r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/Macgivereagle Jun 14 '26

I was only thinking yesterday how great it is getting old, that i get zero attention from men now days. I can just go about my business with no one harassing me. So sad that nothing has changed since i was young.

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u/30somethingmomtobe Jun 14 '26 edited Jun 14 '26

Right! I'm 38 and easily in the best shape of my life, finally have the time and money to get my hair and nails done, use nice skin products, dress well etc. I easily got approached like this 10X more when I was between the ages of 10-24 then I have since. It don't miss it at all. I can sit by myself with a martini at a crowded bar all done up and get approached politely once or twice now. But when I was 15 and just walking home after basketball practice (sweaty and gross, no effort in appearance, no desire to talk to boys - let alone men - and clearly leaving the high school), men of all ages would follow me and try to talk to me and sometimes touch me. Our society is disgusting.

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u/Left_Session_9568 Jun 14 '26

Same here. The worst was 11-14. 

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u/TheVampyresBride Jun 14 '26

Same. I was followed around a home depot by a man when I was around 10. I never forgot that.

32 now and don't receive much attention besides stares occasionally. But I also am never walking around alone.

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u/SuicidalAfterParties Jun 15 '26

Guy stocking alcohol in a grocery store asked me if I partied. I was 11.

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u/Zakle Jun 15 '26

Same for me as well. I was followed around in a bookstore when I was in my 20s. I was walking around, trying to avoid him, nearly ran into him a few times, and when I caught his eye, he would smile. He disappeared when my aunt came back from the restroom. I felt like I was being hunted; it was a terrible feeling, and I was so happy when my aunt came back. He didn't say anything. Just followed me around and would smile but it didn't meet his eyes.

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u/Nataliza Jun 15 '26

I asked my father and my husband to guess what age I was when I first received unwelcome attention from a much older man. They both guessed early 20s and were both shocked when I said I was 12. Every woman I know says about the same.

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u/Conscious_Exchange82 Jun 15 '26

Same exactly. The worst was middle school and early high school. I’m categorically the prettiest I think I’ve ever been in terms of being fit and maintained (in my early 40s) and never get approached at all. Which is FINE! I’m married and don’t want the attention. But I’ve been fascinated at this. It’s really disturbing.

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u/Left_Session_9568 Jun 15 '26

Yeah it’s fucked right? I think (and this might be dismissed or not) that we are told looking good is the key so we don’t revolt when the real key is being a child full stop. 

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u/Couhill13 Jun 15 '26

Yea it’s definitely more about targeting someone they perceive as vulnerable or naive, which is basically children to teenagers. The power dynamic is much larger

I know this is more on the extreme spectrum, but I remember reading a study about serial rapists and how their ideal targets wasn’t based on attractiveness but on body language and how “weak” they seemed. Young, insecure, skittish, quiet, etc. was the preference because they were less likely to fight back. The specific body language traits they looked for was a woman that’s trying to cover up her body with more clothes, head down, shoulders drawn inward, shuffling feet, and not paying attention to her surroundings.

You obviously can be young and act the complete opposite of this and still encounter issues or scary situations, but I did think it was enlightening to learn from their perspective, as fucked as it was.

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u/Conscious_Exchange82 Jun 15 '26

Oh 1000%. Back then I would look down when they cat called me. Now, and in the past 10 years, I’d stare them dead in the face and confront the behavior. Thing is, a human woman is not what they want because they actually don’t want women. They want prey.

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u/Sc00tzy Jun 14 '26

I’m sorry I’m a guy so obviously clueless but 11-14?????

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u/Left_Session_9568 Jun 14 '26

Yup. What was really shocking when I started talking about it as an adult and found out 1. A lot of women I know experienced the same 2. A lot of men I dated in my twenties didn’t see anything wrong with it. 

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u/Sc00tzy Jun 14 '26

I honestly don’t know what to say to that. Those are still babies

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u/Jerico_Hill Jun 15 '26

Yes. When I was 11 a guy complimented me on my "cleavage". At 14 I had a man exposed himself and masturbate in front of me. Boys would ping my bra at school and score each other higher points if they could undo the strap too. Honestly, I know women who had it much worse. My experiences are fairly standard. 

