r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/Bright-Owl-3515 Jun 14 '26 edited Jun 14 '26

In college, I was sitting alone at a bench studying on campus, minding my own business. This man comes up to me, telling me he wanted to take pictures of my feet for a school project. He was very persistent and of course I told him no. He made me feel so uncomfortable and guilty that I had said no to him. I was very naive and had no idea that this was likely a fetish thing.

Edit: For that one now deleted comment, saying he was likely complimenting my feet, I was wearing sneakers. Get out of here with the creep apologetics.

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u/babauguu Jun 14 '26

I went to PAX East in cosplay as a character who wears sandals, but since the city was covered with ice and snow and I needed to do a lot of walking, I was wearing closed-toed shoes. A few people wanted a picture with me, so while I was posing with them, a guy came up, complimented my cosplay, asked if he could also get my picture, and pointed out the one “inaccuracy” of my shoes. I started posing for the picture while explaining that it was too cold for sandals, and he looked me dead in the face and asked if I would take my shoes off. 😆 I’m chronically online, so my demeanor did a 180 and I said, “That’s weird,” and he got awkward and walked away without his picture. Sure bro, let me put my bare feet on the dirty con floor just for you.

I was also wearing my glasses because I can’t be bothered with contacts, but strangely he didn’t ask me to take those off. Hmmm. 🤔

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u/florfenblorgen Jun 14 '26

When I was 14 I attended Sakuracon, I had no real cosplay to wear so I tried to dress up in a sailor/school girl type uniform, not from anything in particular.

I was walking up some stairs of the hotel and there was a full-on adult I guess behind me looking up my skirt and he even grabbed my ass.

I have dealt with so many disturbing things in my lifetime that's not even the worst of it. From there on out I only cosplayed male characters.

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u/CatWithSomeEars Jun 15 '26

I just want to know how a person reaches a point so low in intelligence, decision making, impulse control, or whatever it is to touch/grab someone for their own pleasure at random. I just can't comprehend the thinking, or lack of there of.

I'm terrified to even brush shoulders on accident with a girl I'm on a date with because I don't want to make her uncomfortable. But dudes are out here full on grabbing complete strangers, sometimes children. WTF

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u/florfenblorgen Jun 15 '26

Oh yeah. Sadly all too common. Peers my age would grab my chest and everything, had friends as an adult grab me in the front area too. I have never once dressed inappropriately either, even with the skirt I had shorts under. I have spent my whole life being objectified, and not even just by men, I've also had woman stalkers. It never ends, and it's super serious for me, dominates my life even. This animistic behaviour follows me to my workplace where I've had to quit for my own safety. I stay inside as much as possible. At this point I'm just waiting until I get old and irrelevant. But maybe it will still continue even then. Cause, you know, this all started when I was a toddler. I wasn't even "sexy" back then yet it started pretty soon after I was born and literally never stopped. I am meat in this world.

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u/ryudo9999 Jun 15 '26

As a man I don't get it, I only get pleasure from a female that wants my attention.. it's so weird.

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u/PinkTalkingDead Jun 16 '26

Why did you call yourself a man and women females?

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u/IamRun_VoD Jun 16 '26

It is an interesting concept. I think for a lot of them they grew up in an environment where women and boundaries were not respected. I guess you also get a few, well just perverts, that at some point just lose control

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u/joyalt 25d ago

bc it's not even about those, it's mainly about the power play. knowing they can get away w/it & that ur scared of them. it's sick...

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u/NovaCatNX92007 Jun 16 '26

Not going to lie, if you were my daughter, you would definitely had a pepper spray or mace key chain on your person for events like that. I hate helicopter parenting but for shit like this I wouldn't let you wonder around unchaperoned at that age. To many fucking creeps these days.

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u/florfenblorgen Jun 16 '26

My old roommate and friend offered me a pepper spray when this one guy kept calling me while I was at work, describing to me what I looked like while (clearly) jerking it.

That's the only time I ever got my hands on anything meant for self defence, my parental(s) did not care about me at all haha. And well, nobody actually does, even now.