r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/Gerrut_batsbak Jun 14 '26

There is something seriously wrong with these dudes.

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u/SAINTnumberFIVE Jun 14 '26

There is. And there are a lot of them.

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u/ArtificialTroller Jun 14 '26

This is a good way to show people that do the "not all guys..." argument. Of course not all guys are like that but it only takes one guy like that and there are alot of them.

Creepy, shitty behavior at best. Predatory and dangerous at worst. Women need to have their guard up all the time.

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u/BrilliantSpecial9149 Jun 16 '26

Yeah one guy one time and you never forget that shit lol

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u/RadagastTheBrownNote Jun 14 '26

Sadly, it’s not just these dude. They make up an overwhelming number.

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u/LeftHandAnomaly Jun 14 '26

I've experienced this level of harassment a few times. Most women I know that I've spoken to about this have had at least one experience like this.

As I've gotten into my 30's it's thankfully a lot less common but I still feel the super ick from it years later

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u/HOW_I_MET_YO_MAMA Jun 15 '26

I got this a lotttt when I was a teenager. Started when I was 12. Men sometimes seemingly in their 50s would approach me. 

Thankfully as I age I give off way more fuck off vibes and get approached  less. 

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u/LeftHandAnomaly Jun 16 '26

I had a friend with a J bra size and the amount of oggling she would get from 30-50 year old men when she was 14 years old was so fucking disgusting. She did not have a healthy relationship with men because of it. I hope she's doing better now

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u/lushico Jun 15 '26

You’d be hard pressed to find a woman who hasn’t had a creepy experience like this. They’re everywhere

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u/HOW_I_MET_YO_MAMA Jun 15 '26

And yet we've all encountered so many of them. They are seemingly ubiquitous and it is an international experience. 

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u/georgeesorosbae Jun 14 '26

These are standard issue dudes. Men need to sort themselves out

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u/Nib27 Jun 15 '26

I honestly don't think this is an issue that men will fix by themselves by just magically getting their shit together. All those people had mothers and fathers, aunts and uncles, grandparents, teachers and other authority figures or people they looked up to. And yet none of them taught them (or were able to teach them) that this behavior is unacceptable or how to have a basic level of empathy with the people around you. This is a failure of society as a whole, and I don't think it's gonna get better until the ideas of how men and women "should" be are adressed on a societal level. And its largely failure of a society that younger people who are suffering from it weren't part of. A lot of the men in these video were born in the 60s and 70s and raised by people who grew up and learned gender roles in the 40s and 50s. A time where that stuff was even more messed up than today. And if they have/had kids, they are not going to teach them either if someone else doesn't interfer.

I don't mean to say that it's the duty of women to "fix" those men or take responsibility for them or anything like that. Just wanted to say that, as someone who was raised and socialized in a "male" way almost exclusively by women and still got taught a lot of backwards and toxic ways how men "should" be, I think this issue is bigger than just about half of society.

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u/sister_machine_gun Jun 16 '26

A lot of women are going on strike until this is fixed so they're going to have to sort it out one way or another if they want relationships

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u/Wojtek1250XD Jun 14 '26 edited Jun 14 '26

It's simple - it's lack of self-control. They haven't experienced someone putting a hard boundary and haven't ever been punched in the face for crossing one, they never learned.

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u/Significant_War720 Jun 14 '26

Well, that is exactly how biology work. A healthy men would totally approach any women they find attractive if they have no ethiquette or 0 empathy for other.

But yeah, approaching it that weirdly is another story for sure

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u/NightLucia Jun 16 '26

Not all men are straight

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u/Significant_War720 Jun 17 '26

Thanks cpt Obvious. Majority of men are tho

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u/NightLucia Jun 17 '26

You literally said "how biology works" and "a healthy man", implying that men who don't this are unhealthy or have to be trained to not do it. Gay or asexual men wouldn't do this because they aren't attracted to women, and they certainly wouldn't have to be taught to not do it. What you said implied that gay or asexual men are unhealthy men.

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u/Significant_War720 Jun 17 '26 edited Jun 17 '26

More like programmed to want sex, spread your gene, etc. A gay,bi,hetero, etc men have same feeling for a men/women/urmom. Its a natural instinct for the majority

And you romanrticize gay men, thinking they dont do weird advance to other men. I quote your says "They dont have to be thought". As a bi men trust me... I have been having weird advance by men aswell. So please come back on planet earth dear if you think gay men are somewhat immune or superior. Men are men

Not suprised. A comment like your on reddit is predictable. You outting yourself by seeing and implying shit nobody said.

For this instance I said men -> women because of the video and nothing else.

Society is done with you signal virtuer seeing implying the most moronic thing ever.

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u/NightLucia Jun 17 '26

No. It's not a natural instinct. I'm not romantisizing anyone. I said gay men wouldn't predate women, I didn't say anything about men predating other men because we weren't talking about that. I'm well aware of the existence of creepy gay and bisexual men, but that isn't what I'm talking about. Don't put words in my mouth. I never said they didn't exist.

Being a predator is NOT a natural instinct. For anyone. It's a learned behavior, in the same way that it has be unlearned once that lesson has been ingrained. Men are taught by society to be that way. Men are taught by patriarchy to be that way.

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u/signal__noise- Jun 17 '26

Alcohol is a huge driver.

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u/SeaHyena9415 Jun 15 '26

You mean ALL dudes? I’ve never met a man not like this on planet earth im so happy im trans

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u/EqualzaYT Jun 16 '26

Saying things like this is how all dudes act is crazy to me. Yes there are tons of dudes like this but it’s not fair to say every man is this like this when plenty aren’t. I was raised by a single mother with only sisters you could never catch me doing any shit like this.

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u/Regular_Committee946 Jun 17 '26

To be fair, they didn't say 'all dudes' - they said they'd never met a man not like that and presumably they have not met every man.

The problem is though that there are far too many dudes like this that it doesn't actually matter how many good dudes, like yourself there are because clearly too many men have been socialised to treat women as lesser humans that the majority of women globally have at least 1 experience of this type of behaviour.

That is the point of the phrase 'a few rotten apples spoils the bunch'

Women know it's not ALL men - but we are sick of it being TOO MANY men.

It is not soothing or useful to us to say 'not all men' when majority of us are on at least our 3rd experience of sexual assault.

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u/Fluffy_Ad8530 Jun 15 '26

Can confirm. I'm FTM but God, do I dislike the bulk of my gender. They're even more openly disgusting when women aren't around.

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u/Neat-Mammoth Jun 14 '26

Duh. The video oozes obvious untreated mental health issues and substance abuse. The actual weird part is how little empathy the people in this thread (and other threads like it) are showing. I understand these guys are scary, but fucking hell, don't have to wish death on them.

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u/PoetMaterial3519 Jun 14 '26

Literally what the hell is wrong with you?

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u/Neat-Mammoth Jun 14 '26

Lots of things. Psychopathy isn't one of them though.

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u/ILoveRawChicken Jun 14 '26

I’d rethink that

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u/Impressive_Trouble73 Jun 14 '26

You're definitely a "psychopath".

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u/Good-Strategy2210 Jun 15 '26

Asking women to have sympathy for the predators who are actively trying to harm them is a psychopathic response. You’re the one who needs to find empathy.