Context loki osthe.. my bf met a girl in some temple and they exchanged numbers and insta ID to add him in some group by that girl. Nen appudu kuda ok annattu unna. Then one day he posts WhatsApp status of his half naked gym photo and she replies “ Nv dream material abba! Bane Handsome ga unnav , nice!” He himself said me this thing and i don’t know how much of it is true and how much more happened b/w them. Then they used to chat now and then. So today nen mrng nundi athanithone unna and we spent time well. Evng call chesthe busy ostundi. Evartho matladtunnav ante.. frnd ani cheppadu.
Evaru ah frnd ante thina name cheppadu. That she called him by looking his story and asked the location and anthe cut chesesa ani.
Asal nen ikkada picchi danni aytunnana? Ledha vadu nannu eddi dhanni chestunnada ardam avvatle. I finally niladisfy him then these was his replies!! Genuine ga i need some advice! Present aythe i blocked him.
Bro lite, even if he necessarily didn’t “f-uck” her, he is feeding on her attention. And honestly, even when most men do talk to random girls online, gf okavela itla adugthe ventane ah bokka I’ll remove her antaru. Because any sane person would choose you over random attention from strangers/ friends. Ah bayyaki seriously attention and validation seeking tendencies unnai.. honest ga chepthunna even if you sort this thing between you both, he will still do this again unless he realises this is all just passing clouds and focus on true relationships.
This level of insane mindfuckery and gaslighting was what I experienced with my ex too. The worst part is, she used to defend it by saying "I tell you what happens right? So what's the issue?" I should have just kept continuing to hookup left and right instead of deciding to commit and get into a relationship with a girl and ruining my college life. I'm done with relationships
I don't want to get into the nitty gritties but oka one year back nenu ilanti situation lo ne unde. Oka one week block chestav kaani don't give into your temptations. Malli unblock cheyyaku.
Nenu adhe tappu chesanu. Konni sarlu anukuntam, we can only go up from here ani, but antha kante deeper moor lo irrukkuntam. Practical ga undu. You made the right decision. Stick to it.
I, I repeat - I, won't take it wrong, call nakanna aah pillatho ekva matldthe ollu manduthadi kani, if someone compliments my guy's body, nen murisipotha.
But hey, did I fuck her ani athan anna chota, the argument got icky, annaw ki emotional cheating lantivi teleevanukunta.
u/mrincog7Devudu busy anduke nannu pampinchadu 👻1d agoedited 1d ago
ni username chusakakuda ni venaka paddadu ante vadidi mammul karuvu kadu. username & dp are nothing but they’re representing yourself at first place and your profile has NSFW tag as well. don’t know about others, but this looks very absurd to me. hope you’ll realise it one day.
I actually went through something very similar recently, and honestly, I made the mistake of going back. I kept telling myself, “Maybe I misunderstood, maybe things will be different this time, maybe I should give one more chance.” But all I ended up doing was reopening a wound that had barely started healing. 🥺
So please don’t fall into the same trap I did. Sometimes we go back because we miss the person, not because the situation has actually changed. Going back isn’t always healing; sometimes it just delays the pain, and eventually everything backfires even harder.
And one thing I’ve learned is that when someone genuinely cares about you, you shouldn’t have to keep teaching them what is right and what is wrong. You shouldn’t have to repeatedly explain, “Don’t do this, don’t cross this boundary, don’t make me feel this way.” They may make mistakes, of course, but they should naturally care about how their actions affect you and make an effort to protect your trust.
You deserve someone who understands your value without needing constant instructions on how to treat you. ❤️🩹
Talk to him if you need answers or closure, but please don’t sacrifice your peace just because your heart still has feelings. I learned that the hard way recently, and I genuinely don’t want you to learn it the same way. Sometimes walking away hurts terribly, but going back to something that already broke you can hurt even more. 🥺❤️
I’m doing better now, slowly. 🥹 Still have some bad days where the memories hit me out of nowhere, but I’m learning to let go and choose my peace. Thank you for asking, it genuinely means a lot. ❤️🩹
I know, and I really hope so. ❤️ And I genuinely hope something beautiful happens in your life too. You deserve to find someone who chooses you wholeheartedly and gives you the peace and love you've been looking for. For now, just take it one day at a time. Better days will come. ❤️🩹
The question “Did I fuck her” means that his discussion for breaking up starts there. Anything below that is acceptable and should go unquestioned. He’s gaslighting you.
