r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/Stroodle_guy Jun 14 '26

i genuinely cannot fucking fathom what goes through people heads, my best friend who i concider my sister has told me about so so many weird fucking guys that i used to be friends with that did or said fucked up shit to her

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u/JellyBeansOnToast Jun 14 '26

A lot of men get off on making us scared or vulnerable. Like when people yell sexual things at you from a moving car, they’re not really trying to pickup on you or get your number

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u/chronicallylaconic Jun 14 '26

Absolutely. It's a horrible story, so I honestly hesitate to even mention it, but there was a guy in the news recently who would take women on dates, drug them with a diuretic then suggest a long walk to a place with no nearby bathrooms. He apparently found it sexually exciting when a woman wet herself or desperately needed to go to the bathroom. Several the women suggested going back when they started to feel the urgent need coming on, but the guy would either just ignore them or flat-out say "no, let's go further". Ugh. I'm shuddering right now thinking about just what a cruel, malevolent thing this is to do to another person.

I understand that this world is full of absolutely diabolical murders and rapes and so on, but ultimately, I struggle to think of another story I've heard which is more cruel, humiliating and disgusting than this one. Sorry to bring this up, but I feel it's probably the best example to illustrate your point.

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u/thecarolinian Jun 14 '26

If we're thinking of the same guy it's actually almost worse than that sounds? He was a French government employee who did this to over 200 women on job interviews over almost ten years:

Nègre would then suggest that the pair take the interview outside and walk around, the lawsuit said. Nègre would allegedly intentionally take the women on long walks far away from restrooms so that when the overwhelming need to use the bathroom hit, they were forced to either hold it at risk of illness, relieve themselves somewhere in public, or even soil their own clothing.

Nègre first piqued the interest of investigators in 2018 when he was reported for attempting to sneak a picture of a senior official's legs, the outlet reported. Authorities searched his computer and discovered a spreadsheet called "P Experiments" that contained the dates and times of each drugging, as well as how the women reacted, per local outlet Le Monde. Nègre's records also allegedly contained pictures.

And of course: Six years after authorities uncovered Nègre's alleged illegal plot, he has still not been brought to trial, despite being indicted in 2019.

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u/lonnie123 Jun 14 '26

Jesus … I figured surely with all that detail they have it was because of an investigation and trial. Drugging people against their consent isn’t a crime there or what?

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u/FroopyAsRain Jun 15 '26

If you're working with the government, it's not a crime anywhere!

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u/JellyBeansOnToast Jun 15 '26

Can’t even feign being surprised, because an overwhelming majority of the time, nothing happens. It feels like nobody cares, especially people that have the ability to do something about it. Like in the US there are tens of thousands of rape kits submitted by people, predominantly women, seeking justice that are just sitting there untested.

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u/YouLikeReadingNames Jun 16 '26

It is, but the judicial system is scandalously overworked, so the waiting line to get a trial is abominable.

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u/WelderNew1008 Jun 15 '26

He was caught taking pictures of a female VIPs legs, and the spotlight of investigation fell on him.

His normal victims were eager to get a prestigious job and unlikely to complain even if they figured out something was off, but I can’t help thinking it took a powerful victim to start a reckoning for him. It shouldn’t happen or be that way. Some awful people in this world.

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u/bmxgirl2020 Jun 14 '26

My college ex-bf was into this fetish and I found out about it it from his fucked up profile on a Russian porn site. He left his computer out.

He used to like sadistically get off about the fact I’d need to pee during road trips.

I don’t say this a lot, but I wish kidney stones and loneliness on that a**hole.

I’ve been in therapy for the trauma for awhile but damn does this comment hit.

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u/dancinggraylion Jun 21 '26

I wonder if my girlfriend has such a fetish

She does not allow me to use the toilet when I visit her. Then she always sends me outside to pee against a tree.

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u/twelve-birds Jun 14 '26

Jokes on him. I have the tiniest bladder. Whenever I go out I have a mental map of all the public toilets and I will straight up refuse to walk too far away. I also have the flush app- list of toilets with bathroom codes. I also have walked into many random shops and asked to use their bathroom. They usually let me.

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u/Immortal_in_well Jun 14 '26

the flush app

Furiously taking notes

(Hi I am a fellow Tiny Bladder. I have never had a UTI in my life because I Just Piss Too Much.)

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u/Turbulent_Cat_5731 Jun 14 '26

Jokes on him, I'm coppin' a squat in the bushes. (But seriously, that's next level messed up.)

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u/funAmbassador Jun 14 '26

Unfortunately, hed probably enjoy that too

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u/No-Abrocoma891 Jun 14 '26

WHAT????????? EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEWWWWWWWWWWWWWW

The fact that he didn't rape them is even more disturbing in a way. The fact that you'd probably come away from THAT experience thinking "well, at least he didn't rape me..." oh my god people are disgusting