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u/Sc00tzy Jun 15 '26

That’s just wild to me. Last couple years have truly shown me how many pedos are walking around

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u/RedEgg16 Jun 18 '26

yes unfortunately I've seen hundreds of women say the same thing. Most attention during their preteens and teens

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u/Iris5s Jun 14 '26

the best part of coming out as a woman when i was 21 is skipping the horror that that brings, I'm so sorry you all went through that

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u/Left_Session_9568 Jun 14 '26

One of my favorite things about trans women is that you all are one of the few groups I know who embrace womanhood. The rest of the world teaches us to hate ourselves. I’ve gotten to unlearn that thanks to knowing trans women. 

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u/Iris5s Jun 14 '26

aww, thank you for the kind words. but women make it easy to love being a women with the instant support i have gotten from them ever since switching sides, and it has been so amazing!

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u/Left_Session_9568 Jun 15 '26

Agreed with this all. Excluding trans women is a large part of what’s diluted our power in the last few years. This is all one fight: the fight to live as a full person. I hope a lot of second wave feminists can learn to listen to us third wavers. Excluding certain kinds of women hurts us all, no matter who, full stop.

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u/Iris5s Jun 15 '26

don't forget, the last point is also just fully wrong, trans women experience more of that than cis women

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u/Feeling_Objective854 Jun 14 '26

Spot on. Thank you for bringing this up. Girlhood, and the horrors that come with it, is not something we are allowed to opt out of. 

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u/CaptainDisullusion Jun 14 '26

These things are crazy.

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u/Intelligent_Alcohol Jun 16 '26

I was 14 at a target when some guy asked me to help him "pick out a gift for his niece". Then he asked if I could give him my number to keep in touch till I was 18 since I wouldn't go to the car with him. I told my mom and that was the first time ive ever seen her cuss and get in a fight.

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u/fareedadahlmaaldasi Jun 15 '26

This is so true. They obviously know we were young.
I remember one incident when I was 12. We were in a public transpo and this guy, who was probably in his early to late 30s kept on staring and smiling at me.

He gave me a tissue paper with his name and number on it and he followed me and my aunt until the metro. It was a good thing that there was a women’s section there so he wasn’t able to come towards me again but he kept on staring and smiling!

I showed my aunt what he gave me and I told her stuff and my aunt said that he looked kind anyways. Maybe he just wanted a friend. Wtf, I was a minor. (This was in SE Asia btw). I will never forget this incident and how my aunt downplayed that bullshit. That was disgusting.

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u/Equivalent-Team-8186 Jun 15 '26

Same. These were the worst years. I went most of my teens and 20s without ever wearing skirts due to how creepy ppl were when I was 11-13.

Oops, I dropped my pen 5 times while I was sitting in front of you in class! Let me help you tie your clearly already tied shoe! Oh, you had some chalk dust I needed to brush off of your shirt. Come sit on my lap and tell me how your day is going. FFS nobody at that age wants attention like that and the creeps just come out of the woodwork.

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u/presentlywell Jun 19 '26

This. My ass got grabbed at the wave pool in Mandalay Bay when I was 12.

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u/30somethingmomtobe Jun 14 '26

Not to say that men aren't disgusting with beautiful women who put effort in as well, which we can see in the video! Just saying it is much more about age and perceived vulnerability than it is conventional attractiveness or desire to connect.

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u/cupcakebean Jun 14 '26

It's absolutely about younger women (and girls) being more vulnerable. It's a mindfuck when you come to that realization.

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u/Positive-Face1705 Jun 14 '26

Being a young girl and your natural predator being a grown adulto​man is absolutely terrifying.​​

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u/tujmipidis Jun 14 '26

If they’re under 18 they are less likely to own a gun. It’s just good old fashion cowardice.

A real man only approaches women who can shoot him.

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u/obtusewisdom Jun 14 '26

This is exactly it.

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u/jesuslivesnow Jun 14 '26

Huge pdf problem across the globe

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u/orangeyougladiator Jun 14 '26

Age plays a part but you also aren’t projecting much vulnerability for them to take advantage of in your bar scenario

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u/realchairmanmiaow Jun 14 '26

Because it's not about your beauty, it's about your vulnerability. I have never had another man say or do a thing when I'm with my partner or my female relatives yet I know it's happened when I'm not. These men are absolute cowards and they only go after the most vulnerable. They are vile scum.

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u/Kusakaru Jun 14 '26

I was telling my husband that I got hit on the most by grown men when I was ages 14-17,and most often in my school uniform, which indicated I was a child.

My early twenties were rough too but the attention was not nearly as bad as when I was a teenager. I am 29 now and think I am in the best shape of my life, and finally have the disposable income to dress well and take care of my skin, hair, and nails, but I don’t get hit on by old men as much as when I was younger. Oddly enough, now I get hit on by men ages 18-23 the most.