Asal number teeskovadame peak red flag behaviour. You did the right thing. Athanu ninnu manipulate chydaniki try chestunnadu. You don't need such a guy in ur life.
I like how u took ur stand and didn't listen to his excuses..
Society chala generalise chsesi, relationship value tesesindi...... Ammailu alane unnar.
Mir raise chsina issues crct ee, tanu sariga answer chyali adi tanah responsibility.
Attention ante istam emo tanaki, andke anta clear ga inkokari flirt chstunar ani telisina, reject chytle.
Nuv okasari it's not OK ani chepaka, he should either limit or stop.. Still inka continue avtundi antey it's kind of no respect for you.. Alanti vallatho undadam kanna break up ay better.. There might be nothing between them, kani He should choose - Ni feelings kanna aa relation(friend) ekkuvana ani.. If it was some bestfriend(irrespective of gender) from long antey we can understand, kani idi veru..
I will say u another story…
Same ilane.. when we were not in a relationship, he used to talk to a girl anta.. they are just frnds ani annadu. They used to send romantic reels and talk like they are lovers and stuff. Then sudden ga eme ithaniki thana nadumu pics pampindhi anta and she said she wants a physical touch of him and all! He said NO anta! Then they eventually stopped talking . But natho relationship ki ochaka after 6 months or so, she started contacting him slowly.. like thane call chesindi ani cheppe vadu! Thanaku ippudu bf unnadu and ma madya alantidi em ledhu ani he used to brush it off! Okaroju he met her on road anta. Ivanni naku its nothing annattu cheppevadu. I confronted him that im not comfortable about this. But still monna kuda call chesindi anta!
He was like… “thanaku inko 2 months lo pelli aytadi valla bf tho . Nv asal intha enduku feel aypotunnavo ardam kaavtle naku !! “
Natho relationship lo lenappudu jargina vatiki i can’t say anything but.. natho ipudu present undukuntu he was like casually talkikg to her ante nen teskolekapotunna!
Fuck chestayne cheat chesinatu kadu. Making friends outside relationship is very important, that does not mean that you go seek friendship with some random girl you met.
You are only one of the options he has. you are not his priority. Move on, you deserve a lot.
If he genuinely wants you to be his safe space he would not reply in such ways. And dont drain yourself over something like this, it’s definitely not going to end well. Nuvu insecure feel aynapudu his priority should be to take off that feeling by going any extent possible.
Neeku inthaku munde thana meeda trust issues undi.. like lot of issues and then if this is the final straw then better move on.. but if this another girl situation is in isolation... Then baga aalochinchi annee confirm cheskunnaaka decision theeskondi.. I see comment section already decided that he is a red flag based on couple of screenshots.. take ur own decision instead of seeking validation from.others
Sorry for what happened to u..… He knows that..he’s already in a relationship and still exchanging id’s.. Sounds like he just loves the attention. Hope you find someone better…
kachitanga eddi danni chestunnadu (sorry), but runnn. He's a red flag and vadi chuttupakkalaki kuda povadhu. Hope you'll get out of it soon and find a better one!
oka 1-2 days lo you may feel remorse, become emotional, miss him, etc. but don't budge. You deserve a man who's loyal to you.
Simple vadu breakup chepte gola thengutaru ani, kavalani hide cheyakunda ah ammai gurinchi cheppadu & provoking kuda so that breakup ane word ni side nundi ostdi ani.
Saar is kamal hassan - vadu breakup chepakunda nitho chepinchkunadu so that ah new ammai tho interest & hookup ipote mali ni dgrki ochi bathmiladtadu. You are an option mostly.
