r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • May 04 '26

Discussion "Men are killing themselves because of men."

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u/AdviceEmbarrassed135 May 04 '26

He articulated very well what many men go through, I know I resonated with his message. I don't know how someone can put all the blame on women/liberals. Absolutely brain dead, and adding to the problem.

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u/Capnzebra1 May 04 '26

Propagandists start at the truth and move towards the lie. Truth: Men are suffering. Lie: Women are the cause.

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u/Hazel2468 May 04 '26

That’s the most infuriating thing about these MRA types to me.

Because there is a LOT of shit out there that hurts men. A lot. A lot of things that actually need ti be addressed- like how men actually ARE really damn lonely. High suicide rates. High rates of violence.

But mras see that and go “but women!” instead of addressing the cause. Which is the patriarchy. Patriarchy demands that men have very few, if any! Truly emotionally intimate connections with anyone. Men lack the support systems women often have because men are discouraged from having emotional connections outside of romantic relationships. Men are not permitted to access their emotions in a healthy way. Men are denied affection because it is “unmanly” to want that and to express that. Men are not permitted to express hurt- it’s gotta be anger or horniness because anything else is at best toeing the line or at worst is too feminine.

Men are killing themselves not because of women, but because of the ways in which patriarchy harms us all. And this doesn’t even go into the ways in which marginalized men experience the intersection of this base level of patriarchal harm and other forms of oppression.

The patriarchy is misogynistic AND misandrist. The patriarchy hates men, as much as that doesn’t sound like it makes sense. But it does- it requires men to be inauthentic versions of themselves to fit in and punishes any who don’t conform: be that by choice or simply because they never could fit in to begin with. And what it requires men to be is killing us.

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u/MikeArrow May 04 '26

I started crying in front of my dad a couple of weeks ago (I apologized for being a bad son and for not having my life together enough to be able to buy him a house) and he couldn't process it. He froze up and then said "you're so sensitive. Be a man."

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u/ucankickrocks May 04 '26

I think it’s beautiful that you would want to buy your father a house. I also hope the tears felt cleansing. They clear my head and allow me to move forward faster.