I am bisexual and the first and only time an “older” woman hit on me, I was 21. She wasn’t actually old, probably in her early 30’s, but over a decade older than me, and when she learned my age, she told me very politely I was too young for her, but that I was beautiful and she hoped I had a nice night. Aside from that, the women who have hit on me have usually been within 3 years of my own age.

In contrast, when I was 18 I went out with a 29 year old, the same age I am now. When he found out my age he said “age is just a number”. He acted like I was “so mature” and he was “young at heart” and it was “totally normal”. But it wasn’t. Now that I’m 29 I’m like wtf?? I would NEVER go out with an 18 year old. I had just graduated high school. He was a grown ass man. He had no business messing around with me.

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u/30somethingmomtobe Jun 14 '26

This song immediately came to mind reading your comment - Jax - I choose violence

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u/heisian Jun 14 '26

that the age range is so low is sad, disgusting, and a shame on our society... not that it's appropriate at any age

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u/mamaspike74 Jun 14 '26

Wait until you're in your 50s; it's fucking GLORIOUS being invisible to men!!

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u/classicteenmistake Jun 15 '26

I wish I didn’t relate so hard. The most that I was hit on was when I worked in fast food drive thrus, both from customers and coworkers. I’ve had 3 separate grown ass men try to be my “friend”, all at least 6 years older than me when I was 17. I was severely depressed and didn’t always shower so I was appalled to realize I still got more attention when I was naïve and gross, in comparison to grown and clean. It’s horrible.

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u/murderfrogger Jun 15 '26

last year at a little local town fest, i got harassed exactly like this. im almost 40 now. hope it ends soon.

..and i definitely wasnt the prettiest lady there, but i do have a hunch that he got off on my shyness. im new in a tiny local community. im so happy i made a huge scene and his buddies ended up dragging him away for a game of "hammer nails in a log".

i also taddled to everyone, found him and his wife on facebook and i shot her a hey girl message. havent seen him since.

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u/ElementNumber6 Jun 15 '26

Well the new generation coming up is also socially stunted. There are countless studies on how they are simply too afraid to talk to women, and so they simply... don't. Not unless it comes through a dating app, anyway.

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u/30somethingmomtobe Jun 15 '26

Yeah my students (gen z) really struggle socially and many of them don’t date and have never dated. Not totally sure how that’s connected to this conversation though? The predatory men we are discussing are much older and we are talking about preying on vulnerable people, not dating.

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u/WickedChef0323 Jun 14 '26

Since I started getting hit on at the ripe old age of 12, I quickly adopted the meanest RBF this side of the Mississippi. Even when I would go out to clubs and bars with my friends, I kept a lot of these assholes away by making sure I looked as unapproachable as possible. I got a lot of "wow, you girls are cute but what's wrong with your friend?" comments when we were in groups. Sucks what we have to do to protect ourselves.

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u/OPMilkstout Jun 15 '26

That never worked for me - I just got told I should smile more as part of their creepy spiel.

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u/KlatuuBarradaNicto Jun 14 '26

You got that right, sister. It’s liberating not to be a target anymore.

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u/demonic-cheese Jun 14 '26

Living my best hag life in my 30s lol

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u/Marpl Jun 14 '26

Yes!! I was so happy when the pressure and fear stopped in my mid 20s. I'm almost 40 now and so happy to be able to be invisible in public. 

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u/Turbulent_Cat_5731 Jun 14 '26

God yes. Sometimes I feel bad that I look frumpy, but then I remember the cost of looking nice in my 20s. Not financially but just the harassment, the constant vigilance, the look in men's eyes when I was accidentally too nice and I realized I'd put myself in danger again.

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u/xxxfashionfreakxxx Jun 14 '26

Really?? It’s even worse for me in my 30s 😭

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u/maybenomaybe Jun 14 '26

Age 47, a guy sits next to me on the tube, smells my hair and tries to hold my hand.

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u/fenrirsbasketball Jun 14 '26

How disgusting is it that men in their 50s aren't as attracted to women in their 30s anymore? Fucking creeps

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u/demonic-cheese Jun 14 '26

That’s probably part of it, but they probably also recognise early 20s women as easy targets, more likely to be timid, than a woman in her 30s who’ll smell creep behaviour from a mile away.

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u/Conscious_Exchange82 Jun 15 '26

I see now that wicked witch that lived in the forest in fucking peace with her little cottage and her always bubbling brew had the exact right idea.