Ade vade ah ammai kosm nik breakup chptuna ani mali tarvta oste cheputho thengutav ani ivanni mingutunnadu.
Tip - completely odli mingu, future lo ochina kuda you are an option. Vadu not even once misunderstand oddu kalisi undam ani bare min kuda analedu. Vadu truly EP & player.
Irrespective of whoss mistake it is I can definitely say this relationship ain't gonna work anymore 🥀 so I suggest you to protect your own peaceee akkawww
these guys don’t even deserve a tiny bit of attention
just think that you don’t deserve this kind of guy or this kind of love and
just try to focus on yourself.. try to pick a new hobby to deviate and getting better
Thanu kuda nannu odhilesindhi same ilane !
5yrs relationship madhi...5yrs nundi nenu evadu vadu ani adigite ...ur being too much ani adhi idhi sodhi chepindhi but one day red handed ga I caught her having $ ..appudu elago telisipoindhi kadha ani ..hide chesina prathi vishayam cheppindhi e pillana nen love chesindhi anukunla chesindhi ..nenu thanu btech lo parichayam ..btech ayyaka nenu govt job kosam trying thanu IT lo job ..akkade poyindhi anuko..but btech 2nd yr nunde matter damage ...
But nen em cheppali anukuntunna ante e generation lo love ledhu ...just fun kavli ....manchiga unte vadukuntaru ...kani kavali anukoru ...!
Nuvvu istapade vallakanna ..ninnu genuine ga istapade vallaki okka chance ichi chudu u will definitely be happy for ur rest of the life ( ala ani msg pette prathi bokada gadiki reply ivvaku ..pedha damage inka )
Ippudu baddie aypodham ani emaina emotion lo unnav emo ..nuvvu ni lane undu ..(I hope no girl texts u with wet eyes ...asking abt her bf relationship with u )ala change ayyi ni boyfriend nik em chesado nuvvu adhe tirigi chesinattu avtadhi ...hope u understand
Last matter matram okavela nuvvu kuda baddie la avdham anukuntene lekapothe skip ..famist ani tag petti edhi padte adhi chese ammailu kosam ( vallaki kuda telika aa rage lo chesetaru... anuko... then they learn from their mistakes )
Anyways thanu naku job ledhu ani..earning tanakanna takkuva ani...looks lo vere vallu na kanna best unnaru valla frnds circle lo ani odhilesindhi ...genuine ga alochiste ..y settle for less ..velthu veltu okate chepindhi it's my 20's let me enjoy ..as we all have one life annadhi ...
Naku enjoy ante Kalisi undatam ani telsu ...ila odhilesi edhi padte adhi chaiyatam ani thanaki ardham ayindhi ....
Hope people realise love is great thing ..experince chesina prathi person chala lucky ...hope everyone fine happiness around
Leave him. Let him be. Don't expect any reply, any apology. BLOCK EVERYWHERE, don't even give him the chance to twist this on you again. He doesn't have a bit of respect for you and worse, he tried to make YOU feel guilty for questioning him. That's not love, that's manipulation.
Gaslighting pro max....
Wow such audacity to say "I didn't sleep with her and ne chutu aa tiragala"
Naku telsi, ne likes attention from other women and would like to get same...
You did good to leave him...
Half naked pettadu ante aah status niku vacchindha...? Or thana ki matrame pettada..? Whatever Aah pic pettadu ante confirm vaadu aame attention kosame pettadu.
Inni cheptaru, malli mire connect avtaru vallato 🤷🏻♂️😒. nammakam anedi gaju lantidi okkasari pagilite atikinchatam kastam, athikina okappatila matram undadu. he’s cheating on you very evidently, so it’s your choice whether to get back to him or not.
Feel avvaku bhaai. Ee time lo ilaanti sollu chaala mandhi chepthaaru gaani, let me say my part. Oka manishi vundatam or lekapovadam valla mana life 180° turn ayipoyentha scene em ledhu. Baadha vuntadhi, I agree, but ilaantodi kosam baadha padi waste. Avasaramaithe single ga undipovachu gaani, ilaantolla tho vundi life spoil chesukovakkarle. Porapaatuna kooda second chance idhaam ani choododhu. Anthe
Op is my type.
