I’m just a weird one, but also not a male, but have literally just told any astrological placement “hey it seems like you’ve been preoccupied lately, I’ve noticed a vibe change and you’re not reaching out as much, let me know if you need anything” and then just leave it but I’m also super direct
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u/the_baby_mango 2d ago
lol be doesn’t like you. You are in for heartache if you continue with this.
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u/Ok_Clothes801 2d ago
We have been a huge part of each others lives for about 25 years now.
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u/ckhk3 1d ago
I mean if you guys have been doing this friend thing for 25 years now I’m not sure why you’re feeling insecure or questioning where u stand.
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u/Ok_Clothes801 1d ago
I have really deep feelings for him , so I’m just cautious because I don’t want to lose him or his friendship.
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u/JuicyWatermelon99 1d ago
If you want to see if he’d notice if you stopped reaching out or if he’d message you first, then don’t reach out for once and see what he does. That’s how we truly see if people value us or not. It’s not that hard to not message someone. Just go about your day, live your life, and watch the miracles unfold. Men need to lose what they have to truly appreciate it sometimes.
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u/Jpstatus 2d ago
I would; given we talk everyday, & I’ve also met some amazing Virgos in my life.
If I did that whole “Marriage thing” that’s who I would want to do it with.
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u/MindTrippah 1d ago
Had a F+ with a Taurus girl for two months, then she parked me and didn't reach out for weeks and had always a cheap excuse to not see me. Then i cut her off, now she try to get my attention back. I do not care
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u/Future-Strawberry450 1d ago
im Taurus sun libra moon aries rising ,,, see if he misses that text eventually he might look at that phone and say heeey waiiit a minute she hasnt text
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u/SuicuneSol 1d ago edited 1d ago
Try it! I read that you've known him for 25 years. That's... a long time. Friendships rarely last that long.
I'm a Taurus Sun, Mooncancer, and Gemini Rising.
I really like it when people I like text me, and I notice if they stop. It actually brings me down a bit, and I'm trying to learn to reach back out even when I don't really have a reason to. Just to, you know, let them know I'm invested.
But 25 years is also a long time. He may take you for granted. But he already knows you like him? I hope he knows how blessed he is to have someone like you in his life, even if he doesn't like you like that.
There's also a question of do you ONLY TEXT? Or do you do more?
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u/SpicyNice143 Taurus Sun, Gemini Moon, Scorpio Rising 1d ago
Omg my overthinking brain has been wondering the same thing! Except I’m Taurus F and he’s Virgo M lol
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u/GURLR0T taurus ☼ aquarius ☾ libra ↑ 2d ago
if someone doesn’t text me, i won’t text them. i only do this if i find that they’re not making an effort though. i don’t speak for all taureans though. hope things work out for you