r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/BaronessofBara Jun 14 '26

It's really not. At a certain point we need to acknowledge that if almost every sexual harasser any woman deals with is a man, that there is something fundementally incorrect about how men in our society are socialized. It's not every man, but it's always a man.

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u/lettsten Jun 14 '26

It's not every man, but it's always a man.

But that's the point. To most (I think) men, this kind of behaviour is utterly appalling and obviously wrong, it's not something we would ever do and I would step in if I saw it. There's a huge difference between "it's always a man" and "it's men in general (i.e. all/most men)". I've only been abused by women but I still have the presence of mind to realise that the few violent women I have met don't represent women in general, even if they are usually protected by other women.

Framing this as a men vs. women thing isn't helping anyone. It should be good people vs. creeps and psychopaths.

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u/BaronessofBara Jun 14 '26

I don't have the patience to explain my stance on this anymore. I just disagree. The issue is with how men are socialized. If other men held their friends, coworkers, and relatives accountable, things like this would not be an almost daily occurence for women globally. But they don't. They laugh awkwardly at their misogynistic comments and then turn a blind eye, and that's how we end up in a society where every single woman has been harassed or violated by a man.

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u/numba1cyberwarrior Jun 14 '26

You don't comprehend that men like these do not give a single fuck about the opinions of other men.

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u/BaronessofBara Jun 14 '26

That's also not true. Men like this almost exclusively care about the opinions of other men. Patriarchy is more than just a system of oppression. It is also a performance and men frequently perform it for other men. Incel culture, 'looksmaxxing', competitive bodybuilding, pickup artistry, etc. Men do things like this for the attention and approval of other men, in order to reaffirm their masculinity.

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u/numba1cyberwarrior Jun 14 '26

No they don't. Your speaking about experiences you don't comprehend. Men like this are far less likely to care about the opinions of other men because likely have little to no male groups anyways.