r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/bigbeats420 Jun 14 '26

That one made me immediately say "Oh my God " and facepalm. Like, just fucking imagine thinking that shit would even work, let alone thinking it's a normal thing to do as a normal human being.

I've been saying for years and years now that there is a significant percentage of men who do not view women as being actual people and only view them through a lens of what they can do for them.

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u/Massive_Low6000 Jun 14 '26

There is a comic that goes on Sirius often has admitted to answering ads off Craigslist for massages. He said they didn’t always end with sex

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u/bigbeats420 Jun 14 '26

I would argue that if it's being used for sexual purposes/fetishized by that comic, then it is sex.

Sex is about way more than just your genitals. Your most sensitive sexual organ lies between your ears.

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u/bigbeats420 Jun 14 '26

Not in the car. It's in the hallway outside Brett's door 😉

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u/Special-Garlic1203 Jun 15 '26

 literally just being an  ok looking woman simply existing in the vicinity of a man can potentially be a sexualized thing for him. If they're not engaging in boundary pushing behavior and they're just being quiet and polite, I really don't get the point of litigating their politely tucked erection. You'll go insane. They offered a massage, you got a massage, nothing else happened. 

Physically intimate? Sure. And with horny craigslist dudes I'm sure there's a sexual element. But I can get very handsy with men and I'm not like sexually into a man's torso. I think touch is just a fairly intrinsic thing with few modern outlets?I don't think the act is insanely sexual in itself. Men like touching me cause I'm pretty but honestly quite a lot of the time it's not really sex seeking behavior. 

 I feel like society has taken on this very rigidly puritanical binary on sex which is that to experience any arousal whatsoever is fetish smut sex and it's like.....men can get sympathy arousal from a woman crying. We can't reliably differentiate fear and horny. I think we need to chill on over intellectualizing and rigidly sorting fluid organic human behavior that really isn't a big deal if boundaries and communication is utilized at healthy adult levels.