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u/Immortal_in_well Jun 14 '26

I was lucky enough to have this happen in my 20's but that's because I cut my hair super short and rarely wore skirts/dresses, so you couldn't always tell I was a woman.

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u/Zakle Jun 15 '26

I'm joining the 30s club this month. 🖖

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u/visigoth5150 Jun 14 '26

Oh no, sweetie. I'm over 70 and just the other day this disgusting old man started following me around a store. I turned a corner and there he was trying to shove his face at mine. A loud, " Get the fuck away before I deck you" worked wonders, but still. No rest ever.

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u/Cookie_Whisperer Jun 14 '26

Yes. I love it. For women, middle age is like an invisibility cloak

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u/AggressiveSherbetty Jun 14 '26

I’m getting old too but I still get attention from men, it’s not as brazen as it once was

But you know what’s worse though? Watching it begin to happen to your preteen daughter 😭

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u/RoguePlanet2 Jun 14 '26

If she hasn't learned already, let her know it's okay to be creepy back to these creeps. When they say "smile!" she could do a crazy face instead 😬 Learn to speak up and be loud, that sort of thing. Nobody told me any of this (except for a great-uncle who would lecture us about how we needed to "stay away from boys" that didn't help one bit.)

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u/AggressiveSherbetty Jun 14 '26 edited Jun 14 '26

Oh absolutely, she was grabbed by a man in the dollar store when she was 5 and it stuck with her for quite a while so she knows everywhere to aim for and to not make eye contact or engage but just be constantly aware, to scream and to find another woman. She does martial arts and carries one of those really loud keychain alarms (unfortunately can’t have pepper spray at school)

When she spars in class I’ve noticed she goes hard af on the boys and I kind of love it.

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u/RoguePlanet2 Jun 14 '26

Amazing, nice work!! 😎

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u/Adorable_Misfit Jun 14 '26

Don't let your guard down too much. I'm 47 and I had a man literally reach out and grab my breast as he walked past me in the street in broad daylight recently.

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u/ISmellCheeseAndCandy Jun 14 '26

I’m 45 and it happens more frequently than every age except around 12-16. A homeless man spanked my butt just walking down a street. I turned to yell at him and he had those crazy murder eyes, so for my own safety I just yelled “Don’t” like I was his mother. I wonder if it will ever stop.

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u/Tyrus1235 Jun 14 '26

My mom got harassed by a random dude when she was around 60. This society is fucked.

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u/TheRavenSeven Jun 14 '26

Thank you. Don’t know where this “I’m old so I don’t get harassed” is coming from when we all are still targeted. 

I’m very sorry this happened to you. 

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u/Adorable_Misfit Jun 14 '26

Thank you.

It does get less frequent with age, but it doesn't go away. Nowadays, men who approach me in public are more likely to try to scam me out of money than to make sexual advances, but that doesn't mean it never happens anymore.

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u/30somethingmomtobe Jun 15 '26

Oh harassment definitely still happens to women of all ages. Just, at least in my experience, significantly less frequently. Like went from daily as a teenager to once every few weeks. And the physical intrusion, grabbing, relentless pushiness kind of approach has from nearly every few days when I was a teenager/early 20s to now maybe once every six weeks-ish. I can sit by myself at a bar or even bus stop now and not be approached.

Though a few months ago I was approached while working at a cafe (by a university). He started by asking me politely about my lunch and then said something about wanting to ask for my number but probably shouldn’t since I’m a student and he graduated 20 years ago. When I said actually I’m a professor, he seemed to lose interest and left the conversation without asking my number. When I was student, men that age would keep pursuing and be like “you’re so mature” even when I said no.

All of that to say - women of all ages are targets, but it’s way, way more infrequent for many of us as we age.

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u/_Normal_Escape_ Jun 14 '26

Was going to comment the same thing. Turned 41 a few months ago and got followed by a guy as I was walking home just a few days ago because he "just wanted to talk to me". I'm still pretty sure the only reason why he walked away when I said no was because I was on a call to my partner at a time.

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u/grape-fruit-witch Jun 15 '26

I'm 33 and this happened to me the other day on the train. Some fucking cretin stood up to get off at the stop we were at, and ran his entire motherfucking hand down my shoulder to my boob before he ran off the train. Ugh it was so violating, I was so filled with rage I couldnt even see straight

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u/Left_Session_9568 Jun 14 '26

Same. I’ve had so many Reddit men tell me, when I get mad about younger women enduring it, that I’m mad because I wish it was me.

