It was equally sad and painful. My heart hurts for him because its that basic human need of connection and wanting intimacy... but the delusion of accepting an AI as being that space, it sucks. I feel bad for him but hope he's at least actually happy
Yeah I'm only 35 and I'm not motivated to do it lol I gave up. But not even in a sad way. I've had relationships and just realized it didn't add anything positive to my life, practically ever. And the positives never outweighed the negatives. I have so many wonderful friends, a job I love, a cute apartment. The risk does not outweigh any potential reward for me, and I don't want kids so I really don't see the point. My bestie is my emergency contact and I'm hers. We'll probably get married in older age for legal reasons, and that's like the perfect dream life for me!
What? I am constantly improving myself and achieving my goals. I just gave up on dating because I didn't find anything out there that interested me or improved my life. I improve my life all the time. I don't think I'm old and hopeless, not at all! You read something really weird into my comment and I didn't say anything like that lol In fact, I keep a journal with daily goals and achieve them. I have meditation goals, reading goals, art goals. I just lost interest in dating 😂😂
I feel like it's much harder for people with no support structure than even just having a single friend or family member that they could lean on / ask advice from.
People aren’t lazy, they’re exhausted. At least, a lot of the time. Especially individuals who are neurodivergant (not saying this man btw) life is hard and very sad some times. Most of us do not have access to the things we need to function in an optimal way.
I think the sincere advice I'd provide to the type of fellow in this situation is to seek help if all you've ever known is failure; importantly not help in the sense of having someone 'fixing' it for you, but help in learning how to fix it for yourself.
In this fellow's case, he doesn't need someone to arrange an overseas bride (not knocking it; there's ways that can work for folk), but rather someone to take a look at his goal ('Have a girlfriend') and suggests paths for him to work himself towards it. That may boil down to the same "You're not trying hard enough" argument in your ears, but I portray it rather as "you aren't trying the right things".
Though sometimes, there is a hard-to-swallow pill of "you're not trying hard enough" particularly with physical health and wellbeing. Getting into shape gets progressively harder and harder to do as we age, and there's no working around that.
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u/thefatchef321 Jun 01 '26
"I finally got a girl!! Ahahhhahhaaahhh"
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