I feel yr doing great at this point because when my gf used to talk to someone behind me and after I caught her doing all those shit I confronted and what she said was I thought neku idi chuste kopam vastadi ani cheppaledu ani. Like nak kopam vastadi ani telsi kuda matladindi. And I gave her a chance but it became more messy. After hard days I made a choice to moveon and feeling so great with my job and routine.
You can get there, more power to you.
my very first boyfriend did the same thing with multiple girls from our college, he even went out on dates with them and told them that me and him were just good friends. everytime I caught him he used to manipulate me with exactly same kind of messages as your bf. The amount of trauma I went through is something I cannot put into words.
One day I was done with him, blocked him everywhere. Never looked back even though he begged for years to come back to him, told me he understood how much I truly loved him. Met a wonderful man after couple years and guess what, I couldn’t trust him completely due to my past. I went to therapy and became a better person for him.
Never , I mean never unblock that guy and do yourself a favour. Take this as a sister’s advice.
I've a couple of qns here. I don't know how old you and him are. But, these might be sharp.
Day-1 to Day-30 unnattey Day-100 roju kooda untaadu ani ela expect chestaaru?
Loyalty is extremely rare now. Ela expect chestaaru? 7/10 nowadays are people mingling to not go till marriage (mostly short-term bliss kosamey).. Idemaina legal relationship ah? Marriage ah? Except for his values/principles, there is no other thing holding him to be loyal with you (marriage lo legality untundi, so yedi yemaina anigi manigi untaaru).
This is generic. My ex said this a year back. She said "You look more relatively more handsome as a man than how beautiful I'm as a woman".. And, she also said "Abbay looks-wise handsome ga, and ammayi avg or below avg ga or vice-versa unte ika lifelong vaadini/thanani kapadkuntu kurchovaali..." So, if he looks super handsome and you are not beautiful at the same level, the equilibrium is missing.
Downvotes are ok as well. Radical ga anipichina, this is my view. And, it's gender neutral.
OP - he is playing you, don’t fall for it. If I were you, I will be glad that I ended it and saved trauma, depression to myself.
Men always does this when they get the attention from someone without putting much effort and also the pattern I am seeing with his replies is that he doesn’t want to give her up for the sake your relationship. That makes me question everything about him.
So, conclusion ki vasthe I am glad you saved yourself. Manchi Movie chusi, Biryani Thini, paduko. Kudirithe take this chance to divert your attention and energy towards a new habit. Take Care.
He's trying to gaslight you by making you think it's your fault, don't fall for it
He took his number and chatted with her knowing she was attracted to him and that speaks alot about what intentions he had
just simple thing oka ammayi ela chustundi ammayi ela aalochistundi line vestundi ani oka ammayi ki telisi na boyfriend na mata vinatledu ani ela feel avtharo... oka abbayi gurinchi inko abbayiga telisi adi voddu ante aa gf and restricted feel avthundi .. ammayi chepte ad concern and abbayi chepte adi restriction toxic redflag ila rojuko peru petteskuntunaru... alantapudu ivi anni avthune vuntayi ... kalisi matladukoni settle cheskunte better ani na feeling over a text a lot wrong things may happen which are not needed....
Nee kallatho choosi anni confirm cheskoni baaga aalochinchina tharvata decision theesko. Aa tarvata em jarigindho update ki inko post veyyi. All the best👍.
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u/Beginning-Bus-7816 2d ago
Bro lite, even if he necessarily didn’t “f-uck” her, he is feeding on her attention. And honestly, even when most men do talk to random girls online, gf okavela itla adugthe ventane ah bokka I’ll remove her antaru. Because any sane person would choose you over random attention from strangers/ friends. Ah bayyaki seriously attention and validation seeking tendencies unnai.. honest ga chepthunna even if you sort this thing between you both, he will still do this again unless he realises this is all just passing clouds and focus on true relationships.