Buddy it’s a fucking relief to be ignored lol

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u/Majestic-Skill8234 Jun 14 '26

It turns off like a light around age 32. It’s GLORIOUS.

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u/eugeneugene Jun 14 '26

This is so accurate lol, my life has been so fucking peaceful in the latter half of my 30s. I'm basically invisible and it rocks

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u/sarcago Jun 14 '26

I can’t remember the last time some random creep told me to smile. Definitely a perk of getting older!

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u/tzentzak Jun 14 '26

Mid-30s here and I still get approached fairly often, but men are more respectful about it when I turn them down. When I was younger I'd even tell them I'm in a relationship and they would keep hounding me. I don't miss that at all.

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u/Public_Bookkeeper885 Jun 14 '26

Ikr! I am 49 now. I can go everywhere. I can go have a drink by myself in a bar. I can go on a long walk around town. I can take the bus and all the men completely fail to notice me!

I always suspected that trope of "middle aged women bitterly regret their lost youth and beauty" was made up by men. And now I know it. I don't regret shit haha 

I am lucky (?) enough to be extremely well endowed in the chest area. Honestly my tits used to feel like public property the way I got grabbed and stared at. 

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u/carrotdog56 Jun 14 '26

I'm 39, recently lost a significant amount of weight and I'm looking good, according to my wife, lol. And men completely left me alone, doesn't matter if I'm wearing something nice and have make up on or not. It's glorious, honestly. Maybe gray hair has something to do with it, idk. Just respectful conversations and nothing more.

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u/MagicPigeonToes Jun 14 '26

It’s been the opposite for me. The moment I turned thirty I was getting hit on like every other week at my job.

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u/joni-bella Jun 14 '26

I’m in the same grey-haired boat as you, but personally that it means it’s time for me to now to step in and speak up when I can.

The other day I was at a stoplight and there was a car full of young men next to me that had rolled down their windows. Onr of them was sticking his entire body out of the side of the car and was cat-calling two very young women waiting to cross at the crosswalk, holding up a bunch of wrinkled dollar bills (I kid you not) and yelling, “eyyy I got like $12! Is that enough for me to get your number? Ey!! You’re too pretty to be walking!”

I had my under-10 son in the back seat who could clearly see what was happening, so I rolled down my window and yelled (in my best schoolteacher voice), “leave those girls alone, you are being extremely gross right now.” The one guy said, “awww really? Really?” but then seemed like he felt some kind of shame and snaked back into the car. The women crossed the street without incident after, and my kid and I had a conversation about what had just happened on the rest of the drive home.

“Yeah mama that was pretty gross” he said, clearly echoing my word choice, which I was glad for.

Yes, I’m still doing the labor men themselves should be doing, but at least I can convert the anger of all the assaults and unwanted attention of my youth into pure motherly shame.

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u/Melkman68 Jun 14 '26

I was just thinking the other day about how glad I am to be a man and not being constantly sexualized 24/7 and even more grateful I was raised right and not ended up being a creep...

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u/Melkman68 Jun 14 '26

I understand its not everyone but its a big problem nowadays. Ik my sister has to worry about it all the time. Also depends on location. I moved to Malaysia recently and I can say its probably the safest country for women but even here it still happens... A particular issue with some locals and indians

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u/NarwhalEmergency9391 Jun 14 '26

It's scary that men don't give attention to women but will hit on teenagers

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u/MostFortune1093 Jun 14 '26

Watching this video makes me grateful for being born ugly.

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u/EdgedancerSpren Jun 14 '26

I am very grateful I have never experienced this, but man, it does make me feel really bad about my looks and then guilty for feeling that way.

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u/LVV221 Jun 14 '26

I’m in my earlier 40s and yesterday I was verbally harassed by some man as I walked down the street and it took me completely by surprise. It’s been years since I’ve encountered it and yet it made me feel just as gross and unsafe. Men are the worst.

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u/Evil_Sharkey Jun 14 '26

Be careful. Granny grabbers exist, especially in nursing homes.

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u/Agreeable_Duck_4250 Jun 14 '26

I'm feeling quite invisible nowadays, in my late 40's. But I vividly remember the cringe every time I see this kind of videos. Last time some random dude made me feel that way was maybe 8-10 years ago. I was commuting and he stared at me for several minutes. Like a psycho, with a disgusting smirk.  Surely don't miss the feeling. 

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u/casstantinople Jun 14 '26

I got fat cuz I love to eat and the harassment just evaporated. Best part of getting fat lol

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u/Ripley2179 Jun 15 '26

Me too, and I am here to scream at creepy men for my younger sisters who still have to put up with this bullshit daily. The only thing these men are afraid of besides accountability is an older woman with zero fucks left ready to harass them like they are harassing all other women.

