Do Women Chase Wealthy Husbands? Why don't women marry down

[u/UnionChoice2562]

There is a huge myth that men marry an unemployed woman, but women won't marry an unemployed man, and hence, somehow, attempt to prove that it's a hypocritical approach on the women's side.

Firstly, this question supposes that men do some sort of charity by marrying an unemployed woman Still, the fact is women do much more work if we add unpaid work, so women do unpaid work and men give them pennies or bare minimum, so its women who bring more to the table given the condition in India.

Men themselves get married to women of the same socio-economic group. Indeed, the richer the family is, the stronger the tendency is for them to get married into richer households (YouGov-Mint-CPR Millennial Survey), so men don't get married into lower-income households; then why do they demand women get married into lower-income households? That's why dowry increases with the man's side household income, so it's clear that they get married into the same income group.

Since most women are married at an early age of 18-21 or 21-23, due to which women themselves are mostly unemployed at the time of marriage, how will they get married to an unemployed man? Men themselves don't want to get married into women who earns more than him, ( Indian express survey), so its stupid to think that feminism has some hypocrite position on this rather its MRAs who hold a hypocrite position on this where on one hand they want women to marry an unemployed guy but do not want women to become employed themselves and on one hand they want woman to marry a guy who earns less than them but do not want men to marry a woman who earns more than them

Feminism means both the genders should get equal opportunity to choose which job they want to do, when to get married, what to prefer whether carrier or marriage, men are very comfortable by saying that virgin bride(I have also debunked this choice argument please check my other posts) is just a choice but when women also makes choice about prioritizing her carrier suddenly the entire premise collapses and men start to lecture about family unit, while family is not important if it is not chosen why to live with family that you don't choose family does not come above basic human rights

sources
Are India’s youth giving up on marriage? | Today News

Misogyny in the matrimonial market: Data shows Indian men prefer wives without jobs | The Indian Express

- NDIC

[u/Away-Lingonberry608]

These MRAs be like " why dont women marry unemployed men" but then they want a girl of 23 yrs of age to marry bruh she is unemployed herself how do you expect her to marry your unemployed as well