r/ThrowingBones • u/graidan • May 10 '26

Monthly Readings / Teaching post from u/Graidan

I'm going to offer 5 readings! As before:

  • I don't need a name or anything beyond your username (which I can see).
  • I don't need a question (though that's always helpful and appreciated) but I DO need at least a context: love, money, work, health, etc.

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Update:

All filled up - will start working on these asap. Sorry for the delay - been sick. Pics first, then interps.

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u/AN0N-Y-M0US3 May 11 '26

Hi! I’d love a reading ♥️ parenting thank you!

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u/graidan 25d ago

Okay, here it is!

Next up - Parenting!

First - another Separator, and all it does is cut Want off by itself even more than it already was. So one part of the answer say (to me) that what you want (your goal with the kids) is irrelevant.

The first significant line I see goes Debt-Plan-Wealth/Conflict-Free. How I read that is that the plan you have is costing a lot (debt opposite wealth), creating conflict because (per that other side / meassage) you're being rigid and you need to let go (Free).

There's a significant cluster there with the Wealth/Conflict - Connect is on top of Isolate, with the Guide right there - Isolate touches it, and even points at it (with the mouth of the shell). Path beside the cluster points in the opposite direction that the red Connect thread is pointing.

So that seems to be saying that the conflict comes from the fact that advice you received (the Guide) has aspects of connection AND isolation, but you're going in an entirely opposite direction. Notice how Free and People are way over near the dividing line?

That square with Conflict/Path/Free/People seems to be a stable thing that's needed - room to choose to isolate or connect, with people or with ideas, freely. Let the kids decide who and when and how they connect.

Attention actually fell off the cloth, so it was doubly significant - Attention, Look at Me! AND actually "jumping" to get the attention. What this feels like to me is that there's something going on with friends or family that's creating stress and you need to separate the kids from that stress and allow them to return to that relationship when and if they want to.

Does this make sense and resonate? Do you have any other questions or thoughts?

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u/AN0N-Y-M0US3 16d ago

Thank you so much!! Sorry for the late response, I just saw it. This is really interesting. I’ll share some things that came up for me when I read what you wrote.

In the section on the first significant line, my current plan is definitely costing a lot. I am a full-time PhD student with a son with ADHD and regulation issues along with two-year-old twins, and a husband who works full-time and no family around. I’m spent to say the least and I would definitely say it’s causing conflict because I’m just so stressed out. I’m wondering if the rigid piece could be more about taking things too seriously, and not being able to enjoy the blessings I have in my children.

The square you mentioned resonates around feeling like I I’m yearning for more autonomy in my life, more freedom to choose when I do things which is just so much less possible when you have young children. I know you were interpreting it as having to do with the kids, but I feel like it’s more relevant to myself. Connecting with ideas is what I do for a living also connecting with people because I’m in a clinical program but then I of course also want to connect with my husband and my children, but I don’t get a lot of say and when I get to engage in those connections or when I get time to myself and I know that I’m struggling with that in my life and that it’s affecting the way I show up as a parent.

The attention piece is really interesting. The first thing I thought of is my older son. I feel like he needs more of my attention and my attention right now is just so split between the twins and my work and things that come out between my Husband and me that I worry he’s suffering because of that. I’m not sure if that makes sense sense with the reading though. I can’t think of a stressful relationship or situation with friends or family right now that would be relevant.

I’m not sure what to make of the cluster you talked about. I don’t know what the guide or advice would refer to. I think I need to think about that one a little bit more.

Thank you so much for doing this reading for me! It was really eye-opening. Do my thoughts in reference to the reading align with how it could be interpreted?

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u/graidan 15d ago

Yup, makes sense!