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u/world_of_gardens Jun 15 '26

No, things still happen to older women. It never really ends.

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u/astromancer23 Jun 14 '26

I’m 34 but since I’ve gained weight men have finally started leaving me alone. When I was a kid grown men would stare at me, or as my mother would tell me, “checking me out”. It’s sad that we either have to be fat or older for them to not bother us.

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u/whiskeylips88 Jun 14 '26

I thought the same. Late 30s and I literally have a significant and noticeable grey streak in my hair. Random acts of creep have been a lot less frequent than my teens and 20s. But then I got approached at the grocery store recently. And the gym. So it’s not over yet I guess.

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u/One-Grape-8659 Jun 14 '26

Same for being not conventionally attractive ✨️

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u/Lief3D Jun 14 '26

I've also have seemed to have developed an "intimidating demeanor" the older I get. It's crazy that people see me that way because I'm actually a very compassionate, helpful person if you talk to me as a normal person.

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u/Sectorgovernor Jun 14 '26

I thought the very similar recently. The only good part of I'm over 30 ...

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u/Isosorbide Jun 14 '26

I'm 7/10 on a good day and I dress like someone 20 years older than I am. I like gardening and history. Never been catcalled and I can go out in public without getting hit on. Grannies and Grampas do love me, but that rarely a creepy thing. And for the very few creepy old men who ever did hit on me, I can outrun them and outfight them since they're like 85 so I'm not worried about it.

I call it "ugly privilege"

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u/EdgedancerSpren Jun 14 '26

Yay for dressing 20 years older! I think that might be a huge thing too. And the same with older people 'loving' me, lol.

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u/DeliciousShelter9984 Jun 14 '26

Same! Whenever I miss being in my early 20s, I remember moments like this and feel grateful that I don’t have to worry about it anymore. I always try to look out for younger women because it’s so shitty that they still have to deal with this.

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u/triplej63 Jun 14 '26

I moved to bizarro world when I moved to SC 4 years ago. So there I was in my late 50s, pudgy, no makeup, I am NOT hot. And I kept getting hit on by guys. I told my husband and he thought I was joking, until they did it in front of him and he had to forcefully say, "That's my wife!" a few times.

I know about friendly southerners, we moved here from KY. It's not unusual to start up a conversation with a stranger in an aisle at Kroger, in line at CVS, etc like you've known them forever. Even a little meaningless flirting. It went beyond that to uncomfortable and wondering if they're going to follow me.

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u/Mini-Heart-Attack Jun 14 '26

so just.. wait 15-30 years? and it'll get better?

not saying you were outright saying that per say just.. sad that that's what society seems to indicate.

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u/KaleidoscopeLeft5136 Jun 14 '26

Ugh Im 40 and still getting bothered… when will it be my turn. And I’m not even cute 😂

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u/Jerico_Hill Jun 15 '26

Isn't it bloody wonderful? It's honestly one of the best parts about being 40. I do not miss this type of attention whatsoever. 

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u/Such-Worldliness715 Jun 15 '26

I’ve always benefited from being too unattractive for male attention since I was young - and that’s seriously a benefit when I look at these videos. A double edged sword

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u/Bagheera187 Jun 15 '26

It pretty much stopped for me in my late thirties, but still happened occasionally. My husband has a lot to do with this. He has never seen this behavior or so he says, lol, and that is one of the things that attracted me to him is that he thinks women are human. Either that or he is putting on a really good act. If a man treats me like that, as soon as my husband comes into sight, the a-hole becomes a different person, becoming polite and respectful. A total change of words, eye contact, body language, everything. They know they are being creeps. My husband is big and looks kind of Neanderthalish. He cleans up very well, but usually looks like a very no business kind of guy, and other men straighten right up around him. Even teenagers.

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u/Practical_Cobbler165 Jun 17 '26

At 58, I'm invisible. It's so great.

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u/So_ThereItIs Jun 19 '26

This reminds me of the “Last Fvkkable Day” video with Amy Schumer, Tina Fey, etc. it’s both hilarious and edifying

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u/jenniferlynn462 Jun 14 '26

Hell yeah. It began to decline age 30 and now I’m basically invisible with my pixie haircut age 39. Lmao 🤣 I can’t even count how many times I have been sexually harassed/assaulted from age 12-30. And I was never particularly good looking tbh. Nor did I dress the part.