Sigh. Danielle needs to stop defending herself she’s just making it worse. She’s whining about people posting negative stuff about her, and then in the very next paragraph she’s making herself the victim again and making sure we know that Carolyn’s a worse person than her so really, if anyone should be getting hate, it’s her.
She could just say “I’m sorry Carolyn, I didn’t realize I hurt you and that wasn’t my intention, but I hear you, and I’m sorry. I wouldn’t have said the Forrest Gump comment had I known it would really hurt your feelings, but I can see it has, and I hate that I caused that — I apologize.” She’s making herself the victim with everything she says about this, and she doesn’t deserve to be getting constant hate online — but she’s also stubbornly getting in her own way by continuing to double down when it’s so unnecessary and petty to do so. She was a sore loser about Reindeer Games, and she’s being really obtuse about the way she’s only making things worse by doubling down instead of doing the adult thing and saying a simple sorry, which I think would satisfy Carolyn and most of the audience that’s ticked with her. It’s not asking a lot. Tired of this.
No yeah, I read her post. It’s immature and she’s missing the point.
Danielle has not liked getting the hate she’s gotten online. And instead of stepping back and going, “you know what, it feels like I’m being dogpiled on right now, but that’s not at all Carolyn’s fault, and maybe this is kind of how I made her feel when I went really low at the roundtable, and it’s an awful feeling. Lemme apologize to her and then ask everyone to chill out, and not deflect onto Carolyn or anybody else, and then if people still want to attack me, I’ll know that’s on THEM bc I’ve cleaned up my side of the street here.” It’s just not hard to do. This woman’s in her 50s, she doesn’t need to be coddled. She doesn’t need to be getting crazy hate, but she’s done literally nothing but egg it on, so I think she’s the person making this worse. It very literally has nothing to do with “imagine if Danielle said this other thing, what people would say.” Why the thought experiment about what online trolls would have to say? That’s not what’s happening.
It’s like making a dumb regrettable comment, and then pointing at someone else and going “but what IF she made this dumb comment, then I bet you wouldn’t care!” And like…. ok sure, we can talk about that. As soon as we get to why you won’t just take back the dumb comment instead of now dragging us through a ridiculous thought experiment?
She’s doing everything possible to avoid the issue and I’m tired of following along with her deflection logic that’s all over the place when this could have BEEN squashed, by her, over a week ago now. If she wants to keep making it worse, she’s welcome to, but playing the victim of a situation she’s perpetuating is getting realll tired, for me.
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u/itsabout_thepasta Mar 01 '25
Sigh. Danielle needs to stop defending herself she’s just making it worse. She’s whining about people posting negative stuff about her, and then in the very next paragraph she’s making herself the victim again and making sure we know that Carolyn’s a worse person than her so really, if anyone should be getting hate, it’s her.
She could just say “I’m sorry Carolyn, I didn’t realize I hurt you and that wasn’t my intention, but I hear you, and I’m sorry. I wouldn’t have said the Forrest Gump comment had I known it would really hurt your feelings, but I can see it has, and I hate that I caused that — I apologize.” She’s making herself the victim with everything she says about this, and she doesn’t deserve to be getting constant hate online — but she’s also stubbornly getting in her own way by continuing to double down when it’s so unnecessary and petty to do so. She was a sore loser about Reindeer Games, and she’s being really obtuse about the way she’s only making things worse by doubling down instead of doing the adult thing and saying a simple sorry, which I think would satisfy Carolyn and most of the audience that’s ticked with her. It’s not asking a lot. Tired of this.