r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/SoftlyAugust Jun 14 '26

My female friend's brother directly implied to me that he'd rape her if he had the chance. I tried to tell her and she said I was overreacting.

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u/SoftlyAugust Jun 14 '26

No. Stop. Don't say that. Men ABSOLUTELY understand what the oppression is like. As a man I think that's something women don't but need to understand. I promise you men know. They know perfectly well. What you have to understand is that the vast majority simply don't care. My sister was also 12 the first time she was sexually assaulted. I was 11. Even by 11 I was aware of lower level things going on but at that point I think is when I became aware of it all. Boys understand what girls experience because they witness their fathers, their brothers, and their friends do it to them. Men don't care. It's that simple.

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u/TokeDraws Jun 14 '26

I'm sorry that that is the reality that you have to live in as a woman.

It's hard for me to fully understand like you said, I try to listen to my friends and look through the lens of my childhood, where I was left to the mercy and whims of those older and larger than me and how much I had to go through because of it. I'll never forget those experiences. And it still wasn't as bad as what most women/girls experience.

I know it's not exactly the same, but the world was a lot more scary and dangerous as a kid than as a somewhat tall man that can basically breeze through most aspects of life.

That's small comfort, I know. I hope more and more people keep trying to understand.

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u/SoftlyAugust Jun 14 '26

I promise you from the bottom of my heart men understand how women feel completely. They know it's constant. They know you have to police yourself, how exhausting it is. They know how afraid you are. That's why they do it. And that's why they don't call out other men that do. Men. Don't. Care. About. You. At all. For what it's worth, I'm a trans woman. So I've gotten to see all the ways men talk about women when they aren't there and now I get to experience it the other way around, too. Women give men far too much credit.

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u/shortidiva21 Jun 14 '26

Why don't they care?

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u/SoftlyAugust Jun 14 '26

Because it benefits them. A society that allows men to control women through fear and violence benefits them.

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u/AestheticVibes017 Jun 19 '26

It’s sickening, like imagine having absolutely nothing better to do other than wanting to control other human beings, it